Let's Talk Witch – The Magick Within You

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The Magick Within You

In order to use your magic you must be able to meditate and concentrate. You must be able to visualize the magic; see what you want to have happen, happen in your mind. With your concentration, you will be able build a huge amount of energy that you can use for your magic.

Once there is enough energy build up, direct it to the place you want it to go. History says that Wiccans used to make use of “athame” a special ritual knife for directing their magic. If you don’t have an athame, you can use your finger. Remember, the magic is in you, not the tools that you use.

Also keep in mind, never use magic to hurt people, though you could be kidding about turning them into frogs (you wish you could!), but the psychology of the person you teased can really be disturbed. Hence use your finger for the good of people, never point at someone even if you’ve got something uncommon going on.

The change that magic can bring about is not something a person can easily understand. You have so much power within you and with that power you can do so much. Some of us decide to unleash our powers while others, because of lack of proper advice, because of rumours stay back and watch their lives go on without any change…

As a Wiccan, you must follow ethical codes. You should only use your magic for betterment and never to hurt. You must remember this always. The power of magic is so immense, so great that if you master it, people will feel it. Whether they’re close to you or not, they will feel you and your powers.

Try doing this, if you throw a stone in the water, you will see ripples moving away from the centre of where you threw the stone. Now the stone is your magic, you are the centre and the ripples are your energy and power. Imagine your energy moving away from you and as they move out, the affect everything that the come across. You have it in you to change the lives of people.

You do create the magic and restore the health and happiness of people you care for or those who seek you to help them. Like in Spiderman, I’d like to quote that “with great power, comes great responsibility”; the responsibility to adhere to your ethics, towards mankind, animals, the Earth and yourself.

Energy Healing, Herbal Magic & Protection Charms – A Wiccan Practical Guide (The Practical Wicca series) Audrin, Alice F.

Magickal Correspondence for Friday, August 9th

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Magickal Correspondence for Friday, August 9th

Magickal Intentions: Love, Romance, Marriage, Sexual Matters, Physical Beauty, Friendship and Partnerships, Strangers and Heart
Incense: Strawberry, Sandalwood, Rose, Saffron and Vanilla
Planet: Venus
Sign: Libra and Taurus
Angel: Ariel
Colors: Green, Pink, Aqua
Herbs/Plants: Pink Rose, Ivy, Birch, Heather, Clematis, Sage, Violet and Water Lilly Stones: Rose Quartz, Moonstone, Pink Tourmaline, Peridot, Emerald and Jade
Oil: (Venus) Cardamom, Palmrosa, Rose, Yarrow

Friday belongs to Venus, and its energies are warm, sensuous, and fulfilling. Efforts that involve any type of pleasure, comfort, and luxury, as well as the arts, music, or aroma (incense and perfume) works well on this day. As Venus lends its sensuous influences to the energies of this day, use it for any magical work that deals with matters of the heart.

The Witches Almanac for Friday, August 9th

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The Witches Almanac for Friday, August 9th

Friday (Venus): Love, friendship, reconciliation and beauty.

Nagasaki Peace Ceremony

Waxing Moon

The Waxing Moon is the ideal time for magick to draw things toward you.

Moon Phase: First Quarter

Moon Sign: Virgo

Virgo: Favors accomplishment of details and commands from higher up. Focuses on health, hygiene, and daily schedules.

Incense: Cypress

Color: Pink

A Pledge to Pagan Spirituality


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A Pledge to Pagan Spirituality

I am a Pagan and I dedicate myself to channeling the Spiritual Energy of my Inner Self to help and to heal myself and others. I know that I am part of the Whole of Nature. May I grow in understanding of the Unity of all Nature. May I always walk in Balance.

May I always be mindful of the diversity of Nature as well as its Unity and may I always be tolerant of those whose race, appearance, sex, sexual preference, culture, and other ways differ from my own.

May I use the Force (psychic power) wisely and never use it for aggression nor for malevolent purposes. May I never direct it to curtail the free will of another.

May I always be mindful that I create my own reality and that I have the power within me to create positively in my life.

May I always act in honorable ways: being honest with myself and others, keeping my word whenever I have given it, fulfilling all responsibilities and commitments I have taken on to the best of my ability.

