Mantras for the New Year



Happy New Year’s. I thought one of the best things for the new year is mantras. So, what are mantras? Mantras are repeating of words or sounds that is used to penetrate our unconscious mind. Usually they are chanting loudly but you can also say them silently or even listen to them.

So mantra for 2020 that I picked to post today is: “Believe in yourself, have faith, and remember you are important.”

Hope you practice this mantra to help you realize that you are one with the Universe and the 2020 is the year for change and you are the change.

Many Blessings,

Blessed be,

Melinda



Daily Feng Shui News for Jan. 1st – ‘New Year’s Eats’

Happy New Year! I wish you the most magical and wonderful 2014 you can ever hope to have. Towards that same end, you may want to follow an ages-old tradition that promises to put that wish in action. Legend says that on this day a grand feast should be eaten that includes salmon (for long life and wisdom), cabbage (for fortune and riches), and mandarin oranges (for good health and even better luck). Nutritional experts agree that eating fish is good for the brain, cabbage for the liver and oranges are filled with vitamin C to help support your healthy immune system. Bon appetit. Bon New Year!

By Ellen Whitehurst for Astrology.com

Your Animal Spirit for January 1st is The Cardinal

Your Animal Spirit for Today
January 1, 2014

 

Cardinal

Wake up! Cardinal is chirping at you—bringing a message of personal power. Stop shrinking from your destiny. Stop pretending that you are less than. If you are unsure of your path, ask Cardinal to fly with you—it’s certain he will help you focus, gain clarity, formulate a plan, become self-assured, and step out into the world with the confidence befitting a person of your power.

Your Daily Horoscopes for Wednesday, 1st

We’re determined to make this New Year’s Day a special one. We know that there’s hard work ahead, but still might believe we can overcome all obstacles that are set in our path. The ambitious Capricorn New Moon at 6:14 am EST signals a shift in our responsibilities and its conjunction with potent Pluto strengthens our resolve to reach our goals. Increasing awareness about hidden issues can prevent us from being swept up in the current turmoil.

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Unexpected developments lead to a whole new set of possibilities as today’s Capricorn New Moon activates your 10th House of Status. You’re eager to take on a big challenge this year, partly because you could underestimate the amount of work that will be required to complete a project. However, if you can keep your fantasies from distorting the facts, you have an excellent chance to make your dreams come true. Reach outside the box, but don’t leave your common sense behind.

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

Your need for adventure might become obsessive now as the Capricorn New Moon joins relentless Pluto in your 9th House of Big Ideas. No matter how much you try to relax, your current sense of urgency won’t likely disappear. Instead of trying to deny your wanderlust, consider ways to satisfy your needs without turning your life upside down. For example, instead of distracting yourself with unobtainable visions of exotic travel, think about enrolling in a course of study to expand your mind.

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

You are quite serious today and may have a perfect opportunity to demonstrate your sound logic and emotional depth. But stay away from discussions about risky financial investments while the practical Capricorn New Moon triggers your 8th House of Shared Resources. Schemes that promise you a fast fortune should be avoided at all costs. Taking a carefully calculated risk can bring rewards beyond your wildest expectations, but you still need to work hard to receive the payoff.

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

A relationship that usually seems safe may test your limits today as you struggle to redefine your boundaries. The Capricorn New Moon joins passionate Pluto in your 7th House of Relationships, possibly attracting an intense person into your life. However, this individual could reflect a portion of yourself that you don’t want to acknowledge. Even if you prefer to hold onto the status quo, dynamic changes are already afoot. Relinquish control and be ready to flow with the currents, wherever they may take you next.

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

You are enthusiastic about setting new goals and you might think that nothing can distract you from your path. You may even try to start a diet today while the rest of the world is indulging in holiday feasts. You’re strongly driven to clean up your act now that the Capricorn New Moon emphasizes your 6th House of Health. It’s not that you want to have any less fun; it’s just that you are highly motivated to improve your well-being. Your goals are admirable, but give yourself permission to enjoy the celebrations of the season, too.

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

You have a lot you want to do today and you’re eager to get the ball rolling. The hardworking Capricorn New Moon highlights your 5th House of Self-Expression, encouraging you to show others how your creativity can add inspiration to an important project. Don’t be surprised if someone likes your work so much that he or she becomes your greatest supporter. Try not to make assumptions about the roles that your allies can play. If another person wants to help, graciously accept the offer with a smile.

