Tag: Advice

Divination Journal

Lady Carla Beltane picks out the symbol, rune, tarot card, etc., but the information is from the website in the hyperlink. The description of these is one person’s view on them.

Tarot Card

Source: tarotatlas.com

Wheel of Fortune – Major Arcana

Wheel of Fortune Upright Meaning Explained

Be ready for positive changes! The presence of the Wheel of Fortune tarot upright signals that you’ve got to get ready for good news. The cards are here to congratulate you for having good karma. The Wheel of Fortune meaning in this position says you should use this lucky time to chase your dreams. If you were waiting for the opportunity to take the next step, you need to act now!

The card upright also reminds us about the inevitability of life changes. It means that if you are feeling great, you need to be grateful for this moment. Live it to the fullest as nothing lasts forever, and that’s one of life’s gifts to you. Cherish the blessings and appreciate the opportunities given.

While the Wheel of Fortune tarot card is also the symbol of karma, expect to receive back certain events according to the ways you treat others. Suppose in the past you invested some good energy into something or somebody, then now you’ll get back what you have put. The card’s advice is to plant seeds of good karma and not mistreat others. The lesson of the Wheel of Fortune is ‘what goes around comes around’.

For love, the Wheel of Fortune tarot meaning upright embodies the need for change in your relationships. By making a bold move towards something new, you can enter a new level of intimacy and trust with your significant other. So if you have something in mind don’t hesitate to choose new opportunities for both of you. In some ways, the card calms down those who are worried about eventual changes in their love life. It’s not the end! The wheel will move and the situation will switch as well.

Wheel of Fortune tarot card meaning for career signifies that you need to adapt to changes and go with the flow.

Wheel of Fortune Reversed Meaning Explained

This too shall pass! Wheel of Fortune tarot meaning upside down can signal about the unforeseen setback of something important. You may experience mishaps and downswings. Sometimes we’re not on top in life, and it is natural. Changes will come unexpectedly, but for now, you need to be patient and accept the situation.

The card may embody one’s fear of change or symbolize an indecisive and passive person who is too lazy to change their status. The current situation may negatively affect an individual, forcing them to panic. The card signifies the maturity test and teaches you a lesson of acceptance.

According to the card in this position, there are zero chances of achieving the goal. It may signify the start of an unfavorable period and warn you not to begin anything new.

For a relationship, the card signifies outer events that may affect your union. You can’t control it, only keep in mind that this too shall pass. The best you can do for now is learn the lesson and let it go. Once you embrace and accept changes, the wheel will turn. If you’re a single person, Wheel of Fortune upside down means you may meet someone.

Wheel of Fortune tarot meaning reversed signifies the period of stagnation in your career. Maybe you need to reconsider your working opportunities or have some rest. Anyway, this is not the time to initiate significant career changes. You had better wait for new opportunities and stay patient.

Animal Spirit Guide or Helper

Source: spiritanimal.info

Wolf

The wolf offers some of the most striking animal meanings in the realm of spirit animals. The power of the wolf brings forth…

What is the wolf spirit animal meaning?

The wolf is a powerful and inspiring spirit animal that can bring both positive and negative symbolism into our lives.

Positive symbolism of the wolf spirit animal:

  • Sharp intelligence, deep connection with instincts
  • Appetite for freedom
  • Courage and resilience
  • Wisdom
  • Insight
  • Inner wisdom
  • Community and connection
  • Leadership
  • Determination
  • Adaptability

Negative symbolism of the wolf spirit animal:

  • Isolation
  • Greed and selfishness
  • Dishonesty or deception
  • Feeling threatened
  • Lack of trust in someone or in yourself
  • Dominance
  • Control

Remember, it’s important to embrace both the positive and negative aspects of the wolf spirit animal, as they can both provide…

Positive symbolism of the wolf spirit animal…

A power animal symbolic of freedom…

An example of determination and resilience…

A symbol of community and connection…

A guide to embracing our instincts…

Rune

Source: runedictionary.com

Fehu

Fehu Rune Meaning

… Its shape is an upright line with two diagonal lines branching off to the upper left. Phonetically, it corresponds to the “F” sound.

Fehu is traditionally associated with cattle. In ancient times, cattle were a primary measure of wealth and prosperity. Therefore, Fehu symbolizes material abundance, success, and the rewards of hard work.

