Best Friends

A Warm Refuge

Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves.

By the time we reach adulthood, many of us have had the good fortune to have at least one best friend. If we have moved around or changed our life situation repeatedly, we may be lucky enough to have had several. The best friend relationship is often our earliest intimate peer relationship, and it can be a source of great warmth and connection throughout our lives. The details of best friendship change as we grow up and grow older, but the heart of it remains the same. Our best friends are a warm refuge in which we feel free to be fully ourselves, to share our deepest secrets, to rest when we are tired, to celebrate when we are happy—a place in which we feel utterly welcome to give and receive that most precious of all gifts, love.

Most intimate relationships hit bumps from time to time, and one of the hallmarks of an enduring best friendship is its ability to ride out the turbulence and remain intact even as it faces changes. Our best friends are those who manage to love us through all of our transitions, as we do the same for them. We find ways to embrace and appreciate the differences that set us apart and offer love and support no matter what. We allow each other to be exactly as we are at a given moment, even as we allow each other to change over time. In this way, best friends sometimes feel like family. We know we will stick together regardless of where our individual paths lead.

We may be on the phone with our best friends every day, or we may not have spoken for a year, yet we know that our bond will be strong and immediate when we do connect. This bond ties us together even when we are apart and draws us blissfully back into the warm refuge of each other’s company when our paths bring us together again.

Quiz of the Day for Oct. 2 – ‘Needy Child or Healthy Adult?’

Needy Child or Healthy Adult? Quiz

by Annie B. Bond

What part of you is the most activated in your relationships, the needy child or the healthy adult? Most of us still have unmet childhood needs roiling around inside us that can color and affect our relationships, while the more mature part of us tries to deal with things in a healthier way. Answer these questions to see where you are in the spectrum of relationships. Take the quiz here:

Which of the following statements might you make to your partner in a love relationship?

1. End my loneliness.

2. Be my companion while both of us respect each other’s need to be alone at times.

3. Make me feel good.

4. I take responsibility for my own feelings and don’t expect or need to feel good all the time.

5. Give in to me.

6. Negotiate with me.

7. Never betray me, lie to me, or disappoint me.

8. I accept you as fallible and seek to address, process, and resolve issues with you.

9. Help me not to have fear. I depend on you.

10. Help me to learn to love. We depend on each other.

11. Totally fulfill my needs.

12. Moderately fulfill my needs.

13. Help me repeat old, painful scenarios from childhood and former relationships.

14. I have mourned the past, learned from it, and now want something better.

15. Indulge my ego.

16. Confront and free my ego.

If you answered mostly odd-numbered statements, your inner child is saying, “I am looking for stability outside myself. I demand 100 percent of my need fulfillment from my partner.”

If you answered mostly even-numbered statements, your healthy adult is saying, “I am looking for a setting that honors and enriches the stability I have inside. I hope to get about 25 percent of my need fulfillment from my partner.”

Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of October 1

The heat is on this Thursday as amorous Venus in romantic Leo forms an energizing square with passionate Mars in Scorpio. This cosmic intensity can provoke risky behavior, especially with the impetuous Aries Full Moon occurring on Saturday night. Expect the unexpected; radical changes in relationships are almost impossible to avoid. Keep your heart open and embrace the unknown.

Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

This dramatic week peaks with the Full Moon illuminating your independent and impulsive sign on Saturday night. Revolutionary Uranus adds a shocking flavor to this lunation which may spur you to act recklessly. This spontaneity might work well if you’re open to experimentation or want to break free of old habits. Restlessness and rebellion, though, can kick up explosive feelings that trigger dramatic changes in a partnership. Be honest and flexible in your approach so you can enjoy new experiences without being destructive in the process.

Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

Surprises may come out of the blue with Saturday’s explosive Aries Full Moon lighting up your secretive 12th House of Privacy. Complicated feelings that you’ve hidden from others, maybe even from yourself, might suddenly surface. People seem unreliable now as attitudes and plans could change in an instant. Yet putting pressure on anyone is likely to backfire. Instead, allow yourself to accept strange emotional territory as if you were visiting a foreign country. Keep an open mind and be respectful to everyone you meet.

Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Friends could entice you to do some unusual things on Saturday with an adventuresome Aries Full Moon landing in your 11th House of Groups. If you’re not normally into joining organizations, though, this might be the time to see what one can do for your personal life. However, your desire to explain your experiences could be difficult to fulfill. It’s better to let loose and accept a little weirdness than to force yourself to make sense of emotions and people that don’t fit your usual reality.

Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Saturday’s Full Moon in impatient Aries is wired with hard aspects to volatile Uranus and provocative Pluto. This cosmic electricity occurs in your 10th House of Public Responsibility, making you feel like you have to put everything in order immediately. It’s healthier, though, to temporarily let go of your obligations than to try to control the behavior of others. If you can relax and enjoy the chaos, you might be surprised with how much fun it is to just go with the flow.

Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Your weekend could be wild with an irrepressible Aries Full Moon shining in your 9th House of Faraway Places on Saturday. You may be restless and ready to run with radical Uranus opposing the radiant Sun. Whether you need to get away from the predictability of your current relationship or are single and seeking to stretch your horizons, breaking social rules and exploring unfamiliar territory is very appealing. Just remember this escapade is a test drive rather than a long-term commitment.

Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Saturday’s fiery Aries Full Moon shocks your 8th House of Intimacy and rattles relationships in surprising ways. This may include a sudden attraction to someone who is far from your usual type. It might also indicate a breakthrough with your current partner that leads to a new kind of connection. Basically, it’s time to free yourself from worrying about what others think, allowing you more space to explore emotionally and physically.

Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

This may be a key week in your relationship life. Saturday’s electrifying Aries Full Moon lights up your 7th House of Partners and opposes the willful Sun in your sign. This volatility could attract unpredictable behavior by others, which can either be exciting or too weird for your taste. It’s better, though, for you to be the one who takes the initiative to break patterns and surprise people with a bolder and brasher approach to getting what and who you want.

Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Thursday and Friday are both sweet and sassy with high potential in the romance department. The spiritual and sensitive Pisces Moon occupies your amorous 5th House, inspiring fantasies about love. The best part is that you have the ability to make these dreams real now. Bold Venus in Leo tangles with passionate Mars in Scorpio on Thursday, making almost anything sound slightly seductive. Set aside time to make the most pleasurable use of these persuasive powers while you have the chance.

Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Saturday’s scintillating Aries Full Moon sets your 5th House of Romance on fire with desire. You’re itching for excitement and hungry for fresh forms of fun. Variety is the spice of your life so use your imagination to create new ways to play. You might shock some people with strange ideas or by coming on too strong. It may be hard to pace yourself now when you’ve got love on the brain, but a tiny bit of patience will help your cause in the long run.

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Your approach to love is often mature and tempered by common sense and practicality. However, that kind of rational reasoning may not work well this week. A Venus-Mars square on Thursday steams up relationships with a complex mix of mistrust and desire. The intensity grows stronger with Saturday’s explosive Aries Full Moon, making the ground tremble in your 4th House of Roots. Letting go of the past is the best way to ride this cosmic wave of change into a more exciting future.

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

The impulsive Aries Full Moon meets up with your revolutionary ruling planet Uranus on Saturday, triggering some unpredictable behavior and inspiring some weird conversations. You’re no stranger to unusual ideas and might find it amusing to hear some new outrageous ones, but it can be unsettling when the cautious folks start talking crazy. If it’s amusing, join the party but if it’s not that funny, just slip away to clear your mind.

Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

The Moon in your psychically sensitive sign gets feelings flowing on Thursday and Friday. It’s natural to be tender when you’re a Fish, yet a manipulative person might undermine your trust in relationships now. Recognizing the difference between sex and love can help you determine how far you’re willing to go to gain the affection of another. Just because you find it easy to sacrifice your interests for someone else’s pleasure doesn’t mean that you should do it. Being true to yourself is the first step to figuring out what to do next.

Your Daily Horoscopes for Monday, September 24

We start the day with specific goals and realistic plans to reach them, but everything seems to take longer than expected. We are willing to work harder for what we want now that the ambitious Capricorn Moon forms a dynamic square with taskmaster Saturn. Although our nerves may be on edge, patience is exactly what we need until the Moon shifts into ingenious Aquarius at 7:32 pm EDT, revealing inventive solutions to lingering problems.

Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

This is quite a busy week for you, making it crucial to focus on the tasks you need to finish. But even if you try to keep your blinders on until you have made a dent in your list of things to do, other more disruptive forces are at work now. Accepting the distractions with a sense of humor reduces the stress. Nevertheless, extra concentration is needed today to keep you on track.

Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You may feel as if someone is not being cooperative today, possibly with respect to your romantic inclinations. If you are in a relationship, your partner might seem distant, as if he or she is setting up roadblocks to intimacy. Don’t get too worked up about it; celebrate your cup being half full instead of complaining that it’s half empty. Ironically, the resistance could dissipate once you stop trying so hard to make everything perfect.

Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

You are concerned that you can’t pursue all the intriguing curiosities popping up in your life now because your time and efforts are limited by circumstances beyond your control. A demanding situation at work may prevent you from being as independent as you wish. Surprisingly, your calendar could open up once you resign yourself to meeting your current obligations.

Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Your unfulfilled needs stand in the way of your satisfaction now, for it’s unlikely that others will give you everything that you want. If you are already in a close partnership, you may have to negotiate before you are taken seriously. But this isn’t as bad as it sounds because the real lesson is to learn what you can give to yourself. Clearly defining what you want from a relationship is a good start, but knowing how to fill in the gaps on your own is necessary.

Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

It might appear as if your life is going to settle down for a bit, but this may be a premature hopeful conclusion. Although you see progress at work, there are unexpected twists and turns in the path ahead of you this week. Use your time wisely now to get ready for whatever you might run into later on. And, if others offer their assistance today, don’t let your pride get in the way of accepting help. Being gracious works well both in giving and receiving.

Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Your current creativity probably originates from your desire to achieve and get ahead rather than bubbling up from the wellsprings of inspiration. You know what you want to accomplish and, luckily, you have the ability to transform your playful or romantic urges into serious practical manifestations. Whatever you do today, make sure that it’s done with a greater purpose in mind.

Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

An unexpected twist on the relationship path may not be such a problem now, since it’s probably helpful to release hidden tensions. However, you would prefer to sidestep a sticky issue in order to keep the peace. But even if you are trying to maintain stability, conflict could work its way into the picture. Nevertheless, don’t avoid an important discussion because honest communication is one of the primary ingredients of healthy change.

Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Two separate issues could arise now. First, you are redefining your own boundaries, even if this means a bit of self-imposed isolation. Secondly, a stream of revelations prevents you from feeling sorry for yourself. You may even be amused by the melodramatic soap opera of your life these days. This healthy attitude gives you the necessary detachment so you can withdraw for a while to facilitate your continued personal growth.

Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

If you are feeling critical of your friends today, examine your own behavior prior to making any false accusations. You may be uncharacteristically traditional now as you compare your values with those closest to you. But there’s no reason to judge anyone else, even if someone acts in an apparently irresponsible manner. Let others know where you stand, but don’t try to change them. Simply decide what’s valuable to you and then work for what you want.

