Your Daily Horoscopes for Friday, July 19

Our goals seem tantalizingly close, yet we have enough common sense to keep our feet planted firmly on the ground. Harmonious trines to otherworldly Neptune from optimistic Jupiter and energetic Mars encourages overconfidence, yet today’s exact trine from realistic Saturn requires us to balance expansive plans with methodical follow-through. A commitment to making our dreams come true can move even the most stubborn structures in our lives.

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

No matter what you face on the road ahead you don’t need to do anything out of the ordinary today except believe in yourself. Naturally, your faith isn’t a guarantee of success; it’s merely your entry ticket. Your upcoming journey could teach you how to be more practical than ever. Exhibiting healthy self-confidence is a good start, but you’ll still have to apply yourself to succeed.

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

You’re ready to harness your creativity and make it work to your advantage. However, this is not just a one-day project; it could be your main focus for months to come. Even if you are waiting for a more opportune time to put your lofty plans into motion, at least solidify your dreams today. Any idea that receives your current approval is likely worth pursuing to see where it leads.

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

You are usually on the move, yet paradoxically, it seems as if you make more progress today by staying in one place. The irony is you must sink deeper into your emotions to gain the knowledge that you seek. Possibilities may open up later in the month if you are willing to fulfill your current obligations now. However, it’s crucial to take time and explore the emotional origins of your restlessness so you don’t needlessly waste your valuable energy.

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

Be ready for someone to enter your life promising you fame, fortune or simply an opportunity to get ahead. Thankfully, you have the mental acuity now to ascertain if this is the real deal or just a passing pipe dream. Listen carefully to what’s being said and then give yourself plenty of time to roll the potential around in your mind. Don’t second guess your intuition today; just do what feels right.

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Although you may think that waiting is a smart idea now, don’t turn down an offer just because it doesn’t seem good enough. Even the most amazing opportunities won’t shock and awe you with their potential today; nevertheless, they still could be very promising. Make no mistake; you will have to work harder than you think to get the results you want. Luckily, the outcome should be well worth your effort if your heart is in the right place.

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Although you long for a more relaxing schedule today, your efforts may be rewarded beyond your expectations. You might not be able to recognize the upside of a current opportunity because Mercury Retrograde — which ends tomorrow — limits your ability to see what’s around the corner. However, putting your shoulder to the wheel is still your smartest strategy. Thankfully, you can also have some fun in the process. Remember, the more you enjoy yourself along the way, the better your chances for success.

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You may feel a distinct contrast between doing what you know needs to be done today and your desire to pass the time lost in pleasant daydreams. Being aware of this dilemma is the first step, but you must remind yourself more than once that this is no time for escapist behavior. You have important foundational work that’s best started now and procrastinating could make for tougher going later on.

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

You are all about keeping to yourself today, unless you’re required to interact with others to fulfill a previous commitment. It’s not that you are a loner; it’s just that you have important things to do now that can positively impact your future and you don’t want to be distracted by unnecessary noise. Spend time prioritizing old goals or creating new ones. Following your dreams feeds your soul and rejuvenates your entire being.

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Honoring your goals in life is a smart idea today, whether or not they are part of your practical career plan. It’s best to widen your visions of the future because a singular focus on getting ahead can have a negative impact on your personal life. Public recognition is something that you want, but it’s not enough to just fulfill your dreams. Make time to cherish the friendships and intimate relationships that enrich your journey along the road to success.

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Opportunities may fall out of the sky today, yet you could easily miss them unless you are looking up. If you are absolutely certain about your current long-term goals, you might not recognize other possibilities that drop into your lap. However, this doesn’t suggest you should be any less focused on the work at hand. It only means that widening your horizons can be an act of courage that pays off down the road.

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

It might appear as if you’ve lost interest in your goals today, but this is certainly not the case. It’s just that you’re in the process of redefining what’s most important in your life and it may differ from other people’s fixed assumptions. For example, instead of climbing the ladder at work, you might be more concerned with pursuing your personal or spiritual growth. Luckily, extracurricular explorations at this time can ultimately increase your earning power in the future to give you the best of both worlds.

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

You could be ready to surrender if you are in a standoff with someone at work. However, backing down is not advisable today; it’s smarter to persistently express what’s in your heart. While it’s true that compromise usually works best, others will likely come around to your point of view if your intentions are sincere. Don’t settle for receiving the short end of the stick. Hang on to your dreams; cultivating patience makes more sense now than giving up too soon.

Cutting the Knot: Handling a Pagan Divorce

Cutting the Knot: Handling a Pagan Divorce

by Freya Ray

Whether it’s three months past the handfasting or twelve years past the wedding, there comes a point in the lives of many pagan couples when it’s time to give it up already. You’ve tried everything you can think of to save the relationship, you’ve both been depressed for far too long, you’ve flailed around and dragged half your friends inside your mess and none of it has done any good.

Then a moment of clarity descends. This relationship is not going to be fixed by couples counseling, karmic clearing rituals, better feng shui or some new sexual interests. You’ve had it, or they’ve had it. Someone has made a simple, clear decision that it’s over.

Now what?

The absolute first thing you need to do is find some alone time to cry and rage and feel sorry for yourself. If you’re still in shock and it hasn’t hit you yet, you’ve got two options. One is to soldier on like an automaton, waiting for the freight train of your feelings to come around a corner and flatten you. The other is to create enough alone time with no distractions when you can invite your feelings to come up to the surface so you can deal with them. It’s a personal choice. Some people need to get things handled before they break down. Just make sure you create time to fall apart at some point.

The emotional basket-case period will vary in length, depending on the relationship, how long you were together, how shocking the end of it was to you, how much control you had in the decision, how badly you were done wrong or how guilty you feel for doing wrong and how much you still love your soon-to-be-ex-partner. However long it’s going to take you to get over it, you still need to find a clear moment in which to make some triage decisions.

When you get to a good break point in your weeping and wailing, dry your eyes, take a long walk and come back to get settled in a quiet, meditative place. What you need to do now is try to project yourself forward. Right at this moment, you’re feeling a whole host of conflicting things, or even worse, one overriding, immense emotion. These feelings are going to control the actions you take in the next few hours and weeks if you don’t make some higher-level decisions.

Setting aside the emotional crap you’re going to be wading through for a while, ask yourself the question, “What kind of relationship do I truly want to have with this person a year from now?” Sit with that until it’s clear to you. Are you “doner than done,” and you’ll never want to see your ex’s face again once you get his or her crap out of your house? Are you going to want to have a caring friendship? Are you still hoping you can get back together and work things out?

Now you have a vision, a dream. The next question is even more important. “How likely is my soon-to-be-ex-partner going to be to participate in this vision of mine?”