However, abundance goes beyond physical riches. Fehu embodies the fulfillment that comes from achieving your goals and the importance of maintaining a balance between acquiring and sharing wealth. It serves as a reminder that true prosperity only grows through circulation and generosity.

Wealth brings the most happiness when it’s shared.

Witches Rune

Source: reliquarycurios.com

Eye

Planet: X

Sign: YOURS

Element: ALL ELEMENTS | Answer: YES

The rune of destiny, of pure magic and the heart of all things. The power and clarity of your third eye is…

Ogham

Source: DruidOgham.wordpress.com

Ngetal

Healing, cleaning, cleansing, catharsis, paring down

Tree: Broom (Cytisus spp.)

Letter: Ng

Like when a fever breaks, broom signifies the end of a struggle and the subsequent ability to clear out the junk to make way for a newer, more positive approach. Walking a way from a bad habit or situation can be painful, but not necessarily so. It may also be gradual. Overall, Ngetal is the importance of getting rid of old junk and baggage (this could be actual clutter or psychological baggage, which of course are intimately linked) or it could mean the resolution of action against someone who has wronged you, whether it is forgiveness or cutting and clearing them out of your life. If it is forgiveness, Ngetal suggests it is coming from a genuine place of inner peace. Apologizing does not necessarily make you an apologist.

There is a process of analysis and reflection that eventually distances anger and enables you to feel it without being puppeted by it. Letting go of attachments that aren’t healthy, for instance, an obsession with being liked for the way you look, will help you develop in ways that fulfill your purpose in this life. Ngetal could signify you are beginning to release anxieties about what you have no control over, which will go a long way in healing your spirit.

Questions when you draw Ngetal…

Ngetal ill-dignified excess: Compulsive cleanliness…

Ngetal ill-dignified dearth: Clutter…

I Ching

Source: ancientiching.com

Hexagram Twenty-Three/23

The Evil Of Fraud & Hypocrisy

Hexagram 23 appears as a warning for your life in relation to your enemies and people who just want to see you unhappy. This i Ching symbol not only wants to warn you of the danger that your enemies are, but also to guide you on the right path.

Hexagram 23 shows that you will soon unmask those people who pretend to be your friends, but who are actually your enemies. However, this symbol has more messages for you.
Enemies 15%
Unexpected Discoveries 50%
Faith 90%

Hexagram 23 Symbol…

Hexagram 23 Enemies Unexpected Discoveries Faith…

Guidance:…

Warnings:…

Hexagram 23 Message…

Hexagram 23 Message For Love & Relationships…

Numerology

Source: numerology.com

Five

Definition of 5 in Numerology

A key characteristic of the number 5 is curiosity and the need for a variety of exciting experiences in order to feel fulfilled. It craves freedom and adventure and isn’t afraid to…

Strengths

Curious:

Adaptable:

Social:

Weaknesses

Non-committal:

Unreliable:

Directionless:

Personality Traits

  • Flexible
  • Adventurous
  • Unpredictable
  • Outgoing
  • Social
  • Restless
  • Energetic
  • Independent
  • Inconsistent

Angel Number

Source: numerology.com

Five Hundred Fifty-Five

If you’ve been craving life change, the 555 angel number is your signal that it’s coming! If you haven’t been wanting things to change, don’t worry — this change isn’t necessarily bad. It still could be an unexpected shake-up, but as is the case with any transition, you can either let this situation happen to you, or you can take control and steer yourself in the right direction. The universe is helping to pave the way for a new beginning, but in order to move toward a better future you must let go of something that is no longer serving you. The 555 angel numbers is telling you to embrace this time of letting go!

Kissy, Kissy, Kissy, Happy Valentine’s Day, My Sweets! ((Great Big Bear Hug))

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You came into my life unexpectedly,
and everything took a turn for the better.
Your warm eyes, your laugh,
the sincere way you speak,
and the kindness you showed me,
all became a part of my life.

As you unfolded yourself to me,
I discovered more and more beauty.
I have never seen so much
gentleness in one person.
Without even knowing it,
you were slowly making a place
for yourself in my heart.

It used to seem so hard at times
to feel so close in a relationship.
But it’s so easy to feel close to you.
I can’t tell you how nice that feels.
I realize now that I had never known
what it meant to be loved
until I was loved by you.