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

A wave of uncertainty washes over you today but your tendency is to reinforce your walls to shut off the flow of the unknown. You could be scared that your whole world may be quickly destabilized if you acknowledge your lack of control. Just remember, the more you engage your irrational fears and express them to someone you trust, the greater the potential for positive change.

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You may feel as if someone is secretly trying to influence your behavior, and it’s difficult to know the best way to react to the situation. There are unknown pieces to the puzzle today and you cannot effectively fight an unseen enemy. Instead of lighting the fuse and picking up the pieces afterward, try holding on to familiar healthy routines now. The truth will come out soon enough, still leaving you with enough time to act once it does.

Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

It seems like you’re being restrained from expressing yourself as freely as you wish today, yet this is likely more constructive than you realize. If you just say whatever is on your mind, you could end up offending someone who means a lot to you. Patience is your best friend now. Don’t make any sudden changes; move slowly and with great intent if you feel certain about someone or something special.

Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of September 24th

Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Daily OM for August 24 – A Chance to Contribute

A Chance to Contribute

Disarming the Know-It-All

by Madisyn Taylor

People that are know-it-alls are simply stuck in a pattern and may actually have feelings of low self worth.

Most of us have encountered a person in our lives who can accurately be referred to as a know-it-all. This person seems to know everything about anything that gets brought up and tends to dominate the conversation. They don’t take well to being questioned, and they have a hard time ever admitting that they were wrong.

Being around a know-it-all is inevitably tiring because there is no shared energy between the two of you. Rather, you become an audience member to this person’s need to be the center of attention. Attention and respect are probably the two things this person most longs for, and at some point in their lives, they learned that knowing it all was the way to get those needs met. Over time, they have become stuck in this pattern, regardless of the fact that it is no longer working. They may feel afraid of the experience of listening, being receptive, or learning something new, because it’s so unfamiliar.

On the one hand, when we see the childlike need underneath the know-it-all’s mask of confidence, we feel compassion for the person, and we may tolerate their one-sided approach to conversation out of a desire not to hurt their feelings. On the other hand, we may be feeling drained and tempted to avoid this person altogether. In the middle of these two possible ways of feeling, we may actually like this person and wish for a closer relationship. If we come from a place of kindness, we might attempt to bridge the gap that this person’s habitual way of relating creates. Simply expressing a desire to be closer may open their heart, and give you a chance to ask for what you need in the relationship—a chance to contribute.

Daily Horoscopes for Thursday, August 16

We know what we want today, yet something is holding us back. Still, we might not be willing to limit our desires by adhering to socially acceptable norms. Romantic Venus dynamically squares unconventional Uranus, zapping us with unusual feelings. Even the heart-centered Leo Moon trines shocking Uranus, prompting us to release pent up emotional stress suddenly, like lightning during a storm. Thankfully, the energy settles down later in the day.

Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

You’re fairly confident that you’ll reach your destination, but you have trouble verbalizing your needs today. Unfortunately, your goals may be so far out of the box now that you cannot talk about them. Even still, you might attempt to express your feelings anyhow, only to discover what you want changes as the day goes on. Go ahead and open your heart, but remain flexible and be ready for a surprise.

Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You don’t like being caught off guard, but today you may have to respond quickly to new feelings that arise quite suddenly. You won’t be able to blame anyone else now, as this is probably a result of your own urges that erupt from the hidden depths of your unconscious mind. Don’t withdraw; take every opportunity to break through whatever you have been avoiding. Facing your fears is the best way to overcome them.

Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

You’re usually willing to explore pleasurable distractions, but it’s not that easy today. Other people have their expectations, but you might be disinterested in their goals now. If you do go along with someone’s unusual request, you’ll likely regret it later. Nevertheless, you don’t want to let down a friend or associate. Do what is required, but don’t be surprised if you get restless during the day and just want to walk away from it all.

Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Innovative ideas pop up unexpectedly today, thrilling you with the possibilities. However, this isn’t a great time to let these desires run your life. In fact, it’s wise to filter your thoughts so you don’t get pulled off track. The challenge is in discerning which dreams are worth pursuing. Remember, you can think about all your options without having to act on every one.

Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

You may become upset if a co-worker ruins your fun today, but keep in mind that no one is purposefully trying to make your life difficult. To the contrary, others are more likely to assist you along your road to emotional satisfaction if you are doing your fair share. Although you might not get your way now, being a team player greatly increases your chances for fulfillment and enjoyment.

Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Someone may step into your world unexpectedly today with an intense emotional outburst that doesn’t fit into your idea of appropriate behavior. Fortunately, you are magnanimous enough to incorporate this unsettling experience, but you need to make a conscious decision to be compassionate rather than critical. A great adventure can be yours if you accept the fact that you cannot control all the facets of your life all the time.

Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

Forget about sticking to your normal routine today since your key planet Venus is buzzed by high-strung Uranus. You may even feel as if you’re going crazy, but rest assured it’s just that the energy is a bit unstable now. Let restrictive structures and unhealthy assumptions fall away without resistance. Resume your regularly scheduled activities once the dust settles.

Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

You may experience free-floating anxiety today as you’re feeling a combination of excitement and annoyance. Although others could seem overly stubborn, you might actually be the one most responsible for holding yourself back. Even if you feel trapped by the current circumstances, don’t focus on your limitations. Instead, allow your feelings to take you wherever they go without judging them. You can easily find your way back to a more productive place later on.

Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Unpredictable Uranus rattles magnetic Venus today while she visits your 8th House of Intimacy. If your pocketbook isn’t directly affected now, your love life might be the next thing in line. Don’t give anyone else power over you — either emotionally or financially — as your current need for immediate gratification may feel more important than how much cash you have in your checking account. Be willing to take a risk as long as you carefully consider the consequences first.

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Someone may jump to the wrong conclusion about your desires, especially if you aren’t forthcoming with what you want now. In other words, what you don’t say today can be even more important than what you do say. Step outside of your comfort zone and speak your piece. No matter how irrational your feelings are, it’s still better if they’re out in the open.

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

Your attachment to objects of beauty might get you into trouble today, whether you are attracted to a piece of art or another person. Although your desires aren’t necessarily physical, they could manifest that way now. Ultimately, you’re more in love with an idea than with anything in reality. Understanding this can help reduce your frustration, especially if you are less than satisfied with what you receive.

Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Your behavior seems highly erratic now, making it difficult for anyone to trust you. However, your emotions are very close to the surface and your sudden mood shifts are quickly reflected in transparent mannerisms. It’s not necessary to be in total control today. Let others know that you are moving through some rough waters and could use their support. Ask and you just might receive more than you expect.

The Fourth REDE – The Great Work

THE FOURTH REDE – THE GREAT WORK

Keep pure your highest ideal; strive ever towards it; let naught stop
you or turn you aside.

To Moondaughter, men and women were children of the Lord and Lady in more senses
than one. Not only are we the offspring of Their sacred joining, but we are also
children in the sense that we are immature. We have not yet grown into the
spiritual and ethical maturity of which we are capable.

Moondaughter taught that the human children of the Lord and the Lady are in the
process of growth, a time during which they must build for themselves that
nobility of character that is their natural inheritance. Moondaughter’s students
learned that we cannot look elsewhere for salvation, but must build our
characters by our own actions. This is the Great Work.

Nobility of character, however, was only the outer aspect of the Great Work,
according to Moondaughter. The inner aspect was mystical union with the Lord and
Lady. Mysticism and ethics were for Moondaughter converging lines, each of which
must be energetically pursued. To neglect one would obstruct progress in the
other.

The Threefold Law

It is to Moondaughter that I owe my understanding of the Threefold Law, the
Wiccan precept that whatever a person does, good or evil, returns to her
threefold.

Every action, Moondaughter taught, first affects the self directly by leaving
its imprint on the character of the actor. Second, it affects the target of the
action, with whom the actor is in relationship, and the effects feedback upon
the actor through that relationship. Finally, every action affects the
environment in which the actor must live — ultimately, the entire universe —
and thus feeds back again upon the actor.

Thus the Great Work is a transformation of self which we pursue through our
actions and our relationships. It is the realization of our nature as children
of the Lord and Lady; and — since each of us is part of the web of
relationships which connect all that exists — it is at the same time a
transformation of the universe as a whole.

Mind and Body as Lover and Beloved

Moondaughter taught that the Great Work could be divided into three interrelated
aspects, each of which establishes a relationship of lover and beloved. The
first aspect of the Great Work consists of bringing one’s own mind and body into
the relationship of lover and beloved. Externally, this relationship results in
the opening of the inner senses, and therefore much of magical development is
concerned with this small part of the Great Work.

The union of mind and body, however, has an ethical dimension as well as a
magical one. Moondaughter taught that perfect unity of mind and body could only
be achieved when the actions that result from the mind/body interaction are
consistently based on Will rather than desire — a transition that requires more
than a little self-discipline.

It is possible (and unfortunately not uncommon) for mind and body to form a
relationship in actions that contradict the Will. Rape, for example, is a
perversion of sexuality which develops a dysfunctional relationship between the
mind and body of the rapist and corrupts the Work within him. Thus, living by
the Wiccan Rede — an’ it harm none, do what ye will — is a first step toward
accomplishing this first aspect of the Great Work.

The Sacred Marriage

The second aspect of the Great Work is the Sacred Marriage. Moondaughter taught
that for most of us this means that a man and a women come together as lover and
beloved, not merely physically and for a time, but on all levels and forever, in
a relationship that is in harmony with their individual Wills.

While each of us already has both Yin Self and Yang Self, union with the sacred
spouse brings Yin and Yang together in ways which transform each partner. Lover
and beloved act as priest and priestess for each other, and together they become
an embodiment of the Lord and the Lady.

The Unity of all Life

The third aspect of the Great Work is unity with all beings. This, Moondaughter
taught, is accomplished when an individual takes the entire universe as her
beloved, in a relationship in harmony with her Will.

In the lesser sense, this aspect is achieved when the individual comes to
spontaneously regard all beings with the love and compassion that the Lord and
the Lady feel for their children. In the greater sense, however, this aspect is
not achieved until humanity as a whole regards all beings with that love.

The culmination of this Work on the individual level, according to Moondaughter,
is a state in which the individual inherits the character of the Lord and the
Lady, and lives constantly in the presence of Lord and Lady. This is not a state
which I believe has been achieved by very many incarnate human beings, but I
have found it a most worthwhile goal toward which to strive.

The Third REDE – Lover and Beloved

THE THIRD REDE – LOVER AND BELOVED

For mine is the ecstasy of the spirit, and mine also is joy on earth;
for my law is love unto all beings.

I am the gracious Goddess, who gives the gift of joy unto the heart
of man.

Moondaughter taught us that the ideal relationship is when two beings interact
as lover and beloved. By this she did not necessarily imply a sexual
relationship; in many cases — such as between adults and children or teacher and student — she considered that any sexual relationship would be a violation
of that concern for the welfare of the other which was the essence of the lover/beloved relationship. Nevertheless, the love between the Lord and the Lady
was for her the ideal toward which all relationships should evolve.