Be honest with yourself. At this point, if you’re calling this a divorce, you’ve been together long enough to have seen this person’s shit. Let me tell you, in case you haven’t figured it out yet, he or she is not going to become a nicer or better person during the breakup. It’s never happened. Not once. So if you know he has a tendency to shut down emotionally, or she’s not in touch with any of her exes, or he lies sometimes, or whatever, that trait is going to be worse from here on out than it was when she was still trying to impress you on some level.

Worse.

This estimation of what’s possible reuqires taking this into account. You take your optimism, your spiritual idealism and then you temper it with a healthy dose of realistic pessimism. It’s okay to gamble on a long shot. Just know you’re doing it. If you want to be friends, and he’s never remained on speaking terms with anyone he’s ever dated, you’ve got a very slim chance of pulling it off. Any effort you expend that direction needs to be effort you can give freely, even if nothing comes back from it.

Actually, that’s a pretty good rule for wherever you want to end up. A breakup is about sorting out stuff, including energy, so that everyone walks away (hopefully!) with what is her own. Don’t keep giving him energy you’re going to need. Give her what you can spare, and let her carry herself the rest of the time.

But I jump ahead. Right now, you’re figuring out what your intent is, your goal. You might even write this down, because I guarantee you that your resolve will be tested.

Quite often, I decide that I am absolutely, given the slightest opening, going to have a nice, friendly, flirtatious, comfortable friendship with an ex. Unless he’s done me country-song wrong, in which case I pick another intention. But if the breakup was due to a more blameless sort of incompatibility, I really want to remain friends with someone I’m no longer dating or living with.

This requires stubbornness after I’ve ended the relationship. Ego is hurt, feelings are hurt, he doesn’t want to see me because he still wants me, he doesn’t want to be near me because he doesn’t still want me, whatever. I have to remain unruffled by attempts to push me away. If I get defensive and hurt, then we’re having drama, and it’s not bringing us closer to being friends. If I wait it out, processing my own hurt on my own time, and holding a friendly open space for him whenever he’s ready to step into it, I’ve got a shot at finding a friend in a few months.

In order to be patient, when he’s saying offensive things or seducing a twit in front of my face, I need to have a clear intention. This anchors me, so my efforts remain in line with the results I wish to produce.

No matter how hurt you are right now, there will be results you will wish to have produced, a few months or a couple years from now. Be clear about them so you don’t slash and burn while you’re upset.

Okay, so you know what you want, you know how likely you are to get it, and you’ve formulated a clear statement of intention. Now you need a plan that’s in line with your intention.

If your intent is to never speak to her again, well, start protecting yourself. I’m sure you have good reason not to want her as a friend, and that means you don’t trust her to make decisions in your best interest during the separation. Don’t be cruel or unfair, but don’t leave all your money in a joint checking account either. Make the material plane decisions as quickly as possible. And be prepared to chew off at least a few toes in order to get yourself free of the trap. Act decisively.

If your intent is to remain friends, start acting like it now. At least when you’re with the new ex. When you’re with your friends, vent all you like. But when together with your ex-partner, be friendly, work toward compromise and offer some peace-treaty gifts. Give her a shared item she enjoys, or even an item of yours she enjoys. Offer to help him move. Call mutual friends and let them know about the breakup, and ask them to provide emotional support to your ex-partner, who really needs it right now. Act like a friend.

If your intent is to get back together, work toward that. Suggest a separation rather than a final decision. Suggest counseling for the both of you. Start counseling yourself. Suggest you pay for him to go to Peru and hang out at a spa getting therapy every day until he feels better about life. If none of these overtures meet with a receptive welcome, consider revising your intention. Your partner might not be open at all to trying it again. But if you’re still intent on your long shot, keep treating this person with love. Wait patiently, periodically testing the waters, seeing if a door opens. Do your emotional work to process the separation and deal with your feelings, so that if that door does open you don’t walk through it saying, “And how dare you shut me out of our own home!” or words to that effect.

Now let’s talk about the energetic and spiritual work that needs to be done with each of our three breakup plans. Any couple is bound by a whole mess of connections, at various chakras and in various stages of health. During a breakup, you need to decide which ones you sever and which you leave in place.

The hostile divorce is the easiest one to handle. Energetically, you slash and burn. Visualize the cords between you and your partner. Visualize a pair of scissors or a knife. Midway between the two of you, cut through the cords. Let her energy go boinging back to her, while yours rebounds inside your own energy body. Do a vacuum maneuver, where you suck up any stray energy that belongs rightfully to you. Do an expulsion, where you send back to him any energy that rightfully belongs to him. Make it clean, decisive and karmically correct.

You might need to repeat this maneuver, as sometimes it will take several separation ceremonies to clear the crud between you and the ex. Enmeshment can go very deep, because of an intense or long relationship this life, past life entanglements, karmic obligations or perfectly matched-up psychological and emotional wounds.

You might discover you’re uncomfortable keeping all your energy for yourself, that your habits of taking care of this person extend to a constant energetic feed heading their direction. You might discover you’ve been receiving a constant energetic feed from your ex, and by cutting the ties you feel depleted, adrift. Either way, it’s better to wallow through the withdrawal period than it is to allow the messy connections to remain in place. Cut the cords.

You should also have some kind of ritual where you release this person from your life, and release each other from any further karmic obligations toward each other. Burn stuff that reminds you of the relationship, chant your intention to be finished, move, something. What you do doesn’t matter, as long as you do it with intent. Use some external event to symbolize the end. Past here, we are no longer partners. In the hostile divorce, you do this ritual by yourself, and she does whatever she does on her own, and you start learning not to care what’s going on with her.

Take some time to put up protection. Surround yourself with white light, get a restraining order, change the locks, put up a send-back spell, whatever feels appropriate for the situation.

Be decisive, get it over with. It is done, it is done, it is done.

A friendly divorce is handled a bit differently. Energetically, you don’t want to cut all the cords in an indiscriminate knife-slash. You wish to leave some of them in place, and cut or diminish others. Visualize the connections between you, and ask which ones are appropriate for the relationship you wish to have now. Leave those, and cut the others. You might leave a strong connection at the heart and decide to sever the rest at least temporarily, allowing the ones that need to be there for your friendship to grow back. You might suck all the sexual energy back into your root and navel, leaving the rest of it alone. You might figure your partner has done enough slashing of connections already in his anger, and not do any more separating, instead feeding energy into a strong, clear, loving line between you.

Trust your intuition to guide you. Remain true to your intent. If you wish to be friends, and you or she are not equipped for casual sexual relationships, than no matter how juicy and delicious the sexual energy is between you, you need to let it go. If the spiritual bond was what drew you together, and on the material plane you drove each other nuts, perhaps you will choose to snip the crown connection for a while, to find out what sorts of connections are possible for you as friends when you’re not blinded by white light.

If your ex is amenable, it can be nice to have a closing ritual together. Plan a symbolic way to officially release the partnership relationship between you. Plan it together, enact it together and then invoke your mutual intention for friendship. If you have a partner you can do this with, you are truly blessed. Treasure that friendship.

