As you unfolded yourself to me,
I discovered more and more beauty.
I have never seen so much
gentleness in one person.
Without even knowing it,
you were slowly making a place
for yourself in my heart.
It used to seem so hard at times
to feel so close in a relationship.
But it’s so easy to feel close to you.
I can’t tell you how nice that feels.
I realize now that I had never known
what it meant to be loved
until I was loved by you.
– Laura Baker –
What Is Your Soul Type? Quiz
Are you a Hunter or a Visionary? A Peacemaker or a Bright Star? Find out with this fascinating quiz that helps you understand more about who you truly, deeply are.
You may want to share this quiz with friends and loved ones. Learn more about your own soul-nature here:
If you are a FIRE SIGN, do you
* Sometimes feel negative and often find something to complain about?
* Find that you are either extremely encouraging or extremely discouraging of others and their actions?
* Dream of the perfect mate even though you are disappointed again and again when others let you down?
If this sounds most like you, then you are a RETROSPECTIVE SOUL. (Retrospectives get their name from their tendency to look backward, sometimes holding on to old hurts.)
Or do you
* Feel compelled to express your artistic temperament?
* Think you are sometimes unrealistic in your expectations of people and situations?
* Find that you often look through rose-colored glasses to try to see only the best in someone? If this sounds most like you, then you are a DREAMING SOUL.
Or do you
* Think of yourself as positive and outgoing, especially in difficult circumstances?
* Love to be center stage, even if it is at the expense of others?
* Need accolades and a partner who gives you their full attention? If this sounds most like you, then you are a BRIGHT STAR SOUL.
IF you are an EARTH SIGN, do you
* Love a challenge and strive to conquer it at all costs?
* Motivate others with your enthusiasm but move on if they hold you up or disrupt your plans?
* Need freedom and flexibility in any personal relationship? If this sounds most like you, then you are a HUNTER SOUL.
Or do you
* Take a while to decide on the right career path?
* Think of yourself as a social organizer who will call others even if they don’t call you?
* Need reassurance and security, as you’re not always sure of your own value? If this sounds most like you, then you are a VISIONARY SOUL.
Or do you
* Naturally take charge of most situations?
* Find that you are usually the first one to volunteer?
* Need to be involved with your partner and have real communication? If this sounds most like you, then you are a WARRIOR SOUL.
IF you are an AIR SIGN, do you
* Very often wonder if the grass might be greener someplace other than where you are?
* Not really need the security of a house, home, or family?
* Consider yourself romantic and love the idea of romance but find it difficult to commit to a single relationship? If this sounds most like you, then you are a TRAVELER SOUL.
Or do you
* Feel content to be wherever you are at any given moment?
* Avoid conflict of any kind in order to keep stability both at home and at work?
* Need a stable partner who is totally committed to you, even if the relationship is not perfect? If this sounds most like you, then you are a PROPHET SOUL.
Or do you
* Need the opportunity to try out new and innovative ideas?
* Value stability and almost always feel like things are stable?
* Openly and easily share your emotions, and need a grounded home life? If this sounds most like you, then you are a NEWBORN SOUL.
If you are a WATER SIGN, do you
* Always find yourself interested in others?
* Like to involve yourself with worthwhile projects, and love to philosophize and intellectualize things?
* Want a relationship, but like to hold back, and find it hard to share inner feelings? If this sounds most like you, then you are a SEEKER SOUL.
Or do you
* Feel like your main focus is on marriage and family, even on social occasions?
* Work with children, or in a teaching, caring, or nurturing profession?
* Enjoy nurturing your family? If this sounds most like you, then you are a PEACEMAKER SOUL.
Or do you
* Like company, but feel you can be just as happy doing your own thing by yourself?
* Get involved with several projects at once, finding it hard to say no?
* Like to make the rules in your relationship? If this sounds most like you, then you are an OLD SOUL.
Better than ever
If you’re in a pattern that’s taking you nowhere, it’s time to create a new pattern. That’s not nearly as difficult as it might initially sound.