– Laura Baker –

Love Poems and Quotes

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Quiz of the Day – What Is Your Soul Type?

What Is Your Soul Type? Quiz

Are you a Hunter or a Visionary? A Peacemaker or a Bright Star? Find out with  this fascinating quiz that helps you understand more about who you truly, deeply  are.

You may want to share this quiz with friends and loved ones. Learn more about  your own soul-nature here:

If you are a FIRE SIGN, do you

* Sometimes feel negative and often  find something to complain about?

* Find that you are either extremely  encouraging or extremely discouraging of others and their actions?

* Dream  of the perfect mate even though you are disappointed again and again when others  let you down?

If this sounds most like you, then you are a RETROSPECTIVE  SOUL. (Retrospectives get their name from their tendency to look backward,  sometimes holding on to old hurts.)

Or do you

* Feel compelled to express your artistic temperament?

*  Think you are sometimes unrealistic in your expectations of people and  situations?

* Find that you often look through rose-colored glasses to try  to see only the best in someone? If this sounds most like you, then you are  a DREAMING SOUL.

Or do you

* Think of yourself as positive and outgoing, especially in  difficult circumstances?

* Love to be center stage, even if it is at the  expense of others?

* Need accolades and a partner who gives you their full  attention? If this sounds most like you, then you are a BRIGHT STAR SOUL.

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IF you are an EARTH SIGN, do you

* Love a challenge  and strive to conquer it at all costs?

* Motivate others with your  enthusiasm but move on if they hold you up or disrupt your plans?

* Need  freedom and flexibility in any personal relationship? If this sounds most  like you, then you are a HUNTER SOUL.

Or do you

* Take a while to decide on the right career path?

* Think  of yourself as a social organizer who will call others even if they don’t call  you?

* Need reassurance and security, as you’re not always sure of your own  value? If this sounds most like you, then you are a VISIONARY SOUL.

Or do you

* Naturally take charge of most situations?

* Find that you  are usually the first one to volunteer?

* Need to be involved with your  partner and have real communication? If this sounds most like you, then you  are a WARRIOR SOUL.

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IF you are an AIR SIGN, do you

*  Very often wonder if the grass might be greener someplace other than where you  are?

* Not really need the security of a house, home, or family?

* Consider yourself romantic and love the idea of romance but find it difficult  to commit to a single relationship? If this sounds most like you, then you  are a TRAVELER SOUL.

Or do you

* Feel content to be wherever you are at any given moment?

* Avoid conflict of any kind in order to keep stability both at home and at  work?

* Need a stable partner who is totally committed to you, even if the  relationship is not perfect? If this sounds most like you, then you are a  PROPHET SOUL.

Or do you

* Need the opportunity to try out new and innovative ideas?

* Value stability and almost always feel like things are stable?

*  Openly and easily share your emotions, and need a grounded home life? If  this sounds most like you, then you are a NEWBORN SOUL.

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If  you are a WATER SIGN, do you

* Always find yourself interested in  others?

* Like to involve yourself with worthwhile projects, and love to  philosophize and intellectualize things?

* Want a relationship, but like to  hold back, and find it hard to share inner feelings? If this sounds most  like you, then you are a SEEKER SOUL.

Or do you

* Feel like your main focus is on marriage and family, even on  social occasions?

* Work with children, or in a teaching, caring, or  nurturing profession?

* Enjoy nurturing your family? If this sounds most  like you, then you are a PEACEMAKER SOUL.

Or do you

* Like company, but feel you can be just as happy doing your  own thing by yourself?

* Get involved with several projects at once, finding  it hard to say no?

* Like to make the rules in your relationship? If  this sounds most like you, then you are an OLD SOUL.

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Daily Motivator for December 16th – Better than ever

Better than ever

If you’re in a pattern that’s taking you nowhere, it’s time to create a new  pattern. That’s not nearly as difficult as it might initially sound.

You are the person who is keeping yourself stuck in an unproductive pattern.  You are the person who can move quickly, decisively and permanently to something  much better.

Stop and take an honest, objective look at what you’re doing. If you had a  good friend who was doing the same kinds of things, think of the advice you  would give that friend.

One big reason you keep doing what doesn’t work is because it feels  comfortable. So remind yourself that continuing in a negative, unproductive and  unfulfilling pattern will make you extremely uncomfortable in the long run.

