Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of September 28th

Weekly Love Horoscopes by Maria DeSimone

General Horoscope

You might still be reeling from Sunday’s Lunar Eclipse in Aries. It certainly put a dent in partnership plans for many. Why? Because Aries insists on going it alone, on focusing on developing the self. This self-directed behavior can sometimes come across as selfish to others — especially to one’s partner. And yet, this Lunar Eclipse challenged many of us to remain true to ourselves and to let go of what was no longer serving our personal agenda — even if it was at the expense of one’s relationship. Mercury retrograde in Libra continues to muddle efforts to reach compromise. This week? It’s all about recovery. Read all about it.

 

Aries Horoscope Mar 21 – Apr 19

While you need to remain true to yourself, this week you might also realize that doing so is at the expense of your partner. Do what you can to find some middle ground during this time of intense personal change. A conversation with your partner on Wednesday might bring up old, unresolved issues that continue to haunt your mate with resentment. Don’t run away from the conversation — run towards it.

 

Taurus Horoscope Apr 20 – May 20

Take advantage of the Moon touring your sign between Tuesday afternoon, and into Thursday afternoon. During this time, you’ll wear your heart on your sleeve making it much easier for your partner to see your true feelings about any situation. If you’ve been keeping your emotions locked up for some reason, you’re likely to realize that it’s no longer serving you or your relationship.

 

Gemini Horoscope May 21 – Jun 20

Changes in your social life might cause more confusion in your love life than you ever thought possible. If, for example, you recently ended a friendship, you might discover this week that your sweetheart has no intention of cutting ties with this person just because you did. In this case, you’ll need to examine why you feel threatened or unsupported about his or her decision. An honest conversation is called for.

Cancer Horoscope Jun 21 – Jul 22

Domestic squabbles and uncertainty might bleed into your relationship harmony more than you’d prefer. Unfortunately, it appears to be unavoidable. You and your mate are long overdue for a few conversations that are likely to make both of you uncomfortable. At the same time however, the future of your family harmony might be at stake. Roll up your sleeves and get to work. Even better, consider family or couples counseling to help iron out any stalemate.

Leo Horoscope Jul 23 – Aug 22

Your mind is completely overwhelmed with relationship thoughts and decisions these days. Since September 17, Mercury has been traveling retrograde in your message sector and he’s been in the partnership sign, Libra. As a result, until October 9, you’ll continue to go back and forth about several issues connected to your love life. Don’t expect to reach full clarity until after Mercury turns direct. This Wednesday however, you might have a breakthrough.

 

Virgo Horoscope Aug 23 – Sep 22

You and your partner might be in need of a serious conversation this week. Whether your finances are intermingled or not, it looks like your mate has put his or her nose into your personal finances over the last couple of weeks. His or her ideas or comments might have left you feeling more insecure or frustrated than you expected. This week, consider approaching your mate to discuss what’s really behind his or her snide remarks. You’ll be glad you did.

 

Libra Horoscope Sep 23 – Oct 22

With Mercury traveling retrograde in your sign since September 17, it hasn’t been easy to get your points across to your mate with ease. This past Sunday, a Lunar Eclipse in your partnership sector might have added even more tension to an already frustrating situation between the two of you. Do your best to pick up the pieces this week. Most of all remain patient and understanding. A productive conversation is possible. Aim for Wednesday.

 

Scorpio Horoscope Oct 23 – Nov 21

Words that have been left unsaid to your partner for way to long are likely to be the source of your frustration these days. You want to have these conversations with your partner — finally! The problem is that every time you think about how you want to express yourself, you get stuck. Don’t be so hard on yourself now. Instead, give yourself a pat on the back for at least having a desire to get the dialogue started. Even if it’s messy.

 

Sagittarius Horoscope Nov 22 – Dec 21

Taking advice from a well-meaning friend this week about your love life might prove to be confusing at best and disastrous at worst. Or, it’s possible that you’ll be the one who tries to provide guidance to your pal, only to realize that you should have kept your mouth shut instead. When it comes to friendship and matters of the heart, do your best to keep things separate. At least until after October 9.

 

Capricorn Horoscope Dec 22 – Jan 19

The Moon will tour your true love sector between Tuesday and Thursday afternoon, providing a wonderful opportunity to be completely transparent about your feelings with your lover. The best part of this is that he or she will be just as emotionally receptive. As a bonus, you’ll also enjoy more physical pleasures together as you relate. Think pillow talk or a soak in the tub together. Give each other a massage or foot rub. Hug.

 

Aquarius Horoscope Jan 20 – Feb 18

You and your partner might feel as if you share extremely different viewpoints on a moral or philosophical matter. As you continue to have conversations about this specific topic, do your best to respect each other’s differences and let go of the need to make yourself right. If not, this might only lead to a greater rift in your ability to communicate about things that matter most.

 

Pisces Horoscope Feb 19 – Mar 20

You’ll need to pay attention to financial matters this week that involve your partner. Whether it’s how you both pool your resources in order to pay down any shared debt, or, if it’s about investment strategies, it might be helpful to involve a third party into the conversation. You and your mate are likely to have a hard time making any decision together without an expert such as your accountant or financial advisor weighing in. Make the call.