For the still-hanging-on divorce, well, the energetic work you’re going to want to do and the energetic work you should do are probably going to be two different things. Your instinctive urge will be to cling with all your might, leaving all connections in place, tugging on them as hard as you can and sending your ex tons of energy as you think about him all the time. Don’t do that.

Basically, you need to clean up whatever the mess was that caused you two to separate or divorce. This means letting go of the icky-sticky codependent connections and doing your own personal work so you’re ready for a healthier relationship. The good news is that whether you and your ex get back together or not, you need to do this work. The bad news is that you will have no guarantees of getting her back after your interior makeover, even if you’re still convinced she’s your soulmate.

Force yourself. Visualize the connections, and be very honest about which ones are healthy and which ones are enmeshed. Have a ritual where you release the karmic obligations between you, where you release the unhealthy habit patterns between you, where you release any connections that are no longer appropriate between you.

Do this right. Be open to the possibility that the two of you really are done. If you find Spirit is telling you to let it all go, let it all go. Sometimes the phoenix cannot rise until things have burned themselves fully down to ash. Whether the phoenix will be a relationship with the same person or a new one, you need to let go.

With any luck, whichever type of divorce you’re going through, cleaning up the energetic and spiritual connections will take you further along the path of healing from the loss. Be gentle with yourself as you get used to life on your own again. Do your own work, and then, when it’s time, believe in a new beginning.

Springtime always follows the winter. Always.

Your Daily Horoscopes for Monday, November 12

We’re not interested in compromising for the sake of a relationship today; our perceptions are non-negotiable. The Moon’s shift into fixed Scorpio at 6:10 am EST encourages us to believe that what we perceive is absolutely real, settling a previously unstable situation. However, her afternoon conjunction with taskmaster Saturn requires us to defend our feelings. Fortunately, we’re still standing on solid ground even if others disagree with us.

 

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

You may be required to face the consequences of your desires today. From a positive perspective this process can deepen a relationship, allowing you to grow more intimate with another person. It’s about going further than you normally choose to go. However, difficulties arise if you try to blast through resistance without taking responsibility. Make the most of your time now by slowing down to address the softer side of the story.

 

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

It seems as if nothing is simple now as powerful feelings impact your connections with others. Your current inclination to peel away the layers of the onion to see what’s underneath can be a welcome opportunity to take a relationship to the next level. But dissatisfaction might be revealed that leads to renegotiating a partnership agreement or even ending it. Be courageous and accept the changes that are inevitable parts of life.

 

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

A task that you thought was already completed could require additional work now. If you rushed through it the first time around, expect to put more effort into it again today. This is an excellent time to do some maintenance, even if you are not very excited about the idea. Cleaning up at home or at work can bring satisfaction if you pick one job and do it thoroughly, rather than spreading your energy too thin.

 

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

Intensity is the keyword for the day, and there’s no way you just want to kick back and relax. Power and passion can bring fulfillment — and this means taking risks with your heart, even if the situation is complex. Life doesn’t have to be simple now to be good. Romance may shine brightly on your horizon today because you’re capable of discovering new heights of pleasure with the right partner.

 

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Expect to face issues of power and control now, especially in family dynamics. You might see a potential conflict as a difficult situation that must be avoided, but it can also be a rare opportunity to break unconscious patterns that limit your choices. Be fearless and know that greatness comes from addressing the toughest issues with frank openness, rather than avoiding them as a matter of pride.

 

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Sometimes strategically telling a secret is quite useful, but it can also be very dangerous. The risk is that while you get closer to one person, you might lose the trust of others who are not included in the conversation. The positive side is that you may receive objective insights from someone who has a very clear take on the issues. Use your keen analytical mind today to make sense out of a previously mysterious situation.

 

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

Although it’s the start of the workweek, your mind may be set on doing some serious shopping today. You have an eye for bargains that will help you spot a real deal. This is perfect for hitting thrift stores or buying antiques, and even if it’s not your style to argue over prices, you can be an extra successful negotiator now. Put your money sense to work for you and buy something that appreciates in value and makes you happy.

 

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Although differences of opinion are normal, you don’t need to escalate them into outright conflict today. You’re the passionate type who doesn’t take a half-hearted approach, giving you strength of vision when things get tough. But this intensity can also trap you in an extreme position now. Keep an open mind and a healthy sense of humor. Remember, it isn’t worth damaging a relationship just to make your point.

 

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Although your motto might be live and let live, it seems like you could lose some of your easygoing attitude today. Even a simple conversation can build in intensity and volume until tempers grow out of control. Naturally, you have a right to your opinions, but nothing is gained by getting upset now. Keep things on friendly terms or just drop the subject for a while. Make a peaceful exit from the scene before blowing your cool.

 

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Others seem to make situations more difficult today, especially if you are inflexible in your attitude. You prefer to stick with your plan, but should prepare yourself to make adjustments if you want to avoid conflict. Don’t use force to get your way; instead, step back and try to understand the opposing viewpoint. You may not agree with the ideas, but you can maintain harmony now if you respectfully listen to what’s being said.

 

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You are a great believer in freedom and individuality. Exerting power over other people might not interest you, but you have responsibilities today that require you to step up to the plate and be a leader. Working within specific structures can succeed if the rest of the group shares your enthusiasm for the cause. You may be able to accomplish the impossible now with a dedicated team effort.

 

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Someone might require your emotional support today, but all you can bring is a wider perspective on the situation. Your faith and spirituality help create a larger context to balance a sense of loss. Although a situation may seem hopeless, your innate wisdom is comforting to those in need. Trust in your ability to reduce pain and suffering, even if you feel like you’re not doing all that much now.

Daily Horoscopes for Saturday, November 10

Although we may try to be peaceful today, people surprise us with their unexpected behavior often enough that we remain on edge. The Moon’s entry into gentle Libra at 4:35 am EST reminds us that getting along with others is more important than anything else. But the Moon’s stressful aspects with unpredictable Uranus and ruthless Pluto trigger less-than-placid interactions. Meanwhile, a fated Sun-Jupiter alignment means that we aren’t in control.

 

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

You may be very thankful for those friends and partners who support you even when you’re acting like a pain in the neck. But others still demand a lot from you and they’ll give you their opinions today, even if you don’t ask for them. You are confident that you are doing the right thing now and don’t want anyone to question you. However, remaining open to constructive feedback can help you achieve better results in nearly anything you do.

 

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

You may have a lot of chores on your plate today, yet find it difficult to get started. Part of your problem might stem from your easygoing attitude; you believe that you can easily accomplish everything because you tend to underestimate the time tasks will take. Ask someone to help you correctly gauge the job before saying yes so you don’t find yourself in over your head.