Comfort feels nice, and yet fulfillment and meaningful achievement feel  thousands of times better. Your life is meant to be filled with the richness of  new experiences, not just the comfort of familiar routines.

Get yourself out of that same old pattern and get yourself on a path that  will resonate with your passion. You owe it to yourself, and to all of life, to  continue becoming better than ever.

— Ralph Marston

The Daily Motivator

The Daily OM for December 12th – Putting People on a Pedestal

Putting People on a Pedestal
Allowing Our Loved Ones to Be Human

by Madisyn Taylor

 

When you put somebody on a pedestal it is giving away your power and saying you are not good enough.

When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities. They just don’t seem to have any. This temporary state of grace is commonly known as putting someone on a pedestal. Often times we put spiritual leaders and our gurus on pedestals. We have all done this to someone at one time or another, and as long as we remember that no one is actually “perfect,“ the pedestal phase of a relationship can be enjoyed for what it is—a phase. It’s when we actually believe our own projection that troubles arise.

Everyone has problems, flaws, and blind spots, just as we do. When we entertain the illusion that someone is perfect, we don’t allow them room to be human, so when they make an error in judgment or act in contradiction to our idea of perfection, we become disillusioned. We may get angry or distance ourselves in response. In the end, they are not to blame for the fact that we idealized them. Granted, they may have enjoyed seeing themselves as perfect through our eyes, but we are the ones who chose to believe an illusion. If you go through this process enough times, you learn that no one is perfect. We are all a combination of divine and human qualities and we all struggle. When we treat the people we love with this awareness, we actually allow for a much greater intimacy than when we held them aloft on an airy throne. The moment you see through your idealized projection is the moment you begin to see your loved one as he or she truly is.

We cannot truly connect with a person when we idealize them. In life, there are no pedestals—we are all walking on the same ground together. When we realize this, we can own our own divinity and our humanity. This is the key to balance and wholeness within ourselves and our relationships.

The Daily OM

Just a Quick Note (I Hope!)

I wanted to take a second and tell you about the upcoming posts. I have had several emails and comments regarding individuals wanting to rekindle their relationships. Of course, all of them are Witches and they do not want to use a Love Spell. I can understand that completely and I definitely do respect that. They wanted to know if I had any suggestions on how to do this without using a Love Spell.  I told them I did and I would post them here on the site. Since there were so many it is hard to answer back individually.  Most of what I have to offer is lotions, potions, meditations and the such. Each of these have some use of magick in them. But they do not interfere with someone’s free will.

The posts I am getting ready to do are for adults. I got jumped one time for warning our readers about up coming “adult” posts. I was told we are all adults and I shouldn’t have to make that statement. I know I shouldn’t but I always do and always will. Purely out of respect for those who are not interested in that type of material. They do contain language, nothing vulgar, but adult and I normally do not post material like this. But there are so many that have lost the fire, that special spark in their relationships. They want it back so bad. I can understand the spark in my own relationship has been dead for years. The last back surgery I had sort of ended that. But I can understand the need for just wanting to be held again or told, “I love you” one more time.

I sincerely believe that what has happened to our relationships is due to the times we now live in. Each of us have extreme amounts of stress on us. If not for problems at work, then it might be the aggravating drive home from work, it could be a number of things. All of our stress triggers are different. To have a chance at getting that special spark back in these days and times is a very precious dream. We need it to survive, we are humans and we crave companionship. We crave to love and be loved. So if there is a chance for that and I can help out in anyway, I am going to do it.

I sincerely hope this information helps everyone. Today, I am going to post a few real quick. I lucked out for a change and found some already typed up in our old group on Yuku. So I won’t have to do any typing this time but probably the next. Again, I sincerely hope and pray they do help some of you. And if these don’t help you, we will keep trying to we do get one that helps.

Your Ancient Symbol Card for October 16th is The Swan

Your Ancient Symbol Card for Today

The Swan

The elegant Swan is an ideal symbol of beauty and grace. Its flowing curves and fluid movement give an ethereal air of perfection realized. The Swan’s beauty embodies the feminine (Yin) qualities of intuition and sensitivity. But The Swan does not begin life as a creature who appears to be the creation of divine inspiration. Indeed at birth The Swan is an ungainly creature that lacks any indications of the magnificent being it is destined to become. The Swan’s transformation from ordinary to extraordinary have made it an emblem of discovering the beauty and power of your true self.