 

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Your Daily Horoscopes for Sunday, August 2nd

 

 

 

 

 

Your Daily Horoscopes for Sunday, August 2nd

 

Aries

Aries Horoscope
Aries

You can feel exceptionally romantic or simply confident and expressive today, dear Aries, with a lot of activity in your solar fifth house. The energy is quite creative but a little volatile, so that there can be some ups and downs in how you’re perceiving things. It could be that a conversation that was well overdue occurs now, something that clears the air, or news stimulates a desire to reconsider pursuit of a goal. Some doubts could enter the picture later today and tomorrow, but these can serve to simply slow you down – it doesn’t need to stop you in your tracks. The Moon is in your retreat sector all day, encouraging you to take some time away from overly demanding or competitive situations.

Taurus

Taurus

There can be an important conversation or news today that makes you quite hopeful about a family situation, or that serves to motivate you to push forward with domestic plans, dear Taurus. Some of you could be clearing the air about a past matter and seeing opportunities to put the negative elements of the past behind you, particularly in a relationship with a loved one. Be courageous now, even if someone seems to be putting a damper in your plans, or if you face criticism later today. While family is in sharp focus, you’re also very tuned in to friends, groups, and networking.

Gemini

Gemini

Conversations can be especially progressive, enthusiastic, and spirited this morning, dear Gemini. You might have an overdue talk or something is said that helps to clear the air. Later today, however, you might be a little more guarded and could feel as if you’ve been misunderstood. Keep an open mind today, and look for opportunities to discover new interests. Friends can inspire you to think creatively or could help give you the courage to try something new. The Moon is in your public sector all day, encouraging sticking to the rules and tradition, and stimulating your ambition.

Cancer

Cancer

There can be a strong focus of interest and conversation on business matters, money, personal possessions, and basic values today, dear Cancer. There can be good news or something that makes you feel especially confident and hopeful about the future, especially along practical lines. While energy is generally forward-looking and even electric at times, tonight and tomorrow, you might have to face a reality that at first disappoints you, but that should only serve to slow you down rather than halt your plans altogether. Slowing down can often help you to make important adjustments. Look for a middle ground in any conflicts you might have with a significant other. Spending may need to be reined in.

Leo

Leo

You have considerably more impact than usual today, dear Leo, and typically you already have quite a bit! You may be expressing yourself courageously this morning. Others are likely to receive you quite well right now, although generally speaking you should be watching the way you express yourself these days. Higher education pursuits can thrive. Finding yourself on the same (or similar!) page with a significant person in your life can be rewarding. A constructive conversation with a friend or associate can figure prominently today. Your need to be heard is significant right now and you can count on others listening. Draw on courage to assert your independence without alienating others. Later today and tomorrow, there could be a letdown or a sudden need to step on the brakes with a project if you’ve been pushing too hard.

Virgo

Virgo Symbol/Glyph
Virgo

You might reawaken a topic from the past today, dear Virgo, or have new insight into an old issue. There can be a good feeling of purging or release involved with bringing something to light. Your inner world is animated, and you could have a strong sense that right now is the time to make important inner changes. New opportunities can emerge that turn your attention to matters behind the scenes. As the day advances, there could be some feelings of regret or fear that you’ve revealed too much, or you could discover that others are not very receptive to your needs. We are closing in on a Jupiter-Saturn square exact early tomorrow that can point to a hurdle to leap. Transportation, communication, or mechanical matters can slow you down or present delays.

Libra

Libra Glyph-Symbol
Libra

Your social life can be up and down or quite animated today, dear Libra. Aim to be open to possibilities and to making changes related to a partner or friend. Self-expression comes easily now, and you may be developing decent rapport with people around you. Later today, there can be a temporary drop in confidence that leads to negative thinking or the second-guessing of recent openness. Use this as a time for examining your goals and perhaps making some adjustments to them, but before making sweeping changes, wait things out in order to come to a more balanced decision, as today can be up and down and rarely middle ground. Tomorrow’s Jupiter-Saturn square can stimulate a reality check, particularly along material or financial lines.

Scorpio

Scorpio Symbol Glyph
Scorpio

You might receive special attention today, dear Scorpio, especially in a professional sense. While in a general sense we tend to turn to the past for answers, today brings good energy for getting over things, living in the present and looking forward to the future, rather than dwelling on the past. New insights into your career path or simply a work project can emerge today that can truly propel you forward. Later today, something that’s communicated could be taken the wrong way, or you could be rethinking recent ideas or communications. Some of you might even feel a bit slighted. You may feel the need to make adjustments to how you approach others as a result. Take your time weighing pros and cons, but do consider all of your options. The Moon in your recreation and self-expression sector all day can help boost your mood.

Sagittarius

Sagittarius Glyph Symbol
Sagittarius

For much of the day, you can feel quite inspired, faithful, and trusting, dear Sagittarius. Good advice is circulating, and you may just as well receive or give it. You could in fact speak words of wisdom that inspire someone. There can be a strong temptation to speak about a matter or voice an opinion today. Later, however, you may feel the need to revisit plans or statements. While travel, romantic, or creative opportunities can be opening now, there can be some doubts later today that are temporary and can serve a good purpose if they slow you down enough to see an important detail that you previously missed. If they only serve to bring you down, take a second look.