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You may be so engaged with your family today that you forget about the work-related pressures you temporarily left behind. The dutiful Capricorn New Moon falls in your 4th House of Security, requiring you to concentrate on important domestic concerns. Sidestepping an interpersonal issue isn’t a viable choice because your frustration could precipitate an emotional meltdown. Thankfully, bringing secrets out into the open just might be the preventative measure you need at this time.

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Your attempts to minimize the intensity of a conversation today may be too little, too late. The Capricorn New Moon connects with shadowy Pluto in your 3rd House of Communication, obscuring the truth and complicating the issue. A recurring argument could feel like a runaway train, but you might not notice how far off the rails it’s gone until you try to stop the ride. Although panic feeds doubt, deep breathing can bring you back to your center. Every word you speak resonates with more intention than you realize, so consciously replace fear with love wherever you go.

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

You might become quite upset today if someone assumes that your personal possessions are meant to be shared. The industrious Capricorn New Moon is hooking up with suspicious Pluto in your 2nd House of Resources, prompting you to overreact. You could even become hostile if what you own feels like an extension of your identity. If you can’t share nicely now, then you probably shouldn’t be playing with others. A simple change of attitude makes all the difference in the world.

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Your sense of power is a double-edged sword today because you could be driven by unconscious forces you don’t fully understand. One way of handling this emotional intensity is to create a simple ritual that channels your intentions in a positive manner. The Capricorn New Moon joins perceptive Pluto and communicator Mercury in your sign, so write down your resolutions for the year ahead. Stating your intentions out loud helps you focus so you can begin to fulfill your dreams.

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You might be inclined to take care of someone else’s needs today, but it’s not a smart idea if you haven’t been asked to help. Acting with compassion is always admirable, but an awkward situation can develop if you assist where it’s not wanted. Don’t express any negative feelings now that the Capricorn New Moon lands in your 12th House of Secrets or your good intentions may backfire. If someone resists your helping hand, kindly wish them well and walk away.

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

An emotional disagreement with your friends or family members may lead to discouragement today if your allies seem to be especially hard on you. Group interactions have a high level of intensity now as the Capricorn New Moon joins relentless Pluto in your 11th House of Community. But don’t focus your feelings on any one person; instead, disperse your current emotional charge over as many people as possible. Channeling your excess energy into positive action will help more than you think to lift everyone’s spirits.

New Moon in Capricorn Horoscopes

New Moon in Capricorn Horoscopes

Short and long-term concerns

Jeff Jawer   Jeff Jawer on the topics of new moon, horoscopes, Capricorn, astrology

The ordinarily well-organized Capricorn New Moon on January 1, 2014, New Year’s Day, occurs right in the midst of other intense planetary connections. Provocative Pluto joins the Sun and Moon while aggressive Mars, revolutionary Uranus and expansive Jupiter form stressful aspects to this union. Chaos and uncertainty are undesirable effects, yet flexible-but-committed people can ride these powerful forces to professional and personal breakthroughs as we kick off the new year. Keep reading to see what your sign can expect.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Career issues are likely to break out suddenly within the coming four weeks as this New Moon in Capricorn lands in your 10th House of Profession. Resentment of rules, boring routines, and authority figures could trigger explosive responses. It’s fine to recognize that you need more stimulating work, but it is wiser to be strategic in making plans than to allow an impulsive reaction to force you to make changes before you’re ready.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Your vision of the future could be shaken with this volatile New Moon in your 9th House of Higher Truth. Challenging your beliefs is to be expected and will be healthier if you’re the one making this happen. You can free yourself of outmoded expectations as light bulbs of awareness go off in your head now. The realization that additional education may be needed to reach your new and loftier goals could even send you back to school.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Whatever agreements and understandings you have with other people could be shaken up with this wild and crazy New Moon. The normally reliable Capricorn lunation lands in your 8th House of Deep Sharing where financial and romantic alliances are ripe for breakdowns or breakthroughs. If you’re seeking a partner one may suddenly appear, yet it’s best to think long and hard before making any lasting commitments.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Relationships are rocked by this volatile Capricorn New Moon in your 7th House of Partners. Reliable people may suddenly become unavailable, although it’s also possible that your interest in sticking to the status quo will disappear. Experimenting in who you connect with and how you work or play together reduces the stress of trying to stick to an old plan or stay on track when your needs and circumstances suddenly change.

Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22)

This explosive Sun-Moon conjunction occurs in your 6th House of Employment, Health and Daily Routines. Expect shakeups in these areas of life, which can be exciting and liberating if you’re willing to change. Curiosity and flexibility are better allies than persistence and loyalty under these circumstances. Developing new skills is an excellent way to tap into the powerful shifts that are likely to happen now.

Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 22)

A fresh and bold approach to presenting your professional ideas and sharing your romantic desires is appropriate at this time. This is an exciting and volatile New Moon in your 5th House of Performance that could alter the ways that you express yourself. Giving yourself permission to explore and play instead of taking yourself so seriously reduces pressure and should provide you with more creativity, fun and freedom.

Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 22)

Family matters and security issues can explode suddenly with this electrifying New Moon in your 4th House of Roots. Secrets may be exposed and emotions expressed that have been too intense to share before. Giving yourself the liberty to think and feel outside the box can reveal different ways to feel at ease where you are, or to make the bold moves needed to find security in more stimulating forms.

Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)

Surprising sources of information can open up with this dynamic New Moon in your 3rd House of Communication. Secrets may be exposed, which can help to clear the air in personal matters. But this is also a chance to open your mind to different subjects and to express yourself more freely. Reactions to what you say or hear, though, can be very strong so temper your words and slow your response time to maintain peace.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)

Financial issues could take a sudden turn with this electrifying Capricorn New Moon in your 2nd House of Assets. While this might be unsettling when it comes to money, it can also awaken you to new and different ways to boost your income. If you have talents that haven’t been fully exploited, this is a time when you can recover old abilities and apply them to put more excitement and, perhaps, more cash into your life.

Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)

This New Moon in your sign is a time when you could feel like you’re starting over. You generally prefer to stick to plans and carefully build on what you’ve done before. Yet while this lunation marks a radical departure from the past that might feel alienating, it also offers you a chance to alter your attitude, approach, and appearance in ways that make you more appealing to others and more interesting to yourself.

Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18)

Don’t freak out if you encounter ghosts from the past during the next four weeks. This explosive New Moon lands in your 12th House of Spirituality and Secrets where unfaced issues and unfinished business can grab your attention. It’s wise to pull back and take all the time you need to reflect upon your life. The potential for breakthroughs increases when you allow yourself to imagine a radically different future.

Pisces (Feb. 19 – March 20)

Your connections with friends and colleagues may require some adjustments as this transformative New Moon lands in your 11th House of Groups. Chaos within organizations or unreliability among pals and co-workers can cause sudden shifts that shake your relationships. Holding on tightly to the past is won’t reduce stress and increase opportunities, but giving yourself the freedom to let go and move on will.

Daily Cosmic Calendar for January 1st

First off the bat as the New Year begins is the monthly New Moon (activating 11 degrees of Capricorn at 3:15AM). Any new alignment of the solar and lunar orbs can generate a dynamic, forward momentum across the board. Then, in fairly rapid succession, the Moon is conjunct mysterious-secretive Pluto (3:45AM), Venus makes an inspirational, 72-degree link to radical-change agent Uranus (4:29AM), the Moon unites with communication-boosting Mercury (6:33AM) and parallels Venus (7:03AM) — all leading up to our main course, the first Sun-Pluto rendezvous on a New Year’s day in 247 years at 10:58AM.  Hit the psychology, metaphysical and self-help books with a vengeance. Learn more about reincarnation, fears and phobias, and how to eliminate them in order to dissipate many of the hidden, root causes of human suffering.  As a dessert, try to savor the mentally-expansive, monthly Moon-Jupiter polarity (11:10AM) and a problem-solving enhancement arriving at 3:16PM when Mercury trines Pallas in earth signs. Not to be outdone, Mars makes a contra-parallel with Uranus (11:43PM) — with these two, potential planetary mischief-makers adding another psychic storm (particularly influencing relationships), and somewhat akin in nature to the Sun uniting with Pluto, to your New Year’s Day agenda.  [Note to readers: All times are calculated for Pacific Standard Time. Be sure to adjust all times according to your own local time so the alignments noted above will be exact for your location.]

Current Moon Phase – New Moon

New Moon

(waxing/4% of illumination)

The New Moon is a time best suited for new beginnings! For the first 48 hours following the exact time of the New Moon each month, a window of opportunity opens for making wishes that, if noted, come true in the days and months ahead. There is a tremendous amount of enthusiasm in the atmosphere, making it a great time to go forward and begin projects that you feel instinctively attracted to initiating. Follow your impulses and let yourself make new starts in areas that are important to you.