 

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

Your hands-off management style works well for you today as long as your co-workers agree with your plan. However, they might not tell you if they don’t — and their reluctance to communicate can be problematic. You may go along believing that everyone is on board and supporting you, only to find out that your ship has been abandoned. Avoid unnecessary drama now by checking up on others often throughout the day.

 

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

You might not realize there are conflicts at home today until they develop into a minor crisis. Paying attention to the details can help you see past your illusions of perfection. Instead of avoiding unpleasant feelings, remember that you are not the only participant, even if you are intimately involved in the situation. Everyone has his or her own particular role to play in the drama.

 

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Your weekend is already in full swing and you’re more than ready to enjoy yourself. Perhaps you have been burning the candle at both ends and now think that you deserve a well-earned rest. However, unexpected obstacles keep getting in your way. You will be better able to relax if you clear the responsibilities from your path first.

 

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

You can be too generous in your approach to finances today, making you a lousy negotiator. You might even be tempted to give away the bank. It’s easy to forget that some decisions about money should not be made with your heart. Just because you like a particular salesperson, this doesn’t mean you should pay more than a service or product is worth. Keep your wallet in your pocket until your logic returns.

 

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

Even if you have been rather lazy for the last couple of days, you emerge from your go-with-the-flow phase today. You’re more opinionated now and can overreact to others without realizing that anything is wrong. Nevertheless, don’t be afraid of saying what’s on your mind. Your perceptions are keen and you would be smart to trust your impulses as long as you remember to be kind in your delivery.

 

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

You may feel pressured to tie up loose ends early in the day, and this does make good sense. But you probably won’t want to work much now that the reflective Moon is visiting your 12th House of Escapism. You would be better off spending some quiet time alone, taking a nature walk or sharing an intimate moment with someone special. Even if it’s challenging to settle down your emotions, it’s easier to process them when you’re not in a crowd.

 

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Your social inclinations are strong today, yet you might have trouble deciding exactly what to do. You don’t want to miss out on any fun now, making it difficult to commit to one event or another. You even have the ability to turn a relaxing interaction with a friend into something that’s a lot more fun. Balancing work and play is smarter now than completely avoiding your responsibilities.

 

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

You could play the role of a highly skilled diplomat today, because you can clearly see both sides of a complex issue. Additionally, you have analytical tools at your disposal to take what you know and shape it into a convincing argument. But don’t fall into the trap of choosing sides now; instead, help all those involved reach common ground. Your objective outlook is the catalyst to positive change.

 

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

It’s challenging to keep your mind in the here and now when your thoughts are being drawn somewhere else. This futuristic thinking enhances your ability to make plans, but may not have anything to do with the chores you must accomplish today. Nevertheless, if you have been dreaming about taking a vacation, get out your calendar and start to make it happen. Just return to the present moment when reality calls.

 

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Even a casual interaction can feel very intense today as the Moon in your 8th House of Intimacy dynamically squares relentless Pluto. You might wonder if something has changed because everyone seems more formidable now. Don’t let the demands of others overwhelm you. Ultimately, delivering the goods is less important than you think. What counts more is your integrity and intention.

Morning Prayer to the Goddess

Morning Prayer to the Goddess

Blessed Mother Goddess, Divine Spirits,
We ask for your blessing

We pray for your transformative fires
To help us burn away any remaining
Fears, blocks and resistance we may have In allowing deep intimacy into our lives.
We pray for your healing hands
to touch us to our core,
Making us whole, easing our pain
And healing our wounds.
We pray for your eternal waters to wash over us,
Teaching us how to settle into our bodies,
To feel our emotions and your life force move
Gracefully through us.
We pray for your guidance,
In helping us open fully,
Letting our beauty burst forth,
Radiating sensuality, love and strength.
We pray for your wisdom
So all our intimate relationships
Are healthy, juicy, passionate,
Strong and nurturing.
We pray for your continued support,
As we give life to all our desires,
Bringing conscious knowing
Of our wants and needs into the world.
We pray for your gentle presence
In helping us continue to open our hearts with
Deep compassion and love of ourselves,
Of life and all our relations.
May we always remember
That all acts of love and pleasure
Are your rituals.

Best Friends

Best Friends

 

A Warm Refuge

 

by Madisyn Taylor

 

Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves.

 

By the time we reach adulthood, many of us have had the good fortune to have at least one best friend. If we have moved around or changed our life situation repeatedly, we may be lucky enough to have had several. The best friend relationship is often our earliest intimate peer relationship, and it can be a source of great warmth and connection throughout our lives. The details of best friendship change as we grow up and grow older, but the heart of it remains the same. Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves, to share our deepest secrets, to rest when we are tired, to celebrate when we are happy—a place in which we feel utterly welcome to give and receive that most precious of all gifts, love.

Most intimate relationships hit bumps from time to time, and one of the hallmarks of an enduring best friendship is its ability to ride out the turbulence and remain intact even as it faces changes. Our best friends are those who manage to love us through all of our transitions, as we do the same for them. We find ways to embrace and appreciate the differences that set us apart and offer love and support no matter what. We allow each other to be exactly as we are at a given moment, even as we allow each other to change over time. In this way, best friends sometimes feel like family. We know we will stick together regardless of where our individual paths lead.

We may be on the phone with our best friends every day, or we may not have spoken for a year, yet we know that our bond will be strong and immediate when we do connect. This bond ties us together even when we are apart and draws us blissfully back into the warm refuge of each other’s company when our paths bring us together again.

 

 

Quiz of the Day for Oct. 2 – ‘Needy Child or Healthy Adult?’

Needy Child or Healthy Adult? Quiz

by Annie B. Bond

 

What part of you is the most activated in your relationships, the needy child or the healthy adult? Most of us still have unmet childhood needs roiling around inside us that can color and affect our relationships, while the more mature part of us tries to deal with things in a healthier way. Answer these questions to see where you are in the spectrum of relationships. Take the quiz here:

Which of the following statements might you make to your partner in a love relationship?

1. End my loneliness.

2. Be my companion while both of us respect each other’s need to be alone at times.

3. Make me feel good.

4. I take responsibility for my own feelings and don’t expect or need to feel good all the time.

5. Give in to me.

6. Negotiate with me.

7. Never betray me, lie to me, or disappoint me.

8. I accept you as fallible and seek to address, process, and resolve issues with you.

9. Help me not to have fear. I depend on you.

10. Help me to learn to love. We depend on each other.

11. Totally fulfill my needs.

12. Moderately fulfill my needs.

13. Help me repeat old, painful scenarios from childhood and former relationships.

14. I have mourned the past, learned from it, and now want something better.

15. Indulge my ego.

16. Confront and free my ego.

If you answered mostly odd-numbered statements, your inner child is saying, “I am looking for stability outside myself. I demand 100 percent of my need fulfillment from my partner.”