Capricorn

Capricorn Symbol/Glyph
Capricorn

You can be in an investigating frame of mind today, dear Capricorn, with a lot of activity in your solar eighth house. It’s up and down, however, so that while you can discover interesting new things, there can be something that brings you down or disappoints you now. Know your limits. Listen, observe, and process before jumping to conclusions. There can be a strong desire or an opportunity to speak about a private, hidden, or taboo matter today. You may be clearing the air now, and feeling some form of release as a result. Tonight, try to push yourself above your insecurities. If you let fear rule, you may miss an opportunity to get closer to someone. However, heed signs to slow down if you see them.

Aquarius

Aquarius

You may get quite an earful today, dear Aquarius. People in your life can be especially verbal, and you can be very supportive as you bring new light to a problem or good advice to the table. Generally favorable, forward-looking energy is with you, even if there may be a small struggle with a decision. Don’t let uncertainty or insecurity interfere with grabbing an opportunity to learn more about a person or relationship, or for meeting new people. The Moon, now in your solar second house, brings you down to earth. With Saturn energy heavy in the air, this week can bring reality checks, but you’re also in an especially practical frame of mind. You’re coming across very well today, and there can be a meeting of minds.

Pisces

Pisces

Unusual and interesting elements on the job or in your daily routine can be in focus today, dear Pisces. Look for new ways of approaching your work or services, and for new or alternative health programs. Social elements might interfere with productivity today, or there could be some disappointment experienced later today as you face a reality about a situation. However, this shouldn’t destroy your confidence or motivation levels – you simply need to look for ways to work around roadblocks. The Moon is in your sign all day, pulling up previously buried emotions and increasing both visibility and decisiveness.

Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of April 7th

This week, when it comes to talking to your lover, you won’t hold back. After Monday and until April 23, Mercury will be in Aries, allowing you to speak your mind without hesitation. While this will help you get to the point in all conversations, at the same time you may run short on tact. On Tuesday, your lover might not respond to a situation in the way you’d hope, but Venus will embrace Neptune by the time Friday arrives and you’ll only see the best in your sweetheart. Ignoring all the flaws can be nice once in a while. Go ahead, live the fairy tale!

 

Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

You won’t have any problem speaking up for yourself this week. If there’s any situation you and your partner need to hash out, you may come across as more argumentative than usual, or you might speak in a way that’s more selfish. While this may irk your mate, at the same time it appears you’ll have the upper hand — at least for this week. Don’t abuse it! On Friday, you might spend more time fantasizing about a love life you wish you had than enjoying the lover that’s right in front of you.

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

If there’s any sexual tension at the office between you and a coworker, this week you might try to send a subtle message to this person that it’s time to talk about the elephant in the room. While you’ll want to get things out in the open and see if this is something worth exploring, it appears you’ll hit a brick wall. Your colleague might not be ready to discuss the situation just yet. Be patient. On Friday, you might end up enjoying a romantic evening with someone you meet while out with friends.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Your mind will focus actively on your social life after Monday. You might enjoy stimulating conversation with pals more than usual, or you might consider attending events that allow you to meet and mingle with new, like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, it appears your sweetheart may not be on board with your agenda. He or she might even feel threatened by it, thinking that you’re bored with your current romantic situation and that you’re trying to fill a void. There may be some truth to this, and if so you’ll need to address it. Or, your lover might simply be jealous.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

You and your partner may continue to experience domestic tension. Mars, the planet of assertive drive and the planet that rules your libido, continues to move retrograde in your home and family sector. It’s possible that a relative or a stressful family problem is wreaking havoc on your sex life. You might be feeling so drained that you’re too tired to “play” with your mate. On Friday, however, you might have an opportunity to enjoy a nugget of romance. Take it!

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

You might be overly excited this week about a potential trip you and your partner plan to take. This may be a romantic getaway you think would help you both unwind and refocus on your relationship. Unfortunately, there might be stress attached to the logistics of this trip. Anything from a flat tire, a faulty GPS, or even a minor fender bender may ruin the fun. Or, you might end up arguing over which sight to see first. Don’t sweat the small stuff. On Friday, you will both make up for it, though. Expect a delicious erotic encounter.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Talking about intimate matters will be much easier for you this week — and the trend will last all the way until April 23! You might take the initiative and open up a dialogue with your partner about what you crave sexually. You might also discuss what holds you back from connecting fully with your mate if there have been any problems lately. On Friday, a gorgeous connection between Venus and Neptune in your relationship sector might leave you feeling joined to your lover in the most spiritual way possible.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You’ll be motivated to improve communication with your partner this week. However, the way in which you go about achieving this may need some work. On the one hand, you’ll be direct, which will help you talk about any issue one or both of you have been trying to dance around. On the other hand, you may lack tact and speak in a way that’s piercing, rather than supportive of sharing. If you are aware of this you can change it and nurture dialogue where each of you truly listen to as well as hear the other.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

A buildup of fairy tale potential is possible this week, culminating on Friday. Venus and Neptune will embrace in your true love sector by then, allowing you to experience a hypnotic romantic encounter with the one who’s captured your heart. If you’re single, you might meet someone close to this day. If so, this would be someone who shares your spiritual ideals and has a talent for being a dreamer, an artist or a visionary. A soul mate might enter your life very soon. Are you ready?