May I always remember that whatever is sent out always returns magnified to the sender. May the Forces of Karma move swiftly to remind me of my spiritual commitments when I have begun to falter from them, and may I use this Karmic feedback to help myself grow and be more attuned to my Inner Pagan Spirit.

May I always remain strong and committed to my Spiritual ideals in the face of adversity and negativity. May the Force of my Inner Spirit ground out all malevolence directed my way and transform it into positively. May my Inner Light shine so strongly that malevolent forces cannot even approach my sphere of existence.

May I always grow in Inner Wisdom and Understanding. May I see every problem that I face as an opportunity to develop myself spiritually in solving it.

May I always act out of Love to all other beings on this Planet – to other humans, to plants, to animals, to minerals, to elementals, to spirits, and to other entities.

May I always be mindful that the Goddess and God in all their forms dwell within me and that this divinity is reflected through my own Inner self, my Pagan Spirit.

May I always channel Love and Light from my being. May my Inner Spirit, rather than my ego self, guide all my thoughts, feelings, and actions.

SO MOTE IT BE!

Daily Feng Shui News for Aug. 9th – 'Book Lover's Day'

On this ‘Book Lover’s Day’ I thought I might share an ancient and intuitive technique for using a book to answer any of life’s concerning questions. A South American shaman once showed me how to employ these energies in my own life, so now I’d like to take a page out of that book and share this technique with you. Whenever you have a pressing personal or professional question that you just cannot seem to find a solution to, you should first grab the first book that you see. Then sit quietly in a chair with your feet planted firmly on the ground and your back straight. Keeping the book on your lap, place your left hand atop the cover and silently ask your question. Wait a few minutes and then open the book to any page. Write down the very first sentences that you see. Those sentences will have the answer to your question contained within them. This technique has always worked well for me, especially whenever I’m moving into new chapters of my life. I hope it offers a wonderful reading experience for you too.

By Ellen Whitehurst for Astrology.com

Your Animal Spirit for August 9th is Black Swan

Your Animal Spirit for Today
August 9, 2013

Black Swan

Wherever the Black Swan appears in your reading you can expect unexpected and unpredictable events to majorly impact your life in that aspect.  Beyond noting that the influences Black Swan indicates will be extraordinarily large in scope, it may be difficult to tell if the fortune it foretells will be good or bad.  Black Swan affected events may begin so subtly that they are very difficult to identify.  When trying to discover what the Black Swan portends for you, look for events that do not occur in your life regularly or at all.

Today's Tarot Card for August 9th is The Fool

The Fool

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Pamela Coleman-Smith’s artful rendition of an “innocent Fool” archetype (Rider-Waite deck) is often used to represent Tarot in general. Early classical versions of the Fool card, however, portray quite a different character — a person driven by base needs and urges, who has fallen into a state of poverty and deprivation.

In some instances, he is made out to be a carnival entertainer or a huckster. In others, he is portrayed as decrepit and vulnerable — as the cumulative result of his delusions and failures. Not until the 20th century do you see the popular Rider-Waite image of the Fool arise — that of an innocent Soul before its Fall into Matter, as yet untainted by contact with society and all its ills.

Modern decks usually borrow from the Rider-Waite imagery. Most Fool cards copy the bucolic mountainside scene, the butterfly, the potential misplaced step that will send the Fool tumbling into the unknown. Don’t forget, however, that the earlier versions of this card represented already-fallen humanity, over-identified with the material plane of existence, and beginning a pilgrimage towards self-knowledge, and eventually, wisdom. The Fool reminds us to recognize the path of personal development within ourselves — and the stage upon that path where we find ourselves — in order to energize our movement toward deeper self-realization.

For August 9th – Your Daily Horoscopes

Critical analysis empowers us to make better decisions now that the Moon is in exacting Virgo. We want to filter out feelings that are no longer useful but sweet Venus aligns with extravagant Jupiter today, nearly overwhelming us with our desires. Instead of allowing our emotions to carry us along, we may choose to limit them. Even if we restrain ourselves, we should remember that attractions are not always as neat and tidy as we might wish.