If you answered mostly even-numbered statements, your healthy adult is saying, “I am looking for a setting that honors and enriches the stability I have inside. I hope to get about 25 percent of my need fulfillment from my partner.”

Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of October 1

The heat is on this Thursday as amorous Venus in romantic Leo forms an energizing square with passionate Mars in Scorpio. This cosmic intensity can provoke risky behavior, especially with the impetuous Aries Full Moon occurring on Saturday night. Expect the unexpected; radical changes in relationships are almost impossible to avoid. Keep your heart open and embrace the unknown.
Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

This dramatic week peaks with the Full Moon illuminating your independent and impulsive sign on Saturday night. Revolutionary Uranus adds a shocking flavor to this lunation which may spur you to act recklessly. This spontaneity might work well if you’re open to experimentation or want to break free of old habits. Restlessness and rebellion, though, can kick up explosive feelings that trigger dramatic changes in a partnership. Be honest and flexible in your approach so you can enjoy new experiences without being destructive in the process.

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

Surprises may come out of the blue with Saturday’s explosive Aries Full Moon lighting up your secretive 12th House of Privacy. Complicated feelings that you’ve hidden from others, maybe even from yourself, might suddenly surface. People seem unreliable now as attitudes and plans could change in an instant. Yet putting pressure on anyone is likely to backfire. Instead, allow yourself to accept strange emotional territory as if you were visiting a foreign country. Keep an open mind and be respectful to everyone you meet.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Friends could entice you to do some unusual things on Saturday with an adventuresome Aries Full Moon landing in your 11th House of Groups. If you’re not normally into joining organizations, though, this might be the time to see what one can do for your personal life. However, your desire to explain your experiences could be difficult to fulfill. It’s better to let loose and accept a little weirdness than to force yourself to make sense of emotions and people that don’t fit your usual reality.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Saturday’s Full Moon in impatient Aries is wired with hard aspects to volatile Uranus and provocative Pluto. This cosmic electricity occurs in your 10th House of Public Responsibility, making you feel like you have to put everything in order immediately. It’s healthier, though, to temporarily let go of your obligations than to try to control the behavior of others. If you can relax and enjoy the chaos, you might be surprised with how much fun it is to just go with the flow.

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Your weekend could be wild with an irrepressible Aries Full Moon shining in your 9th House of Faraway Places on Saturday. You may be restless and ready to run with radical Uranus opposing the radiant Sun. Whether you need to get away from the predictability of your current relationship or are single and seeking to stretch your horizons, breaking social rules and exploring unfamiliar territory is very appealing. Just remember this escapade is a test drive rather than a long-term commitment.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Saturday’s fiery Aries Full Moon shocks your 8th House of Intimacy and rattles relationships in surprising ways. This may include a sudden attraction to someone who is far from your usual type. It might also indicate a breakthrough with your current partner that leads to a new kind of connection. Basically, it’s time to free yourself from worrying about what others think, allowing you more space to explore emotionally and physically.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

This may be a key week in your relationship life. Saturday’s electrifying Aries Full Moon lights up your 7th House of Partners and opposes the willful Sun in your sign. This volatility could attract unpredictable behavior by others, which can either be exciting or too weird for your taste. It’s better, though, for you to be the one who takes the initiative to break patterns and surprise people with a bolder and brasher approach to getting what and who you want.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Thursday and Friday are both sweet and sassy with high potential in the romance department. The spiritual and sensitive Pisces Moon occupies your amorous 5th House, inspiring fantasies about love. The best part is that you have the ability to make these dreams real now. Bold Venus in Leo tangles with passionate Mars in Scorpio on Thursday, making almost anything sound slightly seductive. Set aside time to make the most pleasurable use of these persuasive powers while you have the chance.

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Saturday’s scintillating Aries Full Moon sets your 5th House of Romance on fire with desire. You’re itching for excitement and hungry for fresh forms of fun. Variety is the spice of your life so use your imagination to create new ways to play. You might shock some people with strange ideas or by coming on too strong. It may be hard to pace yourself now when you’ve got love on the brain, but a tiny bit of patience will help your cause in the long run.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Your approach to love is often mature and tempered by common sense and practicality. However, that kind of rational reasoning may not work well this week. A Venus-Mars square on Thursday steams up relationships with a complex mix of mistrust and desire. The intensity grows stronger with Saturday’s explosive Aries Full Moon, making the ground tremble in your 4th House of Roots. Letting go of the past is the best way to ride this cosmic wave of change into a more exciting future.

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

The impulsive Aries Full Moon meets up with your revolutionary ruling planet Uranus on Saturday, triggering some unpredictable behavior and inspiring some weird conversations. You’re no stranger to unusual ideas and might find it amusing to hear some new outrageous ones, but it can be unsettling when the cautious folks start talking crazy. If it’s amusing, join the party but if it’s not that funny, just slip away to clear your mind.

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

The Moon in your psychically sensitive sign gets feelings flowing on Thursday and Friday. It’s natural to be tender when you’re a Fish, yet a manipulative person might undermine your trust in relationships now. Recognizing the difference between sex and love can help you determine how far you’re willing to go to gain the affection of another. Just because you find it easy to sacrifice your interests for someone else’s pleasure doesn’t mean that you should do it. Being true to yourself is the first step to figuring out what to do next.

Your Daily Horoscopes for Monday, September 24

We start the day with specific goals and realistic plans to reach them, but everything seems to take longer than expected. We are willing to work harder for what we want now that the ambitious Capricorn Moon forms a dynamic square with taskmaster Saturn. Although our nerves may be on edge, patience is exactly what we need until the Moon shifts into ingenious Aquarius at 7:32 pm EDT, revealing inventive solutions to lingering problems.

 

Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

This is quite a busy week for you, making it crucial to focus on the tasks you need to finish. But even if you try to keep your blinders on until you have made a dent in your list of things to do, other more disruptive forces are at work now. Accepting the distractions with a sense of humor reduces the stress. Nevertheless, extra concentration is needed today to keep you on track.

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You may feel as if someone is not being cooperative today, possibly with respect to your romantic inclinations. If you are in a relationship, your partner might seem distant, as if he or she is setting up roadblocks to intimacy. Don’t get too worked up about it; celebrate your cup being half full instead of complaining that it’s half empty. Ironically, the resistance could dissipate once you stop trying so hard to make everything perfect.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

You are concerned that you can’t pursue all the intriguing curiosities popping up in your life now because your time and efforts are limited by circumstances beyond your control. A demanding situation at work may prevent you from being as independent as you wish. Surprisingly, your calendar could open up once you resign yourself to meeting your current obligations.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Your unfulfilled needs stand in the way of your satisfaction now, for it’s unlikely that others will give you everything that you want. If you are already in a close partnership, you may have to negotiate before you are taken seriously. But this isn’t as bad as it sounds because the real lesson is to learn what you can give to yourself. Clearly defining what you want from a relationship is a good start, but knowing how to fill in the gaps on your own is necessary.