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

With communication planet Mercury entering your true love sector on Monday, your mind will surely focus on matters of the heart until April 23. You might have a major decision to make about the current status of your dating life. Is the person you’re with the right one? Do you need to have a bold, honest conversation about where things are going? Or is there someone you have your eye on that you need to muster up the nerve to talk to? If so, you’re in luck. You’ll have all the mental courage you need to initiate any conversation.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

You might need to focus on a domestic decision or how to address a possible career setback early in the week you. As such, there might be little room for romance on your mind. Not to worry! The weekend will more than remedy that situation. On Friday, Venus and Neptune will link up in your communication sector. This connection will prove to be inspiring and uplifting, allowing you to believe in the potential that love truly can conquer all. Have faith.

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

A clash of ideology between you and your partner is possible early in the week. If this happens, you might feel frustrated and unable to move past it. Consider whether or not this difference of perspective is enough to be a deal-breaker or not. Everyone is entitled to their own viewpoint, and if it’s not on a subject that affects your core value system, it might be a good idea to let it go. Remember, the dissimilarities you share with your mate allow you both to grow within your relationship and yourselves.

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

You won’t allow anyone or anything to deter you from your exceptional romantic outlook this week. On Friday, Venus, now in your sign, will embrace with Neptune, the planet of unconditional love. You’ll have an extraordinary capacity to display sensitivity, compassion and forgiveness. In addition, if you’re in a relationship, you and your mate will enjoy a phase of harmony that’s hard to beat. If you’re not, you will certainly give off a mesmerizing vibe that will attract someone special easily.

Practicing What We Preach

Practicing What We Preach

Author:   Kricket  

Many pagans have been ridiculing each other’s paths. Though they claim to be open and accepting of other views, they are human, and therefore opinionated. When hearing of a path that disagrees almost entirely with their own, many pagans will feel a need to explain how the other person is wrong. It is seen every day within the community in the ridicule of the openly intolerant practices of certain branches of Christianity. Although the majority of the pagan community has a higher average of open-mindedness than the rest of the world, many individuals see only their own way as the right way.

What these people lack is simply the desire to understand. No longer are they the questioning student, brimming with curiosity for the mysteries of the universe; they feel that they have advanced enough to preach these mysteries to others. Like John Travolta admits to Uma Thurman in Pulp Fiction, these pagans and people in general talk more than they listen, and they should be trying to listen a little more often.

Recently, I had an encounter in a bookstore that caught my attention more than usual. I was in the New Age aisle, looking for a specific book about Norse Magic. There was a man on my right who made me slightly uncomfortable. He felt wrong. I tried not to show my discomfort, because I prefer to not draw strong conclusions about people I do not know.

Soon enough, he began talking to me. He seemed polite enough; he was not trying to get my number or ask me out — which is a major step up from many other guys who try to start a conversation in a store — but he was more interested in the types of magick that I do not particularly like to engage in. I was not going to persecute him for being interested in Aleister Crowley’s books or for having an interest in the more macabre aspects of witchcraft. I knew that he would just be another person who was trying to teach me. It was entirely up to me if I wanted to practice in the same way that he did.

Our brief conversation consisted of he asking me what type of magick I practice and then he seemed to assume that because I focus on natural magick and working with herbs, I am naturally just beginning my path into the more metaphysical side of life… and so I would be easily drawn in by the more “adventurous and powerful” magick that he practiced.

I found the situation to be amusing. He could not have known that I have been practicing for four years now and was practicing without knowing what exactly I was doing for three years before that. I felt that I could watch and listen to him without feeling threatened. I already know what I feel comfortable with.

Unfortunately for the man, the lady who entered the aisle during our conversation also did not know that I have a good sense of self and that I am not going to suddenly go to the “dark side” just because a man says it is more “powerful.”

When the man left to find me a book on Voodoo magick, the woman began telling me what kind of trouble his type of magick would bring. She began recommending many books that were for beginners. I attempted to communicate that I already had or have read the books, but my efforts were lost on her.

When the man returned without the book, he recommended a few other books that did not fit how I practice magick. I did not tell him that I had no intention of reading them. He was not my problem, nor my master, not even my friend or acquaintance since I did not know his name.

The woman on my left began speaking to him the moment he finished talking to me. She apparently deals with spirits and has performed an exorcism or two in her life. At first she asked him if he ever saw results from the magick that he practiced. He answered that he did, and that began a recitation of The Rule of Three, which he said he already knew.

She then began railing to him about how he is opening doors that he will not be able to close. Oddly enough she then told him that for every door that he closed two more would open. Out of these doors that he could not close but every time he closed them two more would open, would come demons and evil spirits. According to the woman he was going to become possessed if he did not stop practicing the type of magick that he did and his life would be affected negatively for every time he sought power instead of balance and peace.

I would be lying if I claimed I felt that the man had a moral compass that pointed north or that his path to Spirit was going to be without its own repercussions, but even so, I felt an urge to defend him from the barrage of righteousness. The woman talked him out of the store; she followed him, preaching her beliefs the entire way to the door and then he left and she stayed to collect her children.