According to Moondaughter, joy is not created by an individual alone. Joy is
created when a lover has a relationship with a beloved. The beloved need not be
another person — an artist feels joy both when she has a stimulating vision or
idea as her beloved, and again when her vision or idea stands before her as a
realized work of art. In this, men and women are the children of the Lord and
the Lady, who also feel joy from such relationships. Whether or not the
relationship is sexual, the interaction of lover and beloved unites them into
one being.

The True Will

Moondaughter believed that at some deep level, every being intuitively knows
that joy is produced by relationships between lover and beloved. She taught that
it was from this inner knowledge that the Will of the individual arises. While
an individual may sometimes feel desires to act in ways which are destructive to
others, Moondaughter taught that the Will seeks that joy which is produced only
by harmonious relationships with others.

Since any relationship requires the participation of both self and other, Will
has both the aspect of seeking the welfare of the self and also the aspect of
seeking the welfare of the beloved. According to Moondaughter, these two aspects
of the Will are related and interdependent, not opposed. Since joy comes from
relationships, harming the other in any relationship lessens one’s own joy.

The Ecstasy of the Spirit

According to Moondaughter, it is the nature of Love to seek a beloved to love.
The joy that is produced by the Lord’s love for the Lady and the Lady’s love for
the Lord is beyond human experience, but Love is never satisfied, and so the
Lord and the Lady gave birth children who could respond to Their Love, and give
Them joy, and receive joy from taking Them as beloveds.

My own understanding of this teaching is that as an individual grows in love,
she expands her circle of beloveds until, like the Lord and the Lady, she Wills
the welfare of all that exists. It seems to me that when they first appear
tribalism and nationalism can be healthy stages in this growth, but they can
also become diseases which hold men and women back from a larger, and more
joyful, circle of beloveds.

I know from my own experience that each man and woman can be both lover and
beloved to both the Lord and the Lady, and that the intensity of this
relationship deepens as one brings one’s character into harmony with one’s own
Will. The joy produced by this relationship is beyond words.

Stop Malicious Gossip

An easy way to stop malicious gossip is as follows:

Write the name of the person who is gossiping on a piece of white paper. Now think positive thoughts and send loving energy to them (I know it sounds crazy, but…). Place the paper in a glass of water and put it in the freezer. This will freeze the problem.

If you also wish for people to not be so nosy or involved in your business, you can add black ink to the water. This will cloak you from their prying eyes.

Remember to add positive thought. You are not trying to control the person, you are protecting yourself from harmful thoughts, and sending positive energy to deflect negative intent. Harm none!

Your Daily Love & Romance Horoscopes for May 27th

Aries

As the Moon makes one of his last visits to your romantic sector before things start to move for the year, you have a chance to listen to your heart and pick up on any important clues and hunches. By this time next month the most romantically charged months of 2012 will be underway, with some clues today for what might lie ahead.

Taurus

The Moon’s return to your romantic sector tomorrow will kick off an important few days on the romantic front and a chance to really fire up your romantic passions. Until then keep an open heart, realising that it’s not your job to tell your heart how it should feel, rather its job to tell you how it feels.

Gemini

As the Moon makes his last visit to your communication sector before a lunar eclipse in your relationship sector in just 8 days time, this gives you a chance to clear the air. The key to turning what is often a wild card on the relationship front into an opportunity to turn things around, is having the communication lines open.

Cancer

As the Sun and Mercury align in an intuitive part of your chart, this gives you a chance to give old feelings being stirred a voice and the past in general, giving you a chance to clear the air. With communication becoming far more important in the future, especially on the relationship front, work today to give the past and unsaid words a voice.

Leo

The closer you get to a lunar eclipse in your romantic sector in just 8 days time, the more you’re likely to sense that something is building and with a tendency to want to jump the gun and take control. Yet this is one time when you need to take your hands off the wheel and let fate take over instead, no matter how scary that might be.

Virgo

On both the romantic and relationship fronts there is a surprising lack of urgency and also a chance to focus more on the big picture. On both fronts it’s now become more about the journey, which will always have ups and downs. So long as you focus on the big picture, any ups and downs along the way will only make your relationships and love life richer.

Libra

There is a sense of synchronicity and of romantic adventure in the air this week, with a chance to challenge your excuses. At the same time that intuitive lunar vibes stimulate the hunches that have the power to put you in the right place at the right time, it’s your heart’s willingness to take a risk that will encourage you to seize the moment.

Scorpio

Throughout what has been a defining few months on the relationship front your relationships have had to compete with a busy focus, but that is life and you can’t put your relationships in a bubble. Work now to prepare your relationships for the real world, where they can’t get 24/7 attention, yet are strong enough that they don’t need it.

Sagittarius

This time last week Venus, planet of love was on her own in your relationship sector and in her first week in retrograde motion was focused exclusively on the past. Now a week on the Sun and Mercury are not only here but they’re aligned, with your eyes and the communication lines now open. All of a sudden you’re able to see where you’ve been and where you’re going.

Capricorn

As Jupiter spends his penultimate weekend in your romantic sector there is a real need to make love a priority. This time last week the Sun, Mercury and Moon were all here to help lucky Jupiter to get things up to speed, but over the last 6 days they all left and it’s time to bring things home. Dare to believe in love the way that it believes in you.

Aquarius

The Moon’s monthly visit to your relationship sector is usually more about wake up calls and drawing your attention to the things you’ve been sweeping under the carpet. But with Venus in retrograde motion in your romantic sector and the Sun and Mercury aligned here, the romantic focus is overwhelming. This is going to make it hard for all but the most obvious relationship wake up calls to get through.