You are the person who is keeping yourself stuck in an unproductive pattern. You are the person who can move quickly, decisively and permanently to something much better.
Stop and take an honest, objective look at what you’re doing. If you had a good friend who was doing the same kinds of things, think of the advice you would give that friend.
One big reason you keep doing what doesn’t work is because it feels comfortable. So remind yourself that continuing in a negative, unproductive and unfulfilling pattern will make you extremely uncomfortable in the long run.
Comfort feels nice, and yet fulfillment and meaningful achievement feel thousands of times better. Your life is meant to be filled with the richness of new experiences, not just the comfort of familiar routines.
Get yourself out of that same old pattern and get yourself on a path that will resonate with your passion. You owe it to yourself, and to all of life, to continue becoming better than ever.
— Ralph Marston
Putting People on a Pedestal
Allowing Our Loved Ones to Be Human
When you put somebody on a pedestal it is giving away your power and saying you are not good enough.
When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don’t seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Often times we put spiritual leaders and our gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually “perfect,“ the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is—a phase. It’s when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise.
Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don’t allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is.
We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals—we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships.
I wanted to take a second and tell you about the upcoming posts. I have had several emails and comments regarding individuals wanting to rekindle their relationships. Of course, all of them are Witches and they do not want to use a Love Spell. I can understand that completely and I definitely do respect that. They wanted to know if I had any suggestions on how to do this without using a Love Spell. I told them I did and I would post them here on the site. Since there were so many it is hard to answer back individually. Most of what I have to offer is lotions, potions, meditations and the such. Each of these have some use of magick in them. But they do not interfere with someone’s free will.
The posts I am getting ready to do are for adults. I got jumped one time for warning our readers about up coming “adult” posts. I was told we are all adults and I shouldn’t have to make that statement. I know I shouldn’t but I always do and always will. Purely out of respect for those who are not interested in that type of material. They do contain language, nothing vulgar, but adult and I normally do not post material like this. But there are so many that have lost the fire, that special spark in their relationships. They want it back so bad. I can understand the spark in my own relationship has been dead for years. The last back surgery I had sort of ended that. But I can understand the need for just wanting to be held again or told, “I love you” one more time.
I sincerely believe that what has happened to our relationships is due to the times we now live in. Each of us have extreme amounts of stress on us. If not for problems at work, then it might be the aggravating drive home from work, it could be a number of things. All of our stress triggers are different. To have a chance at getting that special spark back in these days and times is a very precious dream. We need it to survive, we are humans and we crave companionship. We crave to love and be loved. So if there is a chance for that and I can help out in anyway, I am going to do it.
I sincerely hope this information helps everyone. Today, I am going to post a few real quick. I lucked out for a change and found some already typed up in our old group on Yuku. So I won’t have to do any typing this time but probably the next. Again, I sincerely hope and pray they do help some of you. And if these don’t help you, we will keep trying to we do get one that helps.
Your Ancient Symbol Card for Today
The elegant Swan is an ideal symbol of beauty and grace. Its flowing curves and fluid movement give an ethereal air of perfection realized. The Swan’s beauty embodies the feminine (Yin) qualities of intuition and sensitivity. But The Swan does not begin life as a creature who appears to be the creation of divine inspiration. Indeed at birth The Swan is an ungainly creature that lacks any indications of the magnificent being it is destined to become. The Swan’s transformation from ordinary to extraordinary have made it an emblem of discovering the beauty and power of your true self.
As a daily card, The Swan is a reminder of the beauty, creativity and power your true self embodies. In this period it is best to let the real you rule and be known to all–to remember who you really are and what you are really about. The Swan also marks a time when your creative powers may be at their zenith.
You don’t have to go somewhere special to be somewhere special. Wherever you happen to be has a unique and valuable beauty all its own.
You don’t have to do anything special to experience how truly great and special life is. Even in the ordinary things there is always extraordinary richness to be found.