As a daily card, The Swan is a reminder of the beauty, creativity and power your true self embodies. In this period it is best to let the real you rule and be known to all–to remember who you really are and what you are really about. The Swan also marks a time when your creative powers may be at their zenith.

Daily Motivator for August 22nd – Somewhere special

Somewhere special

You don’t have to go somewhere special to be somewhere special. Wherever you  happen to be has a unique and valuable beauty all its own.

You don’t have to do anything special to experience how truly great and  special life is. Even in the ordinary things there is always extraordinary  richness to be found.

Just the sensation of the warm sun on your skin is amazing. And that’s  something you can feel anywhere on the face of the Earth.

There’s no need to wait until some special moment to experience life in all  its glory. The fact is, you can make any moment special just by giving your love  and authenticity to it.

Look around you, wherever you are, and you’ll see plenty of opportunities for  fulfillment. What makes life special is your choice to live it fully.

Allow yourself to feel the wonder, to drink in the beauty and to experience  the special time and place where you are. Life is always special, so live it  accordingly.

— Ralph Marston

Daily Motivator

Daily OM for August 22nd – Pausing to Drink

Pausing to Drink

Beauty Day

by Madisyn Taylor

Take the time today to really notice and appreciate the beauty that surrounds you.

Sometimes we go through whole days without really tuning in to the beauty of nature that surrounds us. We have a habit of seeing it without really taking it in, yet once we begin to notice it we treat ourselves to an exquisite realm of subtle, complex scents, miraculous forms, and ethereal light. The natural world enriches our entire being through the vehicles of our senses. When we are low, nature lifts our spirits. When we are tired, it rejuvenates us—if we pause long enough to drink from its beauty. If you have fallen out of the practice of taking time to observe the light as it filters through the leaves of a tree, or the concentric rings a raindrop makes as it plops into a puddle, you can retune yourself by dedicating a day to noticing the beauty in nature.

On this day, one possibility is to rise early enough to see the sunrise. Watching the sky change colors and the world emerge from darkness is an experience that will influence the whole rest of your day in ways that words cannot describe. Or simply observe the quality of the morning light as it infuses the world with its particular pale golden beauty. You may let the light play on your own hand, remembering that you are also part of the natural world. Let your intuition guide you to the elements of nature that call to you throughout the day, such as the sound of the wind as it shakes and sways a tree or the feeling of snowflakes landing on your warm eyelids and cheeks.

After you devote one day to opening your eyes more fully to the beauty of nature, you may want to make this part of your daily routine. Each day drink from the beauty all around you, and allow it to rejuvenate your entire being. All you have to do is pause, for just one minute, and really take it in, remembering to thank Mother Nature for her beauty.

Your I Ching Hexagram for February 11th is 53: A Steady Pace

53: A Steady Pace

Monday, Feb 11th, 2013

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Like an ancient old-growth forest — where the subtle play of light, texture and shadows is the product of a process measured in centuries and inches — most things of lasting value develop gradually, at their own pace. The ability to learn from experience — one of humanity’s greatest capacities — implies constant yet gradual progress. The combination of stillness within and determination without are the essence of this dynamic. Good things sometimes sprout quickly; the truly delightful take much longer.

The principle of gradual development applies also to human relationships. For love and marriage or any important partnership to endure, progress must be slow but steady: slow enough to allow for the bonds to knit properly; steady enough to keep moving in the right direction.

You can’t expect to have everything all at once. Development must be allowed to take its proper course and allotted time; events must neither be rushed nor manipulated, but allowed to unfold naturally. In this way, you will come to enjoy long-lasting relationships and achieve success.

Daily Motivator for February 4th – The beauty within you

The beauty within you

Let the beauty within you unfold into this day. Feel how it is to be alive,  in ways you have never experienced before.

Imagine what you would do if you could do whatever you imagine. Then let go  of your fears and mistaken thoughts of limitation, and live the best of what you  imagine.

Stop worrying and complaining about what you cannot do. Focus on the  miraculous possibilities of what you can do.

Let yourself be filled with joy just because you can be. Let yourself feel  life’s innate goodness in every moment and every experience.

Remind yourself how rich you are. Feel the true immensity of your good  fortune, and you won’t be able to feel any worry or fear.