Pisces

With Mars, planet of passion coming into his own in your relationship sector and some of the best relationship weeks of the year stretching out in front of you and new doors about to open on the romantic front, your future is all of a sudden looking up. Maybe the challenges of recent weeks and months was worth it after all, leaving you ready for what’s coming up.

Daily OM for May 24th – Centering and Expressing

Centering and Expressing
Communication

by Madisyn Taylor

Expressing ourselves honestly in any relationship is essential to our well-being.

When we are in a relationship where we feel listened to and understood, we count ourselves lucky because we know how rare that experience is. We reserve our most intimate selves for the people who, along with us, cocreate an open space where we feel free to express ourselves and listen without judgment. These relationships, which thrive on open communication, can mean the difference between existential loneliness and a deep sense of belonging. We all long to feel heard, understood, and loved, and clear communication makes this possible.

Sometimes problems arise in the process of expressing how we feel, but it is always worth it to do the work. Even in our less intimate relationships, expressing ourselves honestly is essential to our sense of well-being. Whether at home with family or in the outside world, successful communication requires some forethought; otherwise we risk blundering through our relationships like the proverbial bull in a china shop. However, too much forethought can stifle us or cause us to pad our words so extremely that we end up saying nothing at all or confusing the matter further. The good news is that there are many methods that can come to our rescue, from meditation to visualization to journaling.

If the person we need to communicate with is open to sitting in meditation together for a set period of time before speaking, this can be invaluable. When we are calm and centered, we can count on ourselves to speak and respond truthfully. We can also meditate on our own time and then practice what we need to say. A visualization in which we sit with the person and lovingly exchange a few words can also be a great precedent to an actual conversation. If writing comes easily, we can write out what we need to say; it may take several drafts, but we will eventually find the words. The key is to find ways to center ourselves so that we communicate meaningfully, lovingly, and wisely. In this way, we honor our companions and create relationships in which there is a genuine sense of understanding and respect.

Positively responsible

Even when you’re in a negative place, the next step you take can be in a positive direction. Even when you’re feeling down, with your thoughts and actions you can lift yourself up.

Disappointment and frustration are facts of life that you’ll often encounter. But that doesn’t mean you have to perpetuate them.

When you stumble and fall, it hurts. Yet no matter how much the setback has hurt you, your best choice is always to quickly get back up and get going again.

Instead of fighting back with more of your own negativity, advance forward with your own meaningful, positive intentions. When life has been tough and painful, grab the opportunity to make it richer and more fulfilling.

Feeling resentful and sorry for yourself will just end up giving you even more reasons to feel sorry and resentful. Choose instead to feel positively and enthusiastically responsible for pushing yourself beyond the difficulties.

Every moment is an opportunity for growth and advancement, no matter what has happened in the moments before. Seize each opportunity, and quickly leave life’s disappointments behind.

— Ralph Marston

The Daily Motivator

Tips for Surviving Monogamy

Pamela Madsen

In the top 10 reasons why individuals and couples come to me for intimacy and sexuality coaching is the reality that they have simply stopped having sex. Many think that what they need is “Sexual CPR.” They know it is not because they have stopped loving each other, or even think that they have stopped finding each other sexy. It’s just that they are not “turned on” or excited by each other anymore. The problem is time and togetherness can wear down erotic energy in long-term relationships.

If you are in a long term monogamous relationship, and you have stopped having sex, or sex is very infrequent, you may think you are broken or something is wrong with you or your relationship. It might be comforting to know that you are far from alone.

Sexual boredom and the lack of fire are often the reasons why some people reach outside of their long term relationship even though they are still happy with their partner on all other levels.

In a culture that is obsessed with sex, we ironically provide very little adult sex education. Outside of a myriad of “how to” sex books, there is very little in the way of authentic tools taught to us about how to make sex happen when it stops, and how to make it feel good again.

What we need to learn is that sex needs to become a pleasure that we decide to make happen as opposed to us waiting for the heat of desire to take us over. It can seem awfully boring, and certainly not a NY Times bestseller, to preach about how we need to create time and room for sex in our lives when our hormones are not raging for it. If you are waiting to be swept away by fiery passion in a long term relationship, it is possible you will be waiting a long time for your next sexual experience!

But putting conscious effort into what we think should come naturally can be very uncomfortable for many couples. Even couples who seek sexual coaching can have a lot of trouble doing their homework, because homework means consciously choosing to have a sexual experience. It can feel very awkward and uncomfortable to put sex on the calendar for Wednesday night!

But it is also very empowering to be able to consciously deal with sex as we do with everything else that is important in our lives. When we make room for sex, and put sex on the calendar we are making a very important statement to ourselves and to our partner. In making the commitment to mindful sex, we are also declaring to our partners that not only is sex worthy of our time and attention – but so are they.

Knowing that our partners still find us desirable and are willing to plan to show up for us is incredibly important. That kind of conscious love will not only help fuel our erotic engines again, but all of the other parts of our relationship as well.

The biggest resistance I get from couples around “calendar sex” is that scheduling sex is not “hot sex.” Somehow, if we feel like our love-making is not going to be red hot and smoking, then “Why bother?” The fact is that calender sex may not start as hot sex, but it can start as “warm sex”!

Warm sex can be very nourishing and pleasurable and can reward you in a manner that hot sex can’t. Try thinking about showing up for sex as anticipating and savoring a warm, nourishing, slow-cooked, pleasurable meal. And everybody knows that a pot has to warm up before it can boil.