This incident reminded me of how even people who believe themselves to be accepting and of an open mind often disregard what is being told to them. Many of the people I meet in stores prefer to lecture rather than communicate, especially when they are speaking to someone who is younger than they are.

I know many people who have been frightened away from socializing with other pagans or joining covens because they were never allowed to talk to other pagans. They were talked to.

Most of the pagans that I know like to believe that they are more open to other people and other practices than the members of the more mainstream religions, especially Christianity. They also seem to believe that they allow people to find their own way to Spirit, no matter that person’s age. The woman and the man both proved to me that, as pagans, we are no better than any other human. We often hold strong beliefs, see the wrong in others before attempting to identify the wrongs in us, we can ignore other’s opinions, and we too can judge people based solely off appearances.

The man saw my herbs as a child’s magick, while I see them as an intimate connection to my world. The woman saw the man as a danger to himself, and thus a danger to her, but she forgot that the man has a right to choose his own path in life… just like she does. They both saw my youth as a sign of a still weak character and a paucity of my own knowledge that I could share, but neither bothered to ask me how long I had been practicing or show any interest in me of any kind other than to place their opinions on me.

Most disputes are results of a lack of understanding for the other party and a lack of personal grounding. Usually asking the simple question “Why?” will not only prevent a heated debate without any true evidence against the other side, but it may also spark an interesting conversation that will widen the horizons of both parties. From my experience, it will also give each person a sense that they are worth something and they may pass the courtesy on to the other people they meet in their lives. If people truly wish to be as nonpolluting as possible, energetically as well as physically, they should be more attentive to the light of other people, even if that means dimming their own ego for a few moments.

Not all pagans are like these two people from the store, but as a group, I have witnessed a general feeling of aloofness. Being a pagan does not elevate one above the regular human, instead it should ground us to the world that we live in. The general pagan seems to have lost the idea of practicing what they preach; in our public practices, we are saying the words without the intention, and it is about as effective as it would be in our personal practices. In order for the community as a whole to develop a positive reputation throughout the world, we must learn to be positive within the world.

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Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of January 20th

Venus continues to move retrograde in Capricorn, reminding all of us that the “business” side of love needs attention. Time your conversations early in the week — before Friday — to take advantage of a sexy communication link between Mercury and Mars. Move quickly to ask for what you want, though, before the weekend is underway. By Saturday, Mercury will square off with Saturn, and the weight of your words can stabilize love — or bury it.

 

Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Take advantage of the boost in social energy early in the week. Leading up until Friday, it’s possible you and your partner will enjoy a party or other event with mutual friends. There’s a good chance you’ll meet up with pals who share a similar interest that is somehow “out of the box.” Your mind will enjoy a boost of stimulation, which will help you keep things interesting in all aspects of your life — especially romance!

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You may not feel as if your mate is fully supporting you with a career decision that looms ahead. He or she might have the perspective that you’re pushing your luck and threatening your security by making the next move you plan to make. While this might be a valid point, don’t allow pessimism to deter you. Realize it’s also possible that your sweetheart is projecting his or her own fears onto you. Pursue what you know is right for you.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Set your sights on an adventure with your lover this week — or at least plan to talk about one. A brilliant opportunity to expand your horizons is possible, and of course you’ll want to include your sweetheart. You might decide to take a class together that allows you to explore an offbeat topic that interests you both. You may also talk about planning that exotic vacation. Keep talking, but don’t commit just yet — wait until after Venus turns direct on January 31 for any big ticket purchases.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

If you feel tightness in the romance department this week it’s not your imagination. As a matter of fact, you and your sweetie might endure a stressful conversation — especially near Saturday. This will likely have to do with shared resources, such as your partner’s income, insurance benefits or even shared debt. You might realize that taking a vacation together or spending extra cash isn’t a smart idea right now. Taking a mature and responsible approach in handling your joint finances won’t feel fun. But it is necessary.

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Domestic responsibility might squeeze the romance out of your life this week. You might need to take care of an elderly relative or attend to another family obligation, and if so it’s likely to take your attention away from your mate. What might make this more unsettling is that your partner isn’t likely to support you while you carry this extra family weight. In fact, he or she may resent the fact that you’re focused so much on your clan. A happy medium may not be possible … push through.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

A serious conversation about who’s pulling more weight in your relationship may be called for. If you’re still feeling resentment about doing more of the everyday work to keep the nuts and bolts intact around your love nest, you may finally voice your frustration. Try your best to approach your mate in a way that won’t put him or her on the defensive. If you express how you feel honestly, and without reproach, a resolution is possible. In the end, however, it’s you who might need to draw boundaries. Did your lover really insist that you clean every nook and cranny of space you share? Probably not … that’s a “you” thing. Own it.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

Your love life will be on fire this week — at least in your mind. The good news is that your ability to talk to someone special will be incredible — especially if you act by Friday. Go ahead and ask out someone who isn’t usually “your type.” You may be pleasantly surprised to learn the two of you have so much in common and plenty to talk about. Just remember that your ruler, Venus, is still in retrograde motion. Starting a new relationship isn’t ideal under this condition. Even so, there’s nothing wrong with talking and getting to know someone. Just take it slow.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Talking to a relative about your love life might not always appeal to you, you might make an exception this week. There’s a strong possibility that someone in your clan understands more about what you’re going through romantically these days than you might ever have guessed. In fact, you’ll only know just how startling the parallels in your love life are if you have the courage to talk about your own first. It’s OK — go there. You won’t regret it.