Just the sensation of the warm sun on your skin is amazing. And that’s something you can feel anywhere on the face of the Earth.
There’s no need to wait until some special moment to experience life in all its glory. The fact is, you can make any moment special just by giving your love and authenticity to it.
Look around you, wherever you are, and you’ll see plenty of opportunities for fulfillment. What makes life special is your choice to live it fully.
Allow yourself to feel the wonder, to drink in the beauty and to experience the special time and place where you are. Life is always special, so live it accordingly.
— Ralph Marston
Pausing to Drink
Take the time today to really notice and appreciate the beauty that surrounds you.
Sometimes we go through whole days without really tuning in to the beauty of nature that surrounds us. We have a habit of seeing it without really taking it in, yet once we begin to notice it we treat ourselves to an exquisite realm of subtle, complex scents, miraculous forms, and ethereal light. The natural world enriches our entire being through the vehicles of our senses. When we are low, nature lifts our spirits. When we are tired, it rejuvenates us—if we pause long enough to drink from its beauty. If you have fallen out of the practice of taking time to observe the light as it filters through the leaves of a tree, or the concentric rings a raindrop makes as it plops into a puddle, you can retune yourself by dedicating a day to noticing the beauty in nature.
On this day, one possibility is to rise early enough to see the sunrise. Watching the sky change colors and the world emerge from darkness is an experience that will influence the whole rest of your day in ways that words cannot describe. Or simply observe the quality of the morning light as it infuses the world with its particular pale golden beauty. You may let the light play on your own hand, remembering that you are also part of the natural world. Let your intuition guide you to the elements of nature that call to you throughout the day, such as the sound of the wind as it shakes and sways a tree or the feeling of snowflakes landing on your warm eyelids and cheeks.
After you devote one day to opening your eyes more fully to the beauty of nature, you may want to make this part of your daily routine. Each day drink from the beauty all around you, and allow it to rejuvenate your entire being. All you have to do is pause, for just one minute, and really take it in, remembering to thank Mother Nature for her beauty.
53: A Steady Pace
Monday, Feb 11th, 2013
Like an ancient old-growth forest — where the subtle play of light, texture and shadows is the product of a process measured in centuries and inches — most things of lasting value develop gradually, at their own pace. The ability to learn from experience — one of humanity’s greatest capacities — implies constant yet gradual progress. The combination of stillness within and determination without are the essence of this dynamic. Good things sometimes sprout quickly; the truly delightful take much longer.
The principle of gradual development applies also to human relationships. For love and marriage or any important partnership to endure, progress must be slow but steady: slow enough to allow for the bonds to knit properly; steady enough to keep moving in the right direction.
You can’t expect to have everything all at once. Development must be allowed to take its proper course and allotted time; events must neither be rushed nor manipulated, but allowed to unfold naturally. In this way, you will come to enjoy long-lasting relationships and achieve success.
The beauty within you
Let the beauty within you unfold into this day. Feel how it is to be alive, in ways you have never experienced before.
Imagine what you would do if you could do whatever you imagine. Then let go of your fears and mistaken thoughts of limitation, and live the best of what you imagine.
Stop worrying and complaining about what you cannot do. Focus on the miraculous possibilities of what you can do.
Let yourself be filled with joy just because you can be. Let yourself feel life’s innate goodness in every moment and every experience.
Remind yourself how rich you are. Feel the true immensity of your good fortune, and you won’t be able to feel any worry or fear.
Let your life on the outside be a faithful reflection of the limitless nature of your inner spirit. Live like who you truly are, and know how very good and rich it is.
— Ralph Marston
The Daily Motivator
Good Morning, my dears! How are you doing this morning? Me, I have been relaxing by watching the fish swim around in the aquarium. I have a 50 gallon aquarium and I love to sit and just watch the fish swim. It is so relaxing and soothing. I feel like a new person after watching them swim for a bit. The only problem is Razzy has learned what I am watching. I expect to hear her screaming one day because she has decided to go fishing. Then she realizes all cats hate water, lol! It is like the funny farm around here at times. If it ain’t the critters, it’s the people.