Sex Educator and Sexological Body Worker, Caffyn Jesse offers these tools for conscious and warm sex:

“Why not experiment with expressing a range of emotions sexually: anger, frolic, naughtiness, mindlessness? We can play doctor, play dominatrix, have sex in a car, have a wild affair with our spouse.

When couples choose to explore the path of pleasure, learning and conscious sexuality, an astonishing richness becomes possible. We can share profound bonding, ecstatic awareness, and infinite variety within a single relationship.”

Mark Semple, an Intimacy, Love and Business Coach suggests “Being gentle with ourselves is essential in this pursuit. Allowing ourselves a timeout from the demands of daily life and family. Ensuring we are our top priority and care for ourselves the way we care for everyone else. Exploring our hearts, minds, spirits and bodies to reconnect with our essence and align with that which does get out passion burning and our juices flowing.”

Allow yourselves to explore pleasure again, and challenge each other to move past your sexual limitations. Do you feel a little fear sharing a long held fantasy with your partner? Try sharing it and see what happens! Have you ever experimented with your partner with one-way touch and sensual massage? Bring out the oil! Give yourself the room to explore all of the various ways you can allow pleasure into your life.

You can welcome sex back into your relationship. You don’t have to wait until you solve all of the problems that occur in a long term relationship. Don’t be stalemated by old conflicts, grudges, and who did the dishes last. You might be surprised to discover that when you welcome sex back into your relationship in a conscious and warm way – all of those old issues may start to feel less important after all.

Daily OM for February 16th – Thoughtful Conclusions about Commitment

Thoughtful Conclusions about Commitment
Deciding Whether to Marry

The decision to marry should not be based solely on having the feeling of love in your heart.

Though we may make many commitments throughout our time on earth, few have a lifelong impact on the path our lives will take. The decision to marry someone you love—to bond yourself to them completely—is unlike any other and can reshape your existence. When two people have similar goals, values, and needs, marriage can result in a lifetime partnership of love and respect, shared laughter and tears, friendship, and intimacy that is ultimately fulfilling. Love is often cited as the sole prerequisite of a strong and stable married life. However, the decision to get married should be made with the mind and the soul as well as with the heart. Carefully considering whether you truly want to get married, both individually and as a couple, can ensure that if you do choose to marry, your relationship can grow to unimaginable depths.

The decision-making process you employ to determine whether you should marry should be a thoughtful and honest one in which you appraise not only your partner but also yourself. Consider that love and attraction do not guarantee long-term compatibility. If your relationship is not secure, marriage will not make it so. Likewise, if your partner is not as attentive, loving, or kind as you would like, your becoming spouses will not change that. Marriage has no power to permanently fill any emotional or spiritual gaps in your life. Before you choose to marry, ask yourself whether you and your partner are adept at resolving conflict, can speak openly to one another, and fully respect one another. Your attitudes regarding the nature of marital commitment, children and child rearing, and marital roles may be the same or they may differ. It is your shared responsibility to discuss your similarities and come to agreements regarding your differences that will predict how successful your future marriage will be. Often times, younger couples rush into marriage just for the wedding dress, the ring, the party, and honeymoon. Would you still be willing to be married if you couldn’t have these things?

Remember that planning a wedding is simple when compared to the intricacies of nurturing a marriage. The honeymoon and nesting period will eventually wear off, and what you are left with is a partner for life. When you work together with your partner, reassure and support one another, and are honest about your feelings regarding marriage, you’ll come to the right decision.

Do You Like You?

Liz Dawn Donahue

Do I like myself?

Do I like myself in this relationship?

Two very similar questions, but at the same time, very different.

I remember being in relationships and looking in the mirror only to think “who is this person?” I could barely recognize my own reflection because at times my behavior was the anti-thesis of who I am and who I wanted to be. It had gotten to a point in one relationship that I could not believe who I had become. I was this woman putting up with behavior from my partner that I would go screaming into the night if any of my friends would do this in their lives.

I liked myself, but I did not like myself in this relationship. I did not like the person who I had become and most especially that I could not seem to control my reactions to his “bad” behavior.

After hours, actually months, of therapy, I realized that if I was going to come out of this even half alive and the person that I knew myself to be, that I had to figure a way out of this dysfunctional abyss. It was a matter of my mental sanity that I embarked on a vigorous journey of self introspection to understand why I was in a relationship with someone that brought out the worst in me instead of the best in me.

Was this concept an impossibility or just a cliche? Can you really be with someone who brings out the best in you or is it your responsibility to always be your best no matter who is in your life? These questions haunted me. I really felt that no matter who was in my life that I should be able to stay centered at all times and be my best. This is wonderful in theory, but not so great in reality when dealing with intimate relationships or dealing with those things that trigger us.

I have heard story after story about people sharing their disappointments about themselves because they would find their lives intertwined with someone who brought out the worst in them. Why?

Here is what I discovered, and this is just one woman’s opinion. We absolutely have to take responsibility for our own actions at all times; however, there are those intimate relationships that trigger old deep-seeded issues inside us that we might have thought we resolved years ago or even issues we never knew we had in the first place. In other words, if I am in a relationship with someone and I am acting out of character, I have to sit and ask myself, what is happening around me that is triggering me into this behavior? Then I need to reflect on what does this remind me of in my past.

More times than often, there is an emotional trigger that has nothing to do with the person in front of you, but has everything to do with past unhealed trauma. The person in front of you is just a reminder that there are areas of your life that need a little work. Having said this, it does NOT mean that you stay with a person who continuously triggers you. If you sit back and take an objective look at their behavior you will probably see that their actions are dysfunctional as well. Their behavior is a perfect match to tap you on the shoulder and not only see unhealed areas of your life, but to also recognize what your relationship red flags are for the future.