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Time with friends might prove beneficial for you in more ways than one this week. If you and your partner attend an event with a group of pals, you’re likely to find it renews sparks between you. Stimulating conversation in a group setting will likely lead to extra-curricular romance behind closed doors later on, when it’s just the two of you. Unfortunately, your ideal social time this week will be before Friday. The weekend will be a dud, so plan accordingly.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Your love life might remain in a fragile state for just a little bit longer. Venus is still traveling retrograde in your sign — a phenomenon that will continue to test relationship and your lovability factor until January 31. This week, you might feel as if you’re making progress when it comes to courageously talking about what you know you’re worth. Remember, you’re a rare and beautiful find and anyone who loves you should treasure that fact. Don’t sell yourself short!

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

A heated debate between you and your sweetheart might send sparks flying all over the place this week — especially between the sheets! Don’t be worried about adamantly defending your stance on a particular subject, even if your mate doesn’t agree with your perspective. For most of this week you’ll have a remarkable ability to sound sexy and informed all at once. Use it to your advantage. Go after your lover by seducing his or her brain first!

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

A deep and meaningful conversation with your partner this week might help you forge a greater bond, physically and spiritually. Don’t worry about freaking out your mate with wild or eccentric thoughts now. Sharing what’s really on your mind is what your lover craves from you and what he or she will respond to most. Even if it’s a silly fantasy or an irrational fear, talking about it will help you feel more connected to your mate. Open your mind and your heart.

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Cronehood: Aging Gracefully Or Just Aging?

Cronehood: Aging Gracefully Or Just Aging?

Author:   Rev. etain.butterfly   

I am enjoying my Cronehood journey and wish I could say the same for many of our aging population. What I am observing and I must say it is a concern to me…why do people of age want to home in on talking about their illness (s) and making it their main topic of conversation? I can understand when a crisis happens, there is a new diagnosis that is heavy on their mind and that there stages they go through (shock, grieving, barter, and acceptance) , however I am not talking about this. I am talking about the need to focus on the aging process as a loss and a ‘giving up’ instead of looking at it for what it is… a process that can offer freedom and joys. Let me give you some examples.

A friend of mine is a diabetic and he has this condition because of many years of not paying attention to what he ate and the amount of what he ate. He continued to gain weight and the signs started showing up that he was near developing Type II Diabetes at age 58. When he had a chance to correct the situation by diet alone, he still made bad decisions about his food intake. Then he was given the devastating news that he was now a full fledge diabetic that must take insulin.

I was very patient when he learned he had to change his eating habits, monitor his blood sugar, and learn to give himself insulin shots. I understood it would take him time to adjust, so his constant talking and yes, even complaining, was expected. As a friend, it was my job to help him through this transition and give him the needed support to ease all the changes that he would have to go through.

So, here’s his story now. He’s 68 years old and has had this condition for several years. He continues to make this health issue his topic of conversation even when things are going really well. The fact is, he has had this condition for 10 years and has chosen to play the ‘poor me scenario’. His doctor has provided him with excellent information and several resources to help him cope. He always needs to announce to anyone and everyone in earshot that he is a diabetic and then goes into the same old routine of boring them to death with details of his blood sugar and his eating routine. An example of his usual conversation…

”Oh my blood sugar is 100 and that is good but usually it is higher than that. Gosh, what do you think that means? Should I call the doctor? Maybe I should eat a candy bar to get it higher. What do you think? I will have to check it again later. Maybe I should call my daughter.”

He has a daughter who is an RN and he is driving her bonkers. When I am around him, I end up tuning him out when he starts this nonsense. Now I find myself avoiding him because I am sick of hearing his persistent complaining. It is taking a toll on my psychic energy. In other words, it sucks the life right out of me and, after visiting with him, I am tired and so ready to take a nap.

I see this with other Crones also. They talk about their arthritic aches and pains plus stiffness in their joints as much as they do about the changes in the weather. These are chronic conditions, meaning they will experience this from time to time, and talking about it obsessively won’t change a thing.

At what point do people decide that the aging process means they need to constantly talk about their health issues? At what point do they stop engaging in healthier topics of conversation? What are the reasons for this shift in how they converse with people and, more importantly, do they even realize how depressing this whole routine is?

One reason may actually be major depression (also known as clinical depression) , which is a medical illness. It is a chemical imbalance in the brain and can appear in people regardless of age, race or economic status. The illness can appear after a triggering event or for no apparent reason at all.

Look for signs of:

•Constant complaints of aches and pains (back, stomach, arms, legs, head, chest) , fatigue, slowed movements and speech, loss of appetite, inability to sleep, weight increase or decrease, blurred vision, dizziness, heart racing, anxiety.
•An overall sadness or apathy, withdrawn; unable to find pleasure in anything. Also irritability, mood swings or constant complaining; nothing seems to make the person happy.
•Talk of worthlessness, not being needed anymore, excessive and unwarranted guilt.
•Frequent doctor visits without relief in symptoms; all tests come out negative.
•Alcoholism can mask an underlying depression.