I felt so relaxed this morning that I looked at some graphics then when over to the Pinterest page. You know at first Pinterest made no sense to me whatsoever. I first heard about it on our local News Station. But now that I have got use to doing it, I have become an addict. I have found it is much easier to get your message across in photos than in words. But I truly enjoying doing it. I hope some of you have been over there to check it out. I love the photos I have uploaded of the animals we have took in here at the refuge. There is a picture of little baby barn owls. They are so ugly when they are first born and for about 4 weeks later. They have a face only a mother could love. But I have learned something from them. No matter how ugly the situation or person, there is beauty just waiting to blossom. All you have to do is have patience and nurture it, the beauty will eventually emerge.
Thinking about those little owls and the lesson I have learned from them. It gives me hope for tomorrow. I know no matter how ugly the world might get, there is still beauty left in it. All we have to do is look for it. When we find it, nurture it and care for it, then let others see it. Let the beauty in the world become a chain reaction, let it shine on the world. Let us take time today to see the Goddess’ beauty and love and then let it shine on the world. Spreading peace and love throughout.
I will leave you this Celtic blessing. Good day, my family!
If there is righteousness in the heart,
there will be beauty in the character.
If there is beauty in the character,
there will be harmony in the home.
If there is harmony in the home,
there will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
there will be peace in the world.
So let it be
The Dance of Intimacy
Coming Back to Center in a Relationship
In a long-term relationship it is often necessary to get back to basics and come back to center with each other.
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows that the dance of intimacy involves coming together and moving apart. Early in a relationship, intense periods of closeness are important in order to establish the ground of a new union. Just as a sapling needs a lot more attention than a full-grown tree, budding relationships demand time and attention if they are to fully take root. Once they become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again, to the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy. Yet, if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.
In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and care if they are to thrive.
One of the best ways to nourish a relationship is through communication. If you feel that a distance has grown between you and your partner, you may be able to bridge the gap by sharing how you feel. Do your best to avoid blame and regret. Focus instead on the positive, which is the fact that you want to grow closer together. Sometimes, just acknowledging that there is distance between you has the effect of bringing the relationship into balance. In other cases, more intense effort and attention may be required. You may want to set aside time to talk and come up with solutions together. Remember to have compassion for each other. You’re in the same boat together and trying to maintain the right balance of space and togetherness to keep your relationship healthy and thriving. Express faith and confidence in each other, and enjoy the slow dance of intimacy that can resume between the two of you.
Monday, Nov 19th, 2012
The attraction is strong, but the relationship is not destined to last. So, be careful — the magnetism of polarized forces may not be what it seems. An apparently harmless, but potentially dangerous, energy has attracted attention to itself and is pulling on a stronger one. The ancient image is of a bold but immature girl who uses her charms to gain influence with a stable, powerful man. The man dallies with her, thinking that it can do him no harm. Ha, famous last thoughts! When power shifts into the hands of those unprepared for it, harm comes to all parties.
Still, you need not fear meetings with those whose positions are widely different from your own, as long as you can remain free of ulterior motives.
Be especially wary of temptations that arise because of your connections to important people. Generally, it is best to combat such temptations by snipping them in the bud before they can flower. Just as soon as a dangerous liaison presents itself is the time to take note and speak up. On the other hand, there are times when the meeting of the yielding and the strong turn out to be opportunities for truly positive and constructive relationships. The difference between careless connection and a relationship of depth lies in the motives of the heart. How sincere are you?
A Relationship with Self
By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.
The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.
Perhaps at no other time in history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, while living alone. We can now support ourselves financially, socially, and emotionally without needing a spouse for survival in any of these realms. With this freedom, we can pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners, creative cohorts, and neighbors. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.
As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth. We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships. When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths and encounter uncharted territory. Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not. Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship—the one with our true selves.