I challenge the concept that in order to grow it is good to be in relationship with a partner that challenges your issues. Thank you very much, but I can grow and learn very nicely without the drama of being thrown into all that dysfunction. It is taking a stand and being able to walk away from those relationships that trigger you, a willingness to work in it on your own, and then get into a relationship with someone who does not have the same behavior.

After many years of playing this game and being hit over the head with this lesson I finally got it. I am in a marriage with a man that brings out the best in me, not the worst and I bring out the best in him. It is not just cliche after all.

Your Daily Horoscopes for Wednesday, December 7th

We can hold the lid on reality today with help from the stubborn Taurus Moon, even as sensuous Venus’ semisquare to dreamy Neptune stimulates our imaginations. Nevertheless, we can maintain our focus on whatever’s happening if we follow the wisdom of the Taurus Moon and keep things as simple as possible. Meanwhile, an otherworldly septile between steady Saturn and wild Uranus can catch us off guard with a surprise if our concentration wanders.

Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Sometimes you cannot be patient, but fortunately you have the good sense to wait today. You know there are good times to be had, but you’re not prepared to face the stiff consequences of unfinished responsibilities. An intelligent strategy involves setting a pace that won’t wear you out. Working steadily enables you to accomplish your goals, so you can then go out and have a wonderful time without any lingering guilt.

Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

You have an unflappable determination, making it possible to accomplish nearly anything that you set your mind to now. Nevertheless, stating your intention is pointless unless you’re willing to follow through by executing your plan. Your certainty may be unshakeable, but you still might need some help getting motivated today. Don’t try to handle everything on your own; ask your associates to work with you until you gain sufficient momentum.

Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

You may be picking up strange messages from the cosmos today and this could mess with your sense of reality. At first everything seems copasetic, but then something happens to remind you of how much you don’t understand. But rather than wondering about unsolvable mysteries, it’s smarter to concentrate your attention on the tasks immediately in front of you. The simple act of finishing a job now will bring more satisfaction than anything else.

Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

Being around other people stimulates your fantasies today, but an active imagination doesn’t mean that you want to share your thoughts. Your daydreams may be quite vivid, but you could feel unsure of yourself as you also remember a prior experience when your plan didn’t quite make the grade. You might be a little wobbly as you overcome lost confidence. However, there’s no need to act any tougher than you are; leaning on your friends reveals them to be the steady pillars that you need.

Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Don’t waste any energy doubting yourself today because your intuition is right on track. Unfortunately, your uncertainty could lead you into an argument as you attempt to justify your point of view without the necessary facts at hand. But it doesn’t matter whether anyone understands why you have chosen your current path. Just give your presentation your very best and your friends will eventually see the wisdom in what you do.

Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

There’s no reason to set your goals very high today, because it’s more important that you reach your destination than it is to tire yourself out attempting to go too far. Your wisdom comes from your practicality, which could mean working less and enjoying yourself more. Don’t worry if your current productivity is less than what you promised; there is more going on now than meets the eye and you’ll make up for lost time in the next few days.

Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You are motivated today by your strong desire for pleasure, especially within the safe boundaries of an intimate relationship. Although someone might believe that you’re being lazy now, you’re eager to work extra hard if you can see a reward for your efforts. Unfortunately, your attitude may be so out of character that others perceive you as being selfish. Remember, taking care of your own needs is sometimes the best way to replenish your vitality, leaving you with even more to give to those you love.

Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

A partner or close friend might tell you exactly what he or she thinks you need to know today. You might feel as if everyone’s attention on you is turning a simple problem into a more complex one. Few will doubt your ability to overcome an obstacle, but it’s still difficult to keep everything in perspective now. Don’t become self-righteous or your pompous indignation will only make matters worse. Keep your mind open, even if you don’t like what you hear.

Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

The Moon’s visit to your 6th House of Well-Being has you thinking about making improvements to your health regimen, diet or exercise program. However, little incremental steps are more efficient now than setting larger changes into motion. Don’t set yourself up for failure by taking on too much at once. For now, thinking small is better than falsely believing that you’re capable of fixing everything at once.

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Jolly Jupiter and the Moon meandering through your 5th House of Fun and Games might distract you from firming up your plans today. Your smartest strategy may not be apparent because this is likely to be a counter-intuitive day. If you feel too good, you could grow lazy while justifying your lack of initiative. But this approach isn’t helpful in the long run, even if you can get by without a lot of effort. The real work at hand is to map out your future while your creativity is running high.

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You may be reflecting on your life now and remembering a plan that went wrong or all the times you failed to meet someone’s expectations. Thankfully, the memories can also make you smile because you can’t help but think about the good times, too. This nostalgic journey could be quite therapeutic and allows you to return to the present moment with an improved attitude and a lighter heart.

Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

The Moon’s visit to your 3rd House of Immediate Surroundings indicates that your siblings or closest friends might play a very active role in your life today. Allies could easily step in and give you the support you need to feel safe and secure. But don’t take your desire to establish connections too far. If you try too hard, you could inadvertently create a gulf between you and someone special.

New Moon Report for Nov. 10 – Full Moon in Taurus

Full Moon in Taurus

Thursday, November 10, 12:16 pm PST, 3:16 pm EST

The placid Taurus Moon contrasts with the opposing Sun in Scorpio’s impulse to examine every act and question every motive. Stubborn standoffs between those who prefer things the way they are and those who need to turn the world upside down force us to examine our values. Of course, neither way of operating is appropriate all the time, so instead of locking into fixed positions, it’s wiser to recognize where to hold