Another reason is ‘doing as others do’. Meaning they mimic what other elders are doing. Again if that is what they see and hear from their associates, there is a strong chance they may get caught up in the same negative behavior.

A third reason is the lack of stimulation, which will give them other things to talk about. Many times, elders find themselves alone with infrequent visitation from family and friends. They concentrate on familiar things like illnesses, chronic aches and pains, and the medications they take.

I, too, have minor health issues, however I chose to acknowledge that ‘it is what it is’. I have been dealt this hand and therefore I will do what I can to not let it slow me down. As I said, I am an observer of people partly because I am an RN and it’s part of my job. I have made note that those individuals who are really struggling with major health issues hardly complain at all. They keep a positive attitude and, in doing so, don’t let their condition stop them from enjoying life. Along with keeping a positive attitude, you may also find, as I have, that ‘like attracts like’. People benefit from being around cheerful positive people.

As an Elder and Crone myself, I hope to stir the Pagan community to take notice of how they choose to age. Are we aging with grace or are we just aging? Talk to the God and Goddess for help in modifying your way of thinking so you can handle life’s little ups and down. If you have family and / or friends who are displaying this type of behavior, show empathy and love by helping them comprehend the negative effects that persist when they chose to concentrate on their health issues in a pessimistic way. Sometimes it becomes a habit and they don’t even realize how often it occurs.

Behaviors can be changed, so make up your mind to age with GRACE and not just age.

Your Daily Horoscopes for October 4

We’re eager to let go of our worries, but the window for lighthearted fun opens and closes quickly today. The Moon’s shift into breezy Gemini at 7:46 am EDT lifts us above our practical concerns. Nevertheless, we still can’t escape our responsibilities because rational Mercury closes in on a conjunction with restrictive Saturn that’s exact tomorrow morning. Changing our expectations helps because resistance stems from what we’re already thinking.

 

Aries Horoscope
Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Although it may be difficult to start a conversation today, the words and ideas should flow with ease once you get going. However, you won’t be able to talk your way around the truth; any deviation from the facts could draw the wrath of instant karma. Don’t try to outsmart reality; you can accomplish your goals as long as you maintain integrity in all that you say and do.

Taurus Horoscope
Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You don’t like being pushed into anything before you are ready, yet you may feel as if someone is trying to pressure you to change your mind now. Your response is to dig in your heels and stubbornly hold your position no matter how persistent others may be today. You believe the stakes are high, prompting you to take your resistance very seriously. Nevertheless, you can overplay your hand; an adaptable attitude just might save the day.

Gemini Horoscope
Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Everything is moving faster now that the Moon is back in your interactive sign. Your witty retorts are quick and you’re having fun as you play fast and loose. But you may have to work the brakes or you could lose control on the curves. Don’t wait until it’s too late; be smart and control your speed today before you hit a wall.

Cancer Horoscope
Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

A situation at home can take on larger-than-life proportions today, and you may need to jump in with the voice of reason. The good news is that the power of logic is on your side, so you know exactly what to do. Still, you might experience discomfort from the high level of mental activity and the need to reconsider decisions that you thought were already covered. Revisiting a recent conversation helps clarify your lingering confusion.

Leo Horoscope
Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Although you may appear to have a casual attitude about your friends now, you’re taking yourself much more seriously than anyone realizes. Your desire to establish reliable communication channels motivates you to connect with others in a very profound manner. Make contact with someone who has been in your dreams, but not necessarily in your day-to-day life. You might be pleasantly surprised at what they have to tell you.

Virgo Horoscope
Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

You have to call a situation just as you see it today because people at work are depending on you for a reality check. You didn’t ask to be put in this position, nor do you want the spotlight to be aimed on you, but it is apparent that you want to take care of things on a very basic level. Nevertheless, don’t be so sure that your perspective is the only one. Explaining the facts now is trickier than you realize.

Libra Horoscope
Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

There are underlying tensions at work now, yet you still have opportunities to keep your life on a pretty even keel. There may be some miscommunications involving someone’s interpretation of one of your ideas today. But a misunderstanding can actually bring about a conversation that leads to a breakthrough if you let go of control. A detour in a discussion could be the catalyst to positive change.

Scorpio Horoscope
Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

You are receiving a direct download from the cosmos today, somewhat like a software upgrade. The recent confusion should fade soon and you might be pleasantly surprised how easily things go your way. However, you don’t have time to relax now; big changes are underfoot and you’re much wiser to conserve your energy any way you can.

Sagittarius Horoscope
Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

A coworker or partner might come down on you hard now, but this situation isn’t as serious as it first seems. In fact, there is likely a silver lining in today’s dark cloud, and you’ll be much better off if you can find it. No matter what you do, don’t shoot the messenger. If you lash out, you can miss the opportunity to make significant changes in your thinking process.

Capricorn Horoscope
Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Today you’re catching up on the emails that you didn’t write all week, returning phone calls and, in general, doing a whole lot of little things you should have already done. However, you still might feel frustrated because it doesn’t seem like you are making enough progress. But don’t be so hard on yourself; if you work methodically, you will be just where you need to be by the end of the day.