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Your drive for independence often prompts you to take extreme action. However, you may be gathering more information now in order to balance other people’s needs with your own. Fortunately, acknowledging everyone’s boundaries will allow you to express yourself more freely. Respecting the wishes of your friends and acquaintances today is the wisest way to build a strong foundation in a new relationship.

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

A roller coaster romance doesn’t sound so exciting today; neither does a get-rich-quick scheme that might turn out to be an expensive distraction. Although you like being entertained by your fantasies, you’re more interested in creating stability now than having fun. Thankfully, keeping your dreams separate from reality allows you to enjoy the best of both worlds.

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

Decisions concerning your home and family won’t come easily today, yet your choices are not as critical as they may seem. Part of the current problem stems from being caught in the middle of an unsolvable dilemma. However, once you accept the notion that resolution is not on the horizon now, you are freed from having to take any action at all. Wait and see what happens before you make your next move.

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

You can accomplish more than you expect today by micromanaging your calendar. The trick is you must execute your plan exactly as imagined. Unfortunately, if you stuff too many commitments into your tight schedule, it will only take one late appointment to mess up your whole day. It’s best to give yourself some wiggle room in advance to allow for circumstances that are beyond your control. Exercising self-restraint works to your advantage now.

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

It’s a perfect day to sit down and make a list of everything you do well. Consider this little exercise as a way of taking a personal inventory. But be completely honest and include those things about yourself you would like to improve as well. However, there is no reason to be extreme in your judgment about your shortcomings. You don’t need to make major changes now; instead play up your strengths rather than focusing on your liabilities.

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Your moods change dramatically throughout the day as you alternate between feeling positive about your goals and also struggling with your self-esteem. Since you’re often self-critical, it may seem awkward to go easy on yourself now. Even if you believe you’re doing fine, you still might bump into your inadequacies as if they belong to someone else. No matter who you are judging, continue to aspire toward greater acceptance. A compassionate heart creates the necessary space for positive change.

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You may be captivated by your imagination today and there’s little you can do to escape the spell. But don’t worry if you get lost in your dreams since they can be a very powerful source of inspiration. However, the more you attempt to cling to reality, the more annoyed you become with yourself now. Watching your fantasies unfold as if you are an unattached observer empowers you to learn how to use them to your benefit.

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

It may feel as if your friends are being overly critical of you today, but your extreme reactions are probably connected to your current sensitivity. You might believe that growing thicker skin would help, but there is a dangerous price to pay for wearing a tough exterior. It’s better to receive kind feedback from a supportive ally now than it is to get a much harsher assessment from someone else later on. Listen with an open mind and graciously accept the message as a gesture of genuine concern.

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

You might want to escape to a secluded tropical island now because there are too many details demanding your attention at work. You would rather leave this kind of micromanaging to someone else, but this is one of those times when you really need to knuckle down and do whatever is expected of you. Don’t waste energy complaining about your fate; whistle while you work and see who joins in.

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Steady reassurance from others lifts your spirits through a difficult time. Although you would love to offer your support in return, chances are that your involvement won’t come without a cost. However, you must receive the bad news along with the good. Taking a bitter pill might be just the medicine you need to see things from a fresh perspective. A change in your attitude can greatly improve the relationship dynamics.

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

Sometimes you choose to avoid intense emotional interactions because you are not as comfortable navigating the illogical realms as the rational ones. However, you’re intrigued now by digging into repressed feelings with someone you trust, for there is useful information just beneath the threshold of your perceptions. Go slowly as you explore the shadows of your life since there are crucial lessons to learn on this spiritual journey.

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

It’s no laughing matter when someone criticizes you in a way that hurts your feelings. However, the current feedback may not be as intentionally mean as it seems. It isn’t always easy to hear the truth, especially when it’s stated so matter-of-factly. Instead of focusing only on the negative, reframe it in a way that gives you somewhere positive to go. There are almost always silver linings in the dark clouds if you look hard enough to find them.