The Witches Almanac for Wednesday, January 1

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The Witches Almanac for Wednesday, January 1

Wednesday (Mercury): The conscious mind, study, travel, divination, and wisdom.

New Year’s Day * Kwanzaa ends

Waning Moon

The Waning Moon is a time for study, meditation, and little magickal work (except magick designed to banish harmful energies).

Moon Sign: Capricorn

Capricorn: Develops strong structure. Focus on traditions, responsibilities, and obligations. A good time to set boundaries and rules.

New Moon 6:14 am

Incense:  Marjoram

Color: Yellow

New Moon in Capricorn Horoscopes

New Moon in Capricorn Horoscopes

Short and long-term concerns

Jeff Jawer   Jeff Jawer on the topics of new moon, horoscopes, capricorn, astrology
The ordinarily well-organized Capricorn New Moon on January 1, 2014, New Year’s Day, occurs right in the midst of other intense planetary connections. Provocative Pluto joins the Sun and Moon while aggressive Mars, revolutionary Uranus and expansive Jupiter form stressful aspects to this union. Chaos and uncertainty are undesirable effects, yet flexible-but-committed people can ride these powerful forces to professional and personal breakthroughs as we kick off the new year. Keep reading to see what your sign can expect.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Career issues are likely to break out suddenly within the coming four weeks as this New Moon in Capricorn lands in your 10th House of Profession. Resentment of rules, boring routines, and authority figures could trigger explosive responses. It’s fine to recognize that you need more stimulating work, but it is wiser to be strategic in making plans than to allow an impulsive reaction to force you to make changes before you’re ready.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Your vision of the future could be shaken with this volatile New Moon in your 9th House of Higher Truth. Challenging your beliefs is to be expected and will be healthier if you’re the one making this happen. You can free yourself of outmoded expectations as light bulbs of awareness go off in your head now. The realization that additional education may be needed to reach your new and loftier goals could even send you back to school.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Whatever agreements and understandings you have with other people could be shaken up with this wild and crazy New Moon. The normally reliable Capricorn lunation lands in your 8th House of Deep Sharing where financial and romantic alliances are ripe for breakdowns or breakthroughs. If you’re seeking a partner one may suddenly appear, yet it’s best to think long and hard before making any lasting commitments.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Relationships are rocked by this volatile Capricorn New Moon in your 7th House of Partners. Reliable people may suddenly become unavailable, although it’s also possible that your interest in sticking to the status quo will disappear. Experimenting in who you connect with and how you work or play together reduces the stress of trying to stick to an old plan or stay on track when your needs and circumstances suddenly change.

Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22)

This explosive Sun-Moon conjunction occurs in your 6th House of Employment, Health and Daily Routines. Expect shakeups in these areas of life, which can be exciting and liberating if you’re willing to change. Curiosity and flexibility are better allies than persistence and loyalty under these circumstances. Developing new skills is an excellent way to tap into the powerful shifts that are likely to happen now.

Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 22)

A fresh and bold approach to presenting your professional ideas and sharing your romantic desires is appropriate at this time. This is an exciting and volatile New Moon in your 5th House of Performance that could alter the ways that you express yourself. Giving yourself permission to explore and play instead of taking yourself so seriously reduces pressure and should provide you with more creativity, fun and freedom.

Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 22)

Family matters and security issues can explode suddenly with this electrifying New Moon in your 4th House of Roots. Secrets may be exposed and emotions expressed that have been too intense to share before. Giving yourself the liberty to think and feel outside the box can reveal different ways to feel at ease where you are, or to make the bold moves needed to find security in more stimulating forms.

Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)

Surprising sources of information can open up with this dynamic New Moon in your 3rd House of Communication. Secrets may be exposed, which can help to clear the air in personal matters. But this is also a chance to open your mind to different subjects and to express yourself more freely. Reactions to what you say or hear, though, can be very strong so temper your words and slow your response time to maintain peace.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)

Financial issues could take a sudden turn with this electrifying Capricorn New Moon in your 2nd House of Assets. While this might be unsettling when it comes to money, it can also awaken you to new and different ways to boost your income. If you have talents that haven’t been fully exploited, this is a time when you can recover old abilities and apply them to put more excitement and, perhaps, more cash into your life.

Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)

This New Moon in your sign is a time when you could feel like you’re starting over. You generally prefer to stick to plans and carefully build on what you’ve done before. Yet while this lunation marks a radical departure from the past that might feel alienating, it also offers you a chance to alter your attitude, approach, and appearance in ways that make you more appealing to others and more interesting to yourself.

Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18)

Don’t freak out if you encounter ghosts from the past during the next four weeks. This explosive New Moon lands in your 12th House of Spirituality and Secrets where unfaced issues and unfinished business can grab your attention. It’s wise to pull back and take all the time you need to reflect upon your life. The potential for breakthroughs increases when you allow yourself to imagine a radically different future.

Pisces (Feb. 19 – March 20)

Your connections with friends and colleagues may require some adjustments as this transformative New Moon lands in your 11th House of Groups. Chaos within organizations or unreliability among pals and co-workers can cause sudden shifts that shake your relationships. Holding on tightly to the past is won’t reduce stress and increase opportunities, but giving yourself the freedom to let go and move on will.

 

No Calendar of the Moon for Today

There will be no Calendar of the Moon today. I can’t tell you why but it is just one of those things (more like shock). While I have your attention, I ran across some funny resolutions for the next year. I will posting them throughout the morning. I hope you enjoy them and get a tickle out of them.

Luv & Hugs,

Lady A

Your Daily Cosmic Calendar for December 30th

As 2013 enters its final 48 hours, shake-ups of all kinds are materializing around the globe. Yesterday brought squares between the Sun and Mercury with Uranus while today reveals Mars square to Pluto. Plus, tomorrow is no slouch in this regard as it will provide a union between Mercury and Pluto while also setting up a stage for Mercury to fight against Mars in another square off that can certainly increase tensions everywhere.  The dark-of-the-moon phase also starts making its appearance today and tomorrow since 2014 will — rather amazingly — begin with a Capricorn New Moon uniting with Pluto, creating the closest Sun-Pluto conjunction on a New Year’s Day in approximately 247 years. Therefore, if you are feeling a little out-of-sorts and worried about the present and the future, you are not alone.  Of course, it is always an asset to have a Sagittarius Moon presence at your beck and call that can give you encouragement to deal with whatever challenges may be on the horizon. This Sagittarius lunar asset is somewhat compromised today because a void lunar cycle begins at 3:37AM and continues all the way until 10:02AM tomorrow.  From a positive standpoint, a supportive, 60-degree alliance between Mercury and Chiron (7:47AM) directs you toward looking into the merits of a wide variety of holistic healing techniques.  The key discordant aspect of the day arrives at 5:23PM when Mars in Libra squares Pluto in Capricorn. Any struggle between these two celestial bodies almost always results in earthly battles — often regarding emotional matters — that can leave the combatants angry and exhausted. Do your best to stay away from temperamental individuals or anyone who speaks too rashly and quickly without considering the consequences. [Note to readers: All times are calculated for Pacific Standard Time. Be sure to adjust all times according to your own local time so the alignments noted above will be exact for your location.]

It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Chri… Yuletide!

It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Chri… Yuletide!

Author:   Lori Dake   

One of the things I truly enjoy doing is decorating for the Holidays, and the Sunday before Thanksgiving is when I start doing my yearly ritual. It was a lot later when I was growing up, sometimes as late as Christmas Eve, because we always had a real tree, and as you all know, real trees tend to dry out and look rather Charlie Brown-ish if it’s left up too long.

I do miss the wonderful pine smell, but I certainly don’t miss the pine needles all over the floor stabbing my toes, or the resin giving me a terrible rash as I string up the lights, nor do I miss the aftermath of what an urban Pagan apartment dweller is to do with a tree that was cut down for our amusement. So, since we use an artificial tree year after year, I get to decorate mine much earlier, as well as lavishly cover our humble abode in twinkly white lights and pretty red ribbons. So, early decorating is a bit of a tradition I have started, and hey – one of the perks of having your own family is to change things up a bit!

And why do I choose to decorate before Thanksgiving? I means seriously! Don’t we always complain about how the holidays are rolling around earlier and earlier, no thanks to the Big Box stores (and all their evilness!) trying to make a few more dollars? Well, quite frankly, I’m going to be busy preparing Thursday’s feast all this week starting on Monday, since I do prep work like a well-founded catering company! Also, since we run a home business predominantly through eBay, the Dakes will be in a retail full swing, trying to compete with those aforementioned Big Box stores and their incredibly low prices! And, Sunday is Clean Up The House! day around these parts, so this is really the only opportunity I have to decorate before Santa starts to pack up his sleigh. That, and well, decorating, for me at least, is a lot of work – an all-day thing actually! – so I want to enjoy the fruits of my labor for just a little bit longer. But I promise, after New Year’s Day, they really do come down! I swear! Really! No ornaments will be discovered with decorated eggs!