Aquarius Horoscope
Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You may choose to put off unpleasant chores today in favor of distracting yourself with the more enjoyable tasks that are on your list of things to do. You might want to make something that allows your creativity to flow, even if it’s of no practical value. Fortunately, you can probably get by now without worrying too much about tomorrow, as long as you give yourself a reality check to cover your bases first.

Pisces Horoscope
Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Complex emotions flowing in the waters of your mind can be reassuring, since you Fish are comfortable swimming in symbolic realms. Now, however, your words could wrap themselves around your feelings and tangle the nets of your own fantasies and illusions. There will be plenty of time for logic later on. Put this creative energy to work by writing poetry, doing arts and crafts, or partaking in activities that engage your spiritual nature.

Daily OM for August 24 – A Chance to Contribute

A Chance to Contribute

Disarming the Know-It-All

by Madisyn Taylor

People that are know-it-alls are simply stuck in a pattern and may actually have feelings of low self worth.

Most of us have encountered a person in our lives who can accurately be referred to as a know-it-all. This person seems to know everything about anything that gets brought up and tends to dominate the conversation. They don’t take well to being questioned, and they have a hard time ever admitting that they were wrong.

Being around a know-it-all is inevitably tiring because there is no shared energy between the two of you. Rather, you become an audience member to this person’s need to be the center of attention. Attention and respect are probably the two things this person most longs for, and at some point in their lives, they learned that knowing it all was the way to get those needs met. Over time, they have become stuck in this pattern, regardless of the fact that it is no longer working. They may feel afraid of the experience of listening, being receptive, or learning something new, because it’s so unfamiliar.

On the one hand, when we see the childlike need underneath the know-it-all’s mask of confidence, we feel compassion for the person, and we may tolerate their one-sided approach to conversation out of a desire not to hurt their feelings. On the other hand, we may be feeling drained and tempted to avoid this person altogether. In the middle of these two possible ways of feeling, we may actually like this person and wish for a closer relationship. If we come from a place of kindness, we might attempt to bridge the gap that this person’s habitual way of relating creates. Simply expressing a desire to be closer may open their heart, and give you a chance to ask for what you need in the relationship—a chance to contribute.

The Most Wanted Gift (and It’s Free!)

The Most Wanted Gift (and It’s Free!)

  • Robert Pagliarini

 

Over the last couple of weeks I’ve written how you can save money this Christmas and even shared 10 free Christmas gift ideas. If you follow those tips, you’ll make the people on your list quite happy. But if “happy” just isn’t good enough for the most special people in your life, you can give them a gift they will never forget . . .

I was at a party the other night, and after the other guests had left, the host and I sat around the kitchen table and just talked. I mean we really talked — something much deeper and more meaningful than the surface-level chit-chat that occupied most of the evening’s conversations.

What I heard touched me. The host, a neighbor I just met this year, opened up and told me how much he valued our friendship. He said I was an inspiration. I shot back, “I don’t know about that…” but he stopped me. He looked at me thoughtfully and slowly said, “Robert, you really have been.” He then went on to give me very specific events and interactions over the last 12 months of how I impacted his life and why he was grateful we met.

A few things struck me about this conversation. First, I immediately felt overwhelming gratitude. It was an amazing feeling to have someone tell me how much my friendship meant. Nothing feels better than to hear someone tell you how much you mean to them and the impact you’ve made on their life.

Second, whether you are cognizant of it or not, you have had and are having an impact on others — your co-workers, your neighbors, your clients, your family, and your friends. And if you think very long about it, you’ll realize they have had an impact on you.

Third, for a lesser man (or woman), these heart-to-heart conversations don’t just roll off the tongue. They take courage. They also require details. It’s one thing for someone to tell you in glib Hallmark fashion how much you mean to them, but it is a completely different and more profound experience to hear the smallest of details that you thought went unnoticed.

Fourth, there is usually a large disparity between how we see ourselves and how others see us. It can be fascinating and eye-opening to hear how others experience us. And lastly, the feeling that has developed since that night is the desire — maybe more aptly described as a need — to share with those around me how they have impacted my life.

Maybe you’re already good at sharing your feelings. You may argue that throughout the year you tell your friends and loved ones what they mean to you so there’s no need to do it again. Maybe you’re afraid this kind of conversation would make your friend or family member feel uncomfortable. Or more likely, you may be hesitant because it would make you uncomfortable.

Whatever your excuse, I’m going to make it easy for you. Use these questions as your guide. If one-on-one isn’t your thing, write your answers in a letter or card, send them an email, or post the questions and answers to their Facebook wall.

  • What do you appreciate about me the most?
  • What have I done this year that made your 2011 special?
  • How would your life be different if I wasn’t in it?
  • What did I do this year for which you are most proud?
  • What are my best qualities?
  • What traits do I have that you wished you had?
  • How do you experience me?
  • What do you know about me that I probably don’t?

This is your fast track to move beyond pleasantries and platitudes. It will touch the lives of all those you send this to in a powerful and meaningful way. They won’t look at you or the relationship the same. And if that’s not enough, this is one gift you can give and avoid the malls, the lines, and the debt this Christmas. Now that’s something to be grateful for!