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

It might appear as if your life is going to settle down for a bit, but this may be a premature hopeful conclusion. Although you see progress at work, there are unexpected twists and turns in the path ahead of you this week. Use your time wisely now to get ready for whatever you might run into later on. And, if others offer their assistance today, don’t let your pride get in the way of accepting help. Being gracious works well both in giving and receiving.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Your current creativity probably originates from your desire to achieve and get ahead rather than bubbling up from the wellsprings of inspiration. You know what you want to accomplish and, luckily, you have the ability to transform your playful or romantic urges into serious practical manifestations. Whatever you do today, make sure that it’s done with a greater purpose in mind.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

An unexpected twist on the relationship path may not be such a problem now, since it’s probably helpful to release hidden tensions. However, you would prefer to sidestep a sticky issue in order to keep the peace. But even if you are trying to maintain stability, conflict could work its way into the picture. Nevertheless, don’t avoid an important discussion because honest communication is one of the primary ingredients of healthy change.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Two separate issues could arise now. First, you are redefining your own boundaries, even if this means a bit of self-imposed isolation. Secondly, a stream of revelations prevents you from feeling sorry for yourself. You may even be amused by the melodramatic soap opera of your life these days. This healthy attitude gives you the necessary detachment so you can withdraw for a while to facilitate your continued personal growth.

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

If you are feeling critical of your friends today, examine your own behavior prior to making any false accusations. You may be uncharacteristically traditional now as you compare your values with those closest to you. But there’s no reason to judge anyone else, even if someone acts in an apparently irresponsible manner. Let others know where you stand, but don’t try to change them. Simply decide what’s valuable to you and then work for what you want.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

A wave of uncertainty washes over you today but your tendency is to reinforce your walls to shut off the flow of the unknown. You could be scared that your whole world may be quickly destabilized if you acknowledge your lack of control. Just remember, the more you engage your irrational fears and express them to someone you trust, the greater the potential for positive change.

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You may feel as if someone is secretly trying to influence your behavior, and it’s difficult to know the best way to react to the situation. There are unknown pieces to the puzzle today and you cannot effectively fight an unseen enemy. Instead of lighting the fuse and picking up the pieces afterward, try holding on to familiar healthy routines now. The truth will come out soon enough, still leaving you with enough time to act once it does.

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

It seems like you’re being restrained from expressing yourself as freely as you wish today, yet this is likely more constructive than you realize. If you just say whatever is on your mind, you could end up offending someone who means a lot to you. Patience is your best friend now. Don’t make any sudden changes; move slowly and with great intent if you feel certain about someone or something special.

Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of September 24th

The heat is on this Thursday as amorous Venus in romantic Leo forms an energizing square with passionate Mars in Scorpio. This cosmic intensity can provoke risky behavior, especially with the impetuous Aries Full Moon occurring on Saturday night. Expect the unexpected; radical changes in relationships are almost impossible to avoid. Keep your heart open and embrace the unknown.

 

Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

This dramatic week peaks with the Full Moon illuminating your independent and impulsive sign on Saturday night. Revolutionary Uranus adds a shocking flavor to this lunation which may spur you to act recklessly. This spontaneity might work well if you’re open to experimentation or want to break free of old habits. Restlessness and rebellion, though, can kick up explosive feelings that trigger dramatic changes in a partnership. Be honest and flexible in your approach so you can enjoy new experiences without being destructive in the process.

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

Surprises may come out of the blue with Saturday’s explosive Aries Full Moon lighting up your secretive 12th House of Privacy. Complicated feelings that you’ve hidden from others, maybe even from yourself, might suddenly surface. People seem unreliable now as attitudes and plans could change in an instant. Yet putting pressure on anyone is likely to backfire. Instead, allow yourself to accept strange emotional territory as if you were visiting a foreign country. Keep an open mind and be respectful to everyone you meet.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Friends could entice you to do some unusual things on Saturday with an adventuresome Aries Full Moon landing in your 11th House of Groups. If you’re not normally into joining organizations, though, this might be the time to see what one can do for your personal life. However, your desire to explain your experiences could be difficult to fulfill. It’s better to let loose and accept a little weirdness than to force yourself to make sense of emotions and people that don’t fit your usual reality.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Saturday’s Full Moon in impatient Aries is wired with hard aspects to volatile Uranus and provocative Pluto. This cosmic electricity occurs in your 10th House of Public Responsibility, making you feel like you have to put everything in order immediately. It’s healthier, though, to temporarily let go of your obligations than to try to control the behavior of others. If you can relax and enjoy the chaos, you might be surprised with how much fun it is to just go with the flow.

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Your weekend could be wild with an irrepressible Aries Full Moon shining in your 9th House of Faraway Places on Saturday. You may be restless and ready to run with radical Uranus opposing the radiant Sun. Whether you need to get away from the predictability of your current relationship or are single and seeking to stretch your horizons, breaking social rules and exploring unfamiliar territory is very appealing. Just remember this escapade is a test drive rather than a long-term commitment.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Saturday’s fiery Aries Full Moon shocks your 8th House of Intimacy and rattles relationships in surprising ways. This may include a sudden attraction to someone who is far from your usual type. It might also indicate a breakthrough with your current partner that leads to a new kind of connection. Basically, it’s time to free yourself from worrying about what others think, allowing you more space to explore emotionally and physically.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

This may be a key week in your relationship life. Saturday’s electrifying Aries Full Moon lights up your 7th House of Partners and opposes the willful Sun in your sign. This volatility could attract unpredictable behavior by others, which can either be exciting or too weird for your taste. It’s better, though, for you to be the one who takes the initiative to break patterns and surprise people with a bolder and brasher approach to getting what and who you want.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Thursday and Friday are both sweet and sassy with high potential in the romance department. The spiritual and sensitive Pisces Moon occupies your amorous 5th House, inspiring fantasies about love. The best part is that you have the ability to make these dreams real now. Bold Venus in Leo tangles with passionate Mars in Scorpio on Thursday, making almost anything sound slightly seductive. Set aside time to make the most pleasurable use of these persuasive powers while you have the chance.

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Saturday’s scintillating Aries Full Moon sets your 5th House of Romance on fire with desire. You’re itching for excitement and hungry for fresh forms of fun. Variety is the spice of your life so use your imagination to create new ways to play. You might shock some people with strange ideas or by coming on too strong. It may be hard to pace yourself now when you’ve got love on the brain, but a tiny bit of patience will help your cause in the long run.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Your approach to love is often mature and tempered by common sense and practicality. However, that kind of rational reasoning may not work well this week. A Venus-Mars square on Thursday steams up relationships with a complex mix of mistrust and desire. The intensity grows stronger with Saturday’s explosive Aries Full Moon, making the ground tremble in your 4th House of Roots. Letting go of the past is the best way to ride this cosmic wave of change into a more exciting future.