For The Weekend of Aug. 9th – 11th, Your Love Horoscopes

Weekend Love Horoscopes

August 9-11: Relationship Rehab

Maria DeSimone   Maria DeSimone on the topics of love, horoscopes, astrology

Expect a few tests this weekend in the romance department, thanks to several grouchy aspects the Moon in partnership oriented Libra will make to other planets. The good news is that you’ll focus on your relationship with your significant other because Libra is the quintessential “we” sign. The bad news is that tense aspects connected to the Moon this weekend will make careful mediation necessary in order to avoid trouble in paradise.

Saturday will be beautiful, however — especially before the evening. The Moon will connect perfectly to Mercury, allowing an easy flow of conversation with your mate. You’ll both feel comfortable speaking from the heart and your emotions will be expressed in a way that your partner is receptive to hearing.

Don’t think you got away clean, however, because late Saturday night into Sunday evening the Moon will square Pluto, oppose Uranus and square Mars, which will be anything but easy. Lover’s quarrel, anyone? A tense square between Mercury and Saturn on Sunday fortifies the idea that compromise will be difficult … but necessary.

* Your Weekend Love Horoscope is now written by counseling Astrologer Maria DeSimone, who knows love, dating and relationships better than anyone. Maria tracks the planets so you can make the right romantic moves every weekend!

Daily Cosmic Calendar for August 9th

[All times are calculated for the Pacific Daylight Zone. If you are living in a different time zone, add or subtract the necessary hours so that any timed alignment will be exact where you live.]  During every sequence of approximately 10 to 14 days, usually one 24-hour time-period is offered as nearly a vacation day by the cosmic powers-that-be. Today is one of those days when it is all right to stop worrying about many minor concerns and old problems.  Even though the Moon is in Virgo and there is a natural tendency to worry, Venus is on the rise — forming a parallel to radical-change agent Uranus (10:45AM), an inspirational, 72-degree rapport with benevolent Jupiter (just one minute later at 10:46AM), and its monthly union with the Moon (3:06PM). With Venus so strong, it is wise to realize that social urges, the creative arts and love bonds can be high on the agenda.  There is also a reason to let go of recent tensions as the Moon-Venus conjunction also begins a void-of-course lunar cycle that lasts until 6:09AM tomorrow when the Moon enters affable Libra. During this kind of void lunar cycle — containing the potent but heart-centered essence of Venusian charm and beauty — your ability to magnetically attract what you need for achievements in the fine and graphic arts is greatly enhanced.

Exploring Your Crystals

Exploring Your Crystals

For this visualisation exercise, choose one of your favourite crystals, one you already know quite well. A good place to hold the crystal for this exercise is at the solar plexus.

1. Sit in a relaxed comfortable position, holding the stone in both hands. Take a few moments just to relax and focus on the crystal in your hands.

2. Slowly let your awareness float down into the crystal until you reach a point where you seem to come to rest.

3. In your minds eye, identify how the crystal feels to you. is it warm or damp, cool or dry, smooth or rough? Take a minute or two to explore the energy of the crystal through your inner touch.

4. Now relax again and turn your attention to any quality of sound within the crystal, whether it appears to be a tone, a pulse or a tune. Is it high or low? Simple or complex? Listen to the sound of the crystal for a few moments, then relax again.

5. Take a few deep breaths, then imagine you are breathing in the crystal’s energy through your nostrils. What smell, what taste does the crystal have? Can you identify it?

6. Relax once more, then open your inner eyes. Imagine what the structure and the energy of your crystal looks like: the quality of light, the images, the landscapes, scenes and figures that may be related to you. Don’t attempt to analyze what you see. Just let the imagery play before your eyes.

7. Now become aware once more of the crystals taste, its smell, its sounds and its touch. Very gradually bring your awareness out of the crystal and become more aware of your body and the world around you. Record notes in your journal so that you may remember your experiences.

Crystal Purification Incense

Crystal Purification Incense

2 parts Frankincense

2 parts Copal

1 part Sandalwood

1 part Rosemary

1 pinch finely powdered Salt

1 sm. purified Quartz Crystal point

To use, pour a bit of the incense (leaving the crystal in the jar) onto charcoal. Smolder, and pass the crystals to be purified through the smoke, visualizing the smoke wafting away the stone’s impurities. This incense can be used in conjunction with other recommended purifying rituals, or in place of them.