So, with this being the Saturday before, I’ve already started straightening up the living room / warehouse to make room for all the decorations, and I’ve even bought a couple new items for this year’s Yule Diorama, which is my version of the Nativity Scene; I have a wolf and a moose to add! I have such fond memories of playing with the cast of characters as a kid, so I restructured the scene to more accurately reflect my Pagan beliefs.

My husband said if I keep adding onto it, that by the time our son has his own kids, my little “manger scene” is going to take up a whole wall! And since almost all of the pieces in my Yule Diorama were originally intended to be children’s playthings, as opposed to being delicate, hand painted porcelain religious icons to be admired and not touched, I happily welcome the thought of having that wall of critters and magickal creatures readily available for my future grandchildren.

We also break another tradition of throwing ourselves into bankruptcy over buying the biggest and best gifts for extended family and ourselves. My husband’s family is huge, and their tradition is that everyone buys everyone a gift. When his sisters, their husbands, their children and now, their children’s husbands and children are factored in, even token five dollar gifts can easily jack up to over a thousand dollars!

So, in order to still manage to give something to everyone, I also invest a full day of cookie baking, with at least four varieties and a dozen cookies per gift bag. (Yes, that’s a LOT of flour and sugar, but soooo good!) Okay, so we end up looking like cheapskates to some of our wealthier family members, especially when the gifts we get in exchange are pretty darn sweet, but I am at least trying to convey the message we do care and hopefully one day, someone will do the math and realize just how much work and love was put into them all. If anything, I got to make my home smell delicious and was able to sprinkle a little magick into their tummies!

Now, one tradition I have retained intact from childhood is to add at least one new ornament for the tree. For at least the last decade, I’ve been desperately searching for a blue Santa, more like a Father Christmas than the Coca-Cola image people are mostly familiar with, because somehow, it just feel ‘right’, for lack of a better term. Our tree is very Pagan-ish, but without being blatant or tacky about it, and I feel it reflects our faith as a whole. So, to find that special Santa would be such a wonderful addition to all the birds, bells, stars, icicles, snowflakes and winter woodland creatures that currently adorn our happy little tree, and it would just plain make me happy.

Here’s the way I see it:

Yes, we’re Pagan, yes we celebrate Yule, but yes, we also open presents on Christmas and have no problem calling them Christmas presents. Sure, we also open a special gift at Yule, but just like any religiously blended family, that’s another perk: more presents for the holidays! But no, we do not send out cards that say “Merry Christmas!” on them, unless we specifically know the recipients celebrate the holiday as such.

Oh, and no – I wouldn’t be offended if you or anyone else were to wish me a “Merry Christmas”. I know a couple times, people have tap-danced around that term, and it always came off as rather awkward, even in email form. I was able to just sense that fumbling around with a half-hearted, generic “Happy Holidays”, and to me, it just took away from the gesture.

Now, while I honestly do appreciate that extra effort, the sentiment is all the same to me, so I kindly ask my friends and family to just say whatever comes to mind. It’s not necessary with us. We always appreciate the sincere wishes, in all its guises. I’m a vegetarian too; as just the same, I’m not out to inconvenience anyone when what he or she gives me is out of love (I’ll just stick with the sides!)

So in closing, I wish a Merry Christmas to you, a Blessed Solstice, a Happy Yuletide, a Happy Hanukkah, a Happy Kwanzaa, a Happy Boxing Day and a thousand other ways to wish you a wonderful holiday, however you wish to call and celebrate it!

PS. Pssst! So hey – if anyone comes across a blue Santa ornament, would you kindly let me know where to find it? 🙂 I’d really like to start a new quest!

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Footnotes:
Yule Diorama: http://pagan-wiccan-practice.suite101.com/article.cfm/the_pagan_nativity_scene

SUPERSTITIONS & BELIEFS

SUPERSTITIONS & BELIEFS

Superstitious beliefs and customs are very much a part of Filipino culture. We
have a whole panoply of pamahiin ranging from beliefs in supernatural beings
(spirits, engkantos, witches, talismans, amulets); beliefs connected to
marriage, conception, birth, & child rearing; and beliefs linked to death &
afterlife. Many of these beliefs are considered ridiculous and silly but many
people believe it to be symbolic. For instance many of the beliefs that could be
categorized under human actions or activities are important to the lives of
people such as sleeping, eating & gift-giving. These actions feature highly in
the imagination of our people and much symbolism has been attached to them.