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

The impulsive Aries Full Moon meets up with your revolutionary ruling planet Uranus on Saturday, triggering some unpredictable behavior and inspiring some weird conversations. You’re no stranger to unusual ideas and might find it amusing to hear some new outrageous ones, but it can be unsettling when the cautious folks start talking crazy. If it’s amusing, join the party but if it’s not that funny, just slip away to clear your mind.

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

The Moon in your psychically sensitive sign gets feelings flowing on Thursday and Friday. It’s natural to be tender when you’re a Fish, yet a manipulative person might undermine your trust in relationships now. Recognizing the difference between sex and love can help you determine how far you’re willing to go to gain the affection of another. Just because you find it easy to sacrifice your interests for someone else’s pleasure doesn’t mean that you should do it. Being true to yourself is the first step to figuring out what to do next.

Daily OM for August 24 – A Chance to Contribute

A Chance to Contribute

Disarming the Know-It-All

by Madisyn Taylor

People that are know-it-alls are simply stuck in a pattern and may actually have feelings of low self worth.

Most of us have encountered a person in our lives who can accurately be referred to as a know-it-all. This person seems to know everything about anything that gets brought up and tends to dominate the conversation. They don’t take well to being questioned, and they have a hard time ever admitting that they were wrong.

Being around a know-it-all is inevitably tiring because there is no shared energy between the two of you. Rather, you become an audience member to this person’s need to be the center of attention. Attention and respect are probably the two things this person most longs for, and at some point in their lives, they learned that knowing it all was the way to get those needs met. Over time, they have become stuck in this pattern, regardless of the fact that it is no longer working. They may feel afraid of the experience of listening, being receptive, or learning something new, because it’s so unfamiliar.

On the one hand, when we see the childlike need underneath the know-it-all’s mask of confidence, we feel compassion for the person, and we may tolerate their one-sided approach to conversation out of a desire not to hurt their feelings. On the other hand, we may be feeling drained and tempted to avoid this person altogether. In the middle of these two possible ways of feeling, we may actually like this person and wish for a closer relationship. If we come from a place of kindness, we might attempt to bridge the gap that this person’s habitual way of relating creates. Simply expressing a desire to be closer may open their heart, and give you a chance to ask for what you need in the relationship—a chance to contribute.

Daily Horoscopes for Thursday, August 16

We know what we want today, yet something is holding us back. Still, we might not be willing to limit our desires by adhering to socially acceptable norms. Romantic Venus dynamically squares unconventional Uranus, zapping us with unusual feelings. Even the heart-centered Leo Moon trines shocking Uranus, prompting us to release pent up emotional stress suddenly, like lightning during a storm. Thankfully, the energy settles down later in the day.

 

Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

You’re fairly confident that you’ll reach your destination, but you have trouble verbalizing your needs today. Unfortunately, your goals may be so far out of the box now that you cannot talk about them. Even still, you might attempt to express your feelings anyhow, only to discover what you want changes as the day goes on. Go ahead and open your heart, but remain flexible and be ready for a surprise.

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You don’t like being caught off guard, but today you may have to respond quickly to new feelings that arise quite suddenly. You won’t be able to blame anyone else now, as this is probably a result of your own urges that erupt from the hidden depths of your unconscious mind. Don’t withdraw; take every opportunity to break through whatever you have been avoiding. Facing your fears is the best way to overcome them.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

You’re usually willing to explore pleasurable distractions, but it’s not that easy today. Other people have their expectations, but you might be disinterested in their goals now. If you do go along with someone’s unusual request, you’ll likely regret it later. Nevertheless, you don’t want to let down a friend or associate. Do what is required, but don’t be surprised if you get restless during the day and just want to walk away from it all.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Innovative ideas pop up unexpectedly today, thrilling you with the possibilities. However, this isn’t a great time to let these desires run your life. In fact, it’s wise to filter your thoughts so you don’t get pulled off track. The challenge is in discerning which dreams are worth pursuing. Remember, you can think about all your options without having to act on every one.

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

You may become upset if a co-worker ruins your fun today, but keep in mind that no one is purposefully trying to make your life difficult. To the contrary, others are more likely to assist you along your road to emotional satisfaction if you are doing your fair share. Although you might not get your way now, being a team player greatly increases your chances for fulfillment and enjoyment.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Someone may step into your world unexpectedly today with an intense emotional outburst that doesn’t fit into your idea of appropriate behavior. Fortunately, you are magnanimous enough to incorporate this unsettling experience, but you need to make a conscious decision to be compassionate rather than critical. A great adventure can be yours if you accept the fact that you cannot control all the facets of your life all the time.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

Forget about sticking to your normal routine today since your key planet Venus is buzzed by high-strung Uranus. You may even feel as if you’re going crazy, but rest assured it’s just that the energy is a bit unstable now. Let restrictive structures and unhealthy assumptions fall away without resistance. Resume your regularly scheduled activities once the dust settles.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

You may experience free-floating anxiety today as you’re feeling a combination of excitement and annoyance. Although others could seem overly stubborn, you might actually be the one most responsible for holding yourself back. Even if you feel trapped by the current circumstances, don’t focus on your limitations. Instead, allow your feelings to take you wherever they go without judging them. You can easily find your way back to a more productive place later on.

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Unpredictable Uranus rattles magnetic Venus today while she visits your 8th House of Intimacy. If your pocketbook isn’t directly affected now, your love life might be the next thing in line. Don’t give anyone else power over you — either emotionally or financially — as your current need for immediate gratification may feel more important than how much cash you have in your checking account. Be willing to take a risk as long as you carefully consider the consequences first.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Someone may jump to the wrong conclusion about your desires, especially if you aren’t forthcoming with what you want now. In other words, what you don’t say today can be even more important than what you do say. Step outside of your comfort zone and speak your piece. No matter how irrational your feelings are, it’s still better if they’re out in the open.

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

Your attachment to objects of beauty might get you into trouble today, whether you are attracted to a piece of art or another person. Although your desires aren’t necessarily physical, they could manifest that way now. Ultimately, you’re more in love with an idea than with anything in reality. Understanding this can help reduce your frustration, especially if you are less than satisfied with what you receive.

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Your behavior seems highly erratic now, making it difficult for anyone to trust you. However, your emotions are very close to the surface and your sudden mood shifts are quickly reflected in transparent mannerisms. It’s not necessary to be in total control today. Let others know that you are moving through some rough waters and could use their support. Ask and you just might receive more than you expect.

The Fourth REDE – The Great Work

THE FOURTH REDE – THE GREAT WORK

Keep pure your highest ideal; strive ever towards it; let naught stop
you or turn you aside.

To Moondaughter, men and women were children of the Lord and Lady in more senses
than one. Not only are we the offspring of Their sacred joining, but we are also
children in the sense that we are immature. We have not yet grown into the
spiritual and ethical maturity of which we are capable.