Let your life on the outside be a faithful reflection of the limitless nature  of your inner spirit. Live like who you truly are, and know how very good  and rich it is.

— Ralph Marston

The Daily Motivator

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Good Sunday Morning Dear Friends & Family! May The Goddess Bless Your Day!

Good Morning, my dears! How are you doing this morning? Me, I have been relaxing by watching the fish swim around in the aquarium. I have a 50 gallon aquarium and I love to sit and just watch the fish swim. It is so relaxing and soothing. I feel like a new person after watching them swim for a bit. The only problem is Razzy has learned what I am watching. I expect to hear her screaming one day because she has decided to go fishing. Then she realizes all cats hate water, lol! It is like the funny farm around here at times. If it ain’t the critters, it’s the people.

I felt so relaxed this morning that I looked at some graphics then when over to the Pinterest page. You know at first Pinterest made no sense to me whatsoever. I first heard about it on our local News Station. But now that I have got use to doing it, I have become an addict. I have found it is much easier to get your message across in photos than in words. But I truly enjoying doing it. I hope some of you have been over there to check it out. I love the photos I have uploaded of the animals we have took in here at the refuge. There is a picture of little baby barn owls. They are so ugly when they are first born and for about 4 weeks later. They have a face only a mother could love. But I have learned something from them. No matter how ugly the situation or person, there is beauty just waiting to blossom. All you have to do is have patience and nurture it, the beauty will eventually emerge.

Thinking about those little owls and the lesson I have learned from them. It gives me hope for tomorrow. I know no matter how ugly the world might get, there is still beauty left in it. All we have to do is look for it. When we find it, nurture it and care for it, then let others see it. Let the beauty in the world become a chain reaction, let it shine on the world. Let us take time today to see the Goddess’ beauty and love and then let it shine on the world. Spreading peace and love throughout.

I will leave you this Celtic blessing. Good day, my family!

 

If there is righteousness in the heart,
there will be beauty in the character.
If there is beauty in the character,
there will be harmony in the home.
If there is harmony in the home,
there will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
there will be peace in the world.
So let it be

Daily OM for November 19th – The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy

Coming Back to Center in a Relationship

by Madisyn Taylor

In a long-term relationship it is often necessary to get back to basics and come back to center with each other.

 

Anyone in a long-term relationship knows that the dance of intimacy involves coming together and moving apart. Early in a relationship, intense periods of closeness are important in order to establish the ground of a new union. Just as a sapling needs a lot more attention than a full-grown tree, budding relationships demand time and attention if they are to fully take root. Once they become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again, to the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy. Yet, if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.

In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and care if they are to thrive.

One of the best ways to nourish a relationship is through communication. If you feel that a distance has grown between you and your partner, you may be able to bridge the gap by sharing how you feel. Do your best to avoid blame and regret. Focus instead on the positive, which is the fact that you want to grow closer together. Sometimes, just acknowledging that there is distance between you has the effect of bringing the relationship into balance. In other cases, more intense effort and attention may be required. You may want to set aside time to talk and come up with solutions together. Remember to have compassion for each other. You’re in the same boat together and trying to maintain the right balance of space and togetherness to keep your relationship healthy and thriving. Express faith and confidence in each other, and enjoy the slow dance of intimacy that can resume between the two of you.

Daily OM

Today’s I Ching Hexagram for November 19th is 44: Liaison

44: Liaison

Monday, Nov 19th, 2012

The attraction is strong, but the relationship is not destined to last. So, be careful — the magnetism of polarized forces may not be what it seems. An apparently harmless, but potentially dangerous, energy has attracted attention to itself and is pulling on a stronger one. The ancient image is of a bold but immature girl who uses her charms to gain influence with a stable, powerful man. The man dallies with her, thinking that it can do him no harm. Ha, famous last thoughts! When power shifts into the hands of those unprepared for it, harm comes to all parties.

Still, you need not fear meetings with those whose positions are widely different from your own, as long as you can remain free of ulterior motives.

Be especially wary of temptations that arise because of your connections to important people. Generally, it is best to combat such temptations by snipping them in the bud before they can flower. Just as soon as a dangerous liaison presents itself is the time to take note and speak up. On the other hand, there are times when the meeting of the yielding and the strong turn out to be opportunities for truly positive and constructive relationships. The difference between careless connection and a relationship of depth lies in the motives of the heart. How sincere are you?