Incense To Cleanse Crystal Jewelry

Incense To Cleanse Crystal Jewelry

2 parts wood aloe

1 part mace (the outside covering of nutmeg)

1 part gum arabic

1 part benzoin

Grind the ingredients together and burn in a censer or an earthenware saucer. Pass crystals and jewellery through the smoke several times visualising the fumes purifying the object. Best performed outside for the practical fact of smoke alarms.

Crystals

Crystals

A crystal is a body that is formed by the solidification of a chemical element, a compound, or a mixture of them, and has a regularly repeating internal arrangement of its atoms and often external plane faces. But it’s more than that. A crystal is one of the many bounties of the Earth’s crust. They are a powerful tool and correspond directly to the element of Earth, but also the Air, Fire and Water. Each crystal has it’s own vibration and thus each vibration corresponds to a correspondences such as healing, protection, relaxation etc. Because each crystal does have a vibration, a larger crystal is not any more powerful than a smaller one. A larger one might look better, but not everyone has the means for such a thing.

Several crystals have the same correspondences, but, to chose which one you want you must first have a look at all those crystals without touching them. See which one has an effect on you. Now, when the crystal has been chosen, or when the crystal has chosen you, you must individually have a look at the crystals, Separate the ones which you like from the ones you don’t like just by having a look at them. Then, pick up each crystal in you receptive hand, opposite to the power hand, so if you are right handed it’s your left hand, and close your hand into a gentle fist. Feel the crystals pulse, it should be like a gentle drum rhythm, it could be very fast, or slow. You will feel whether the crystal is right for you, or not. The crystals vibration will complement yours and act like a ‘lock and key’ to your aura in the sense that they will blend. The crystal will let you know if it is not for you.

A newly bought crystal should be cleansed. This could be as long as a whole moon phase, with elemental cleansings, or just a simple mental cleansing. Before buying that particular crystal, it would have been touched my many people, and been next to many people who might have been upset, angry, sad etc. So this may effect you. To cleanse, it could simply be a dip in salty water, being buried over night in the ground, gone through crystal cleansing incense (or frankincense, sandalwood or just about anything for that matter, maybe even a herbal blend for the crystals purpose), being placed on a bed of quartz crystal, being passed through a flame, fairly quickly, being brushed with a feather, being placed overnight in moon light, or sunlight. Be careful because some crystals fade or lose color from being held in the sun, some even disolve in water, or may react with the candle flame, so be careful.

Magickal Correspondence for Thursday, August 8th

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Magickal Correspondence for Thursday, August 8th

Magickal Intentions: Luck, Happiness, Health, Legal Matters, Male Fertility, Treasure and Wealth, Honor, Riches, Clothing Desires, Leadership, Public Activity, Power and Success

Incense: Cinnamon, Must, Nutmeg and Sage

Planet: Jupiter

Sign: Sagittarius and Pisces

Angel: Sachiel

Colors: Purple, Royal Blue and Indigo

Herbs/Plants: Cinnamon, Beech, Buttercup, Coltsfoot, Oak

Stones: Sugilite, Amethyst, Turquoise, Lapis Lazuli and Sapphire

Oil: (Jupiter) Clove, Lemon Balm, Oak moss, Star Anise

Jupiter presides over Thursday. The vibrations of this day attune well to all matters involving material gain. Use them for working rituals that entail general success, accomplishment, honors and awards, or legal issues. These energies are also helpful in matters of luck, gambling, and prosperity.

THURSDAY, The Day of Strength
 The Day of Jupiter

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THURSDAY

The Day of Strength
 The Day of Jupiter

thursdaeg (Anglo-Saxon) donnerstag (Germanic) dies jovis (Latin) vrihaspat-var or guru-var (Hindu) jumerat (Islamic) jeudi (French) moku youbi (Japanese)