Moondaughter taught that the human children of the Lord and the Lady are in the
process of growth, a time during which they must build for themselves that
nobility of character that is their natural inheritance. Moondaughter’s students
learned that we cannot look elsewhere for salvation, but must build our
characters by our own actions. This is the Great Work.

Nobility of character, however, was only the outer aspect of the Great Work,
according to Moondaughter. The inner aspect was mystical union with the Lord and
Lady. Mysticism and ethics were for Moondaughter converging lines, each of which
must be energetically pursued. To neglect one would obstruct progress in the
other.

The Threefold Law

It is to Moondaughter that I owe my understanding of the Threefold Law, the
Wiccan precept that whatever a person does, good or evil, returns to her
threefold.

Every action, Moondaughter taught, first affects the self directly by leaving
its imprint on the character of the actor. Second, it affects the target of the
action, with whom the actor is in relationship, and the effects feedback upon
the actor through that relationship. Finally, every action affects the
environment in which the actor must live — ultimately, the entire universe —
and thus feeds back again upon the actor.

Thus the Great Work is a transformation of self which we pursue through our
actions and our relationships. It is the realization of our nature as children
of the Lord and Lady; and — since each of us is part of the web of
relationships which connect all that exists — it is at the same time a
transformation of the universe as a whole.

Mind and Body as Lover and Beloved

Moondaughter taught that the Great Work could be divided into three interrelated
aspects, each of which establishes a relationship of lover and beloved. The
first aspect of the Great Work consists of bringing one’s own mind and body into
the relationship of lover and beloved. Externally, this relationship results in
the opening of the inner senses, and therefore much of magical development is
concerned with this small part of the Great Work.

The union of mind and body, however, has an ethical dimension as well as a
magical one. Moondaughter taught that perfect unity of mind and body could only
be achieved when the actions that result from the mind/body interaction are
consistently based on Will rather than desire — a transition that requires more
than a little self-discipline.

It is possible (and unfortunately not uncommon) for mind and body to form a
relationship in actions that contradict the Will. Rape, for example, is a
perversion of sexuality which develops a dysfunctional relationship between the
mind and body of the rapist and corrupts the Work within him. Thus, living by
the Wiccan Rede — an’ it harm none, do what ye will — is a first step toward
accomplishing this first aspect of the Great Work.

The Sacred Marriage

The second aspect of the Great Work is the Sacred Marriage. Moondaughter taught
that for most of us this means that a man and a women come together as lover and
beloved, not merely physically and for a time, but on all levels and forever, in
a relationship that is in harmony with their individual Wills.

While each of us already has both Yin Self and Yang Self, union with the sacred
spouse brings Yin and Yang together in ways which transform each partner. Lover
and beloved act as priest and priestess for each other, and together they become
an embodiment of the Lord and the Lady.

The Unity of all Life

The third aspect of the Great Work is unity with all beings. This, Moondaughter
taught, is accomplished when an individual takes the entire universe as her
beloved, in a relationship in harmony with her Will.

In the lesser sense, this aspect is achieved when the individual comes to
spontaneously regard all beings with the love and compassion that the Lord and
the Lady feel for their children. In the greater sense, however, this aspect is
not achieved until humanity as a whole regards all beings with that love.

The culmination of this Work on the individual level, according to Moondaughter,
is a state in which the individual inherits the character of the Lord and the
Lady, and lives constantly in the presence of Lord and Lady. This is not a state
which I believe has been achieved by very many incarnate human beings, but I
have found it a most worthwhile goal toward which to strive.

The Third REDE – Lover and Beloved

THE THIRD REDE – LOVER AND BELOVED

For mine is the ecstasy of the spirit, and mine also is joy on earth;
for my law is love unto all beings.

I am the gracious Goddess, who gives the gift of joy unto the heart
of man.

Moondaughter taught us that the ideal relationship is when two beings interact
as lover and beloved. By this she did not necessarily imply a sexual
relationship; in many cases — such as between adults and children or teacher and student — she considered that any sexual relationship would be a violation
of that concern for the welfare of the other which was the essence of the lover/beloved relationship. Nevertheless, the love between the Lord and the Lady
was for her the ideal toward which all relationships should evolve.

According to Moondaughter, joy is not created by an individual alone. Joy is
created when a lover has a relationship with a beloved. The beloved need not be
another person — an artist feels joy both when she has a stimulating vision or
idea as her beloved, and again when her vision or idea stands before her as a
realized work of art. In this, men and women are the children of the Lord and
the Lady, who also feel joy from such relationships. Whether or not the
relationship is sexual, the interaction of lover and beloved unites them into
one being.

The True Will

Moondaughter believed that at some deep level, every being intuitively knows
that joy is produced by relationships between lover and beloved. She taught that
it was from this inner knowledge that the Will of the individual arises. While
an individual may sometimes feel desires to act in ways which are destructive to
others, Moondaughter taught that the Will seeks that joy which is produced only
by harmonious relationships with others.

Since any relationship requires the participation of both self and other, Will
has both the aspect of seeking the welfare of the self and also the aspect of
seeking the welfare of the beloved. According to Moondaughter, these two aspects
of the Will are related and interdependent, not opposed. Since joy comes from
relationships, harming the other in any relationship lessens one’s own joy.

The Ecstasy of the Spirit

According to Moondaughter, it is the nature of Love to seek a beloved to love.
The joy that is produced by the Lord’s love for the Lady and the Lady’s love for
the Lord is beyond human experience, but Love is never satisfied, and so the
Lord and the Lady gave birth children who could respond to Their Love, and give
Them joy, and receive joy from taking Them as beloveds.

My own understanding of this teaching is that as an individual grows in love,
she expands her circle of beloveds until, like the Lord and the Lady, she Wills
the welfare of all that exists. It seems to me that when they first appear
tribalism and nationalism can be healthy stages in this growth, but they can
also become diseases which hold men and women back from a larger, and more
joyful, circle of beloveds.

I know from my own experience that each man and woman can be both lover and
beloved to both the Lord and the Lady, and that the intensity of this
relationship deepens as one brings one’s character into harmony with one’s own
Will. The joy produced by this relationship is beyond words.

Stop Malicious Gossip

Stop Malicious Gossip 

An easy way to stop malicious gossip is as follows:

Write the name of the person who is gossiping on a piece of white paper. Now think positive thoughts and send loving energy to them (I know it sounds crazy, but…). Place the paper in a glass of water and put it in the freezer. This will freeze the problem.

If you also wish for people to not be so nosy or involved in your business, you can add black ink to the water. This will cloak you from their prying eyes.

Remember to add positive thought. You are not trying to control the person, you are protecting yourself from harmful thoughts, and sending positive energy to deflect negative intent. Harm none!