ACTIONS

If you bite your tongue accidentally, someone is talking about you or thinking
of you.

It is not good to take a bath right after eating for this will cause the stomach
to enlarge.

After bathing at night, do not sleep while your hair is wet for you will become
blind or insane.

If you dream that one of your teeth is being pulled, it means death to one
member of your family.

Have a new car blessed to avoid accidents & for greater car longevity.

Boiling egg while saying the Lord’s prayer assures a soft-boiled egg. (This is
because saying the Lord’s prayer takes about 15 sec thus assuring a soft-boiled
egg).

A broken mirror given by a beloved presages a broken engagement.

In building stairs, be sure to count the steps with oro (gold), plata (silver),
and mata (death). The last step must fall on oro or plata to insure good luck to
the house dwellers.

When building a house, the door and stairs must face the East where the sun
rises to insure good luck.

Children should not be allowed to play in the afternoon for they might bump into
unseen beings. (Of course this probably came about because parents just want
their children to take naps in the afternoon.)

When you bury dead animals under fruit trees, the fruits of these trees will be
sweet.

Buying anything on New Year’s Day results in extravagance throughout the whole year.

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MARRIAGE

Clearing the table while others are still eating will cause the diners not to
ever get married.

A mole on the forehead or nose means luck in business.

A lady singing while cooking will marry a widower.

A girl sitting at the head of the table becomes a spinster.

Stepping over a person while he/she is lying down removes the person’s chances
to marry. Another variation is it will cause the person not to grow. To reverse
the curse, the person who stepped over the person lying down must retrace his
step backwards.

If the younger sister or brother gets married before the older siblings, the
older siblings will never get married.

Getting married the day before a full moon brings prosperity to your marriage.

It is considered bad luck for siblings to marry within the same year.

During the wedding ceremony, the groom must be the first to arrive at the church
and wait for the bride, but not vice versa, otherwise it is a bad omen.

It is bad luck to see the bride in her wedding gown before the wedding.

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EVERYDAY SUPERSTITIONS

Putting money directly on the family dining room table is bad luck.

When there’s a spider or any other insects (except roaches…eeew!) don’t kill
it because it could be re-incarnations of past relatives and is present to watch
over you and/or your family.

When you give someone a pair of shoes as a gift, ask the recipient to give the
you money (penny, nickel, dime, quarters, or anything higher) so that they can
say that they bought it off you. If that person doesn’t give you money, he’ll
step all over you. You will be taken advantage.

When you’re driving and a black cat runs across your path, spit out the window
to avoid bad luck.

On New Year’s Eve, jump up when the clock strikes midnight so that you will
grow.

On New Year’s Day, you should wear or have something around you that is either
linear or circular so that you will have a prolonged life.

Don’t sit on tables in a business office. Bad luck will come over the business.

Daily Feng Shui News for Feb. 10th – ‘Chinese New Year’

It’s both my birthday and the start of the Chinese New Year, so you know there’s going to be a celebration tonight! Part of that party will be a traditional grand New Year’s feast including salmon (for longevity and intelligence), cabbage (for financial fortune and riches) and mandarin oranges (for good health) eaten to bring good luck all the next year! No meat is eaten on New Year’s Day out of respect for animals and knives or sharp instrument are not used lest we cut our good fortunes in half. Wishes (birthday or New Year) are always made on this day as well. Write your wish on a piece of paper with a red pen and place it inside a red envelope. Burn the envelope to seal your resolution and make it permanent. These special day smoke signals bring big and rewarding results! So if you got ’em, light ’em, and Happy New Year!

By Ellen Whitehurst for Astrology.com

6 Ways to Make Resolutions that Stick

6 Ways to Make Resolutions that Stick

 

January is a complicated month. At first blush, it’s like new love. There’s  that wonderful, wind-beneath-your-wings feeling, that promise of a fresh start,  a whole new you, an open door to the possibility that everything will be  different (perfect) this time. But faster than you can say, “I’m going to renew  my gym membership and go every single day!” along comes the other side of  January: the bully.

This is the part that shows you the failure, the anticipated crash, the thud,  the utter disappointment with yourself as all those good intentions that got  your engines started in the first place run out of steam in unglorious and  predictable ways. It’s the part that says, make a resolution; I dare you.