Daily OM for November 9th – Being Alone

Being Alone

A Relationship with Self

by Madisyn Taylor

By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

 

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

Perhaps at no other time in history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, while living alone. We can now support ourselves financially, socially, and emotionally without needing a spouse for survival in any of these realms. With this freedom, we can pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners, creative cohorts, and neighbors. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.

As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth. We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships. When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths and encounter uncharted territory. Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not. Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship—the one with our true selves.

Today’s I Ching Hexagram for 30 ~ 53: A Steady Pace

53: A Steady Pace

Like an ancient old-growth forest — where the subtle play of light, texture and shadows is the product of a process measured in centuries and inches — most things of lasting value develop gradually, at their own pace. The ability to learn from experience — one of humanity’s greatest capacities — implies constant yet gradual progress. The combination of stillness within and determination without are the essence of this dynamic. Good things sometimes sprout quickly; the truly delightful take much longer.

The principle of gradual development applies also to human relationships. For love and marriage or any important partnership to endure, progress must be slow but steady: slow enough to allow for the bonds to knit properly; steady enough to keep moving in the right direction.

You can’t expect to have everything all at once. Development must be allowed to take its proper course and allotted time; events must neither be rushed nor manipulated, but allowed to unfold naturally. In this way, you will come to enjoy long-lasting relationships and achieve success.

Best Friends

Best Friends

 

A Warm Refuge

 

by Madisyn Taylor

 

Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves.

 

By the time we reach adulthood, many of us have had the good fortune to have at least one best friend. If we have moved around or changed our life situation repeatedly, we may be lucky enough to have had several. The best friend relationship is often our earliest intimate peer relationship, and it can be a source of great warmth and connection throughout our lives. The details of best friendship change as we grow up and grow older, but the heart of it remains the same. Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves, to share our deepest secrets, to rest when we are tired, to celebrate when we are happy—a place in which we feel utterly welcome to give and receive that most precious of all gifts, love.

Most intimate relationships hit bumps from time to time, and one of the hallmarks of an enduring best friendship is its ability to ride out the turbulence and remain intact even as it faces changes. Our best friends are those who manage to love us through all of our transitions, as we do the same for them. We find ways to embrace and appreciate the differences that set us apart and offer love and support no matter what. We allow each other to be exactly as we are at a given moment, even as we allow each other to change over time. In this way, best friends sometimes feel like family. We know we will stick together regardless of where our individual paths lead.

We may be on the phone with our best friends every day, or we may not have spoken for a year, yet we know that our bond will be strong and immediate when we do connect. This bond ties us together even when we are apart and draws us blissfully back into the warm refuge of each other’s company when our paths bring us together again.

 

 

Quiz of the Day for Oct. 2 – ‘Needy Child or Healthy Adult?’

Needy Child or Healthy Adult? Quiz

by Annie B. Bond

 

What part of you is the most activated in your relationships, the needy child or the healthy adult? Most of us still have unmet childhood needs roiling around inside us that can color and affect our relationships, while the more mature part of us tries to deal with things in a healthier way. Answer these questions to see where you are in the spectrum of relationships. Take the quiz here:

Which of the following statements might you make to your partner in a love relationship?

1. End my loneliness.

2. Be my companion while both of us respect each other’s need to be alone at times.

3. Make me feel good.

4. I take responsibility for my own feelings and don’t expect or need to feel good all the time.

5. Give in to me.

6. Negotiate with me.

7. Never betray me, lie to me, or disappoint me.

8. I accept you as fallible and seek to address, process, and resolve issues with you.

9. Help me not to have fear. I depend on you.

10. Help me to learn to love. We depend on each other.

11. Totally fulfill my needs.

12. Moderately fulfill my needs.

13. Help me repeat old, painful scenarios from childhood and former relationships.

14. I have mourned the past, learned from it, and now want something better.

15. Indulge my ego.

16. Confront and free my ego.

If you answered mostly odd-numbered statements, your inner child is saying, “I am looking for stability outside myself. I demand 100 percent of my need fulfillment from my partner.”

If you answered mostly even-numbered statements, your healthy adult is saying, “I am looking for a setting that honors and enriches the stability I have inside. I hope to get about 25 percent of my need fulfillment from my partner.”