Traditionally seen as the fifth day of the week. Originally associated with two gods, ‘Jove’ and ‘Thor’. Thor was the God of Thunder hence the day also being known a ‘Thunderday’. Jove was also known to be associated with thunder, with the French renaming the day ‘Jeudi’ which means ‘Jove’s Day’. ‘Maundy Thursday’ is the Thursday before Good Friday when in the Roman Catholic faith, the preparation of washing the feet begins. Traditionally those of high office within the church, including royalty would wash the feet of the poor on this day. In John, xiii, 34, the ceremony is outlined with ‘Mandatum novum do vobis’ meaning ‘a new commandment I give unto you’. The washing of the feet is associated with Jesus washing the feet of the poor, and also too of Mary of Magdala washing the feet of Jesus. In Germany (Europe) Thursday was believed traditionally to be the most unluckiest of the week. As a result the practice grew of ensuring that no important business should be carried out, no marriages and even that no child should be sent to school for their first time on this day. ‘Black Thursday’ was the name given to February 6 1851 in Australia when a powerful fire swept in from the bush to blaze a trail across Victoria. According to the English historian Richard Grafton certain dates of the month were unlucky as published in the ‘Manual’ in 1565. Days throughout the year were identified and of course could have related to any day of the week. The date was the most important point to consider. The work was reputed to have some credence with support given by astronomers of the day. (For more information see Mystical WWW Mystical Time : Mystical Months). Columba, or Columcille is associated with this day, as it is known that he was born on a Thursday in 521, on the 7 December. The Celtic church notes his heast day as 7 June, revered across the British Isles and Brittany as a truely sacred man of God hence the association in ancient times of this being a holy day.

(Mystical WWW)

Live and learn, learn to live

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Live and learn, learn to live

I strive to get what life can give

Send to me the lessons true

And help me know just what to do

Amid the mess and chaos fierce

Shine a light to darkness pierce

Show the way to knowledge deep

Which to let go and which to keep

Clear the way so I might heed

The lessons that I truly need

Show me what I need to learn

As life’s pages I do turn.

Tantric Sex for Beginners: 4 Easy Tips!

Tantric Sex for Beginners: 4 Easy Tips!

My friend Sean recently wowed me by casually mentioning that he had just  attended a three-day tantric sex workshop where the end goal was, well, for no  end goal.  “The point,” he said, “is to channel all the sexual energy that would  normally leave during an orgasm, back into your body.  It gives you so much  energy!”

Sure enough, achieving the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you  attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with  your partner. If you focus solely on the grand finale, you’ll miss the amazing  range of feeling the rest of the show offers.  “Sexual energy is one of our most  powerful energies for creating health,” says Christiane Northrup, M.D., author  of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.  “Through the intimate connection  with another, our stress hormones lower and our serotonin shoots through the  roof.”

Hmmm, I’ve certainly heard of Tantra but besides the Bible-length Kama Sutra,  wacky-sounding positions like “lotus” and “jumping spider” and tales of Sting  engaging in 36-hour lovemaking sessions, I didn’t know much, let alone that the  intimacy is great for our health.  “Even without an exhaustive education,” says  Wendy  Strgar, Care2 columnist and CEO of Good, Clean Love, “the principles behind  tantric practice can go a long way in deepening the connection you share with  your partner.”

Design an “intimacy space”

This should be a comfortable area that is playful and relaxed. First, clear  the room of any attention-grabbing clutter. Next, decorate with flowers, candles  and cozy fabrics. Scent is really important to our sensuality, so try natural  oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Make sure your bed is as comfortable as  possible with soft sheets and a number of pillows. Lastly, chose a soundtrack of  music that you both like. Play it softly in the background to enhance your  mood.

Breathe Each Other’s Breath

Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to  sync with your partner. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom  position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your partner breathes  out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire  body.  As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath.  In this way,  you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner.  “Becoming conscious about  your breath is central to all yogic practices and is foundational in Tantra,”  says Strgar.

Keep Your Eyes Open

“The idea of making love with your eyes open is one of the fundamentals of  deep connection in intimacy,” says Strgar.  “It is surprisingly harder to do  than you might expect.   Move toward this idea as an intention rather than a  rule and be amazed as the collection of glimpses that will reshape how you think  about your partner and yourself.  It is not easy to be seen, even by the people  we love.  Truly witnessing the act of love is profoundly transformative.”

Take it Slow

Sorry guys, foreplay is essential in Tantra. A leisurely, slow build helps  men control longevity and piques women’s arousal. The longer you linger in this  process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more  energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in  meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your  partner and the magic of the moment at hand.