Fortunately, January is not the problem. It’s us. Well, our perfectionism, to  be specific. Our all-or-none thinking frames our life so that if we’re not  succeeding every second, we’re failing. Nobody wants that. But nobody can be  that “perfect” person either. Many of us decide that because we break most of  our resolutions, we will take the hall pass this year and skip any resolution  making at all.

But let’s be clear about what we are missing when we don’t set goals. We  aren’t preventing ourselves from failing. We’re keeping ourselves from  growing.

Setting goals raises us up from our ground level vantage point and gives us  access to a privileged view of ourselves. Rather than being a passive  participant reacting to life on autopilot, by setting goals we can imagine  different paths, question if where we are headed is where we want to go, and in  general take charge of our lives. This may be big questions about the direction  we’re taking or, on a smaller scale, fine-tuning the details, or looking for  more balance, fulfillment and health in daily life.

So, set some goals, take the opportunity to run your life instead of having  your life run you. But to stay in the game and on your feet, don’t let  perfectionism be your referee. You call the shots. Aim for sustainable change,  not perfection. Lasting change takes time, and you are worth the investment.  Your goals and aspirations are worth your persistence. Perfectionism doesn’t  understand this, but you can.

Here are six ideas to give your resolutions more staying power.

1. No job is too small.

Lofty are we when making New Years’ resolutions — the bigger, the better. We  want the big-splash resolutions, but those life-altering plans are often  impossibly impractical, at least in one go. Think smaller. Do you want to have  one more meal each week with your family? Do you want to have a  gratitude-sharing with your family each week? Do you want to apologize faster,  be more kind to strangers — or people you know? We don’t need the goals that  would make our lives discontinuous or unrecognizable to our current selves — we  want the actions that will make our lives better.

2. Work with your natural laziness: Set up your supplies in  advance.

Failure and procrastination happen most often when the supplies we need to  get the job done require us to actually stand up and do something (think about  how we’ll suffer through a bad movie because the remote is across the room).  Improve your chances of success by making things easier on yourself: Get your  supplies ready in advance (e.g., grab the remote before you sit down). Prevent  that last-minute avoidance/apathy phenomenon from getting in your way. Want to  start going to the gym in the next couple of weeks? Get your bag together and  put it in your car. Want to start bringing lunch to work? Make it the night  before. Want to save money each month? Set up auto-withdrawal.

3. Think short-term.

Why don’t you plan your menus for the next 12 months? Or your outfits? So why  are we planning our other goals for such a big chunk of time and then get upset  when we can’t sustain it? Try to make a goal for each month, rather than for the  year. This way you can make modifications in response to how you’re actually  performing on the goal.

4. Give it time.

It takes a good three weeks to establish a new habit or  pattern. That’s what researchers tell us. So, especially in the early weeks of a  goal, expect that your adherence will experience some ups and downs. Hang in.  Habit strength awaits you on the other side of that first launching phase. Build  in room for slips, hiccups, and setbacks. If you expect that this is part of the  process, you won’t misinterpret your slip ups and invent reasons to give up.  You’ll think instead: Right, Momma said there’d be days like this; and try again  tomorrow.

5. Think community.

Me, me, me, me. We all get sick of the focus on ourselves —  our appearance, our eating habits, our weight. All good things, but expanding  the focus beyond ourselves is likely to garner a much more appreciative audience  than we can be for ourselves. Community may mean volunteering your time, but it  also may be something that requires no planning — being patient and kind in your  interactions at work, challenging yourself to see the best in others, doing  something each week “just because.” Imagine if we all resolved to do this at the  same time.

6. Raise the barn, together.

We are isolated in our desire to change ourselves. And when we fail,  resolutions tend to be a source of private humiliation. Hey if we’re all in the  same boat, let’s support each other in staying afloat. You can find a gym buddy  or a job-hunting buddy if someone is going through similar challenges, but you  don’t have to be working toward the same goal. Find a buddy who you’ll write to  each week to update on your progress, and they’ll do the same. This will also be  the person who will give you the pep talk when you slip up and say no big deal,  keep going. (We all need that person).

One last thought. This year, as you approach the question of resolutions,  rather than feeling like you’re starting from scratch and that you’re nothing  without those changes, see that the better you that you’re looking for is  already there. Make the bold move to see resolutions not so much as ways to  overhaul your life, but rather as opportunities to free yourself up to locate  the best version of who you already are. Cheers to overcoming the obstacles that  get in the way of seeing and being that best self. Happy New Year, all!

©Tamar Chansky, Ph.D. 2012 A version of this was previously published on  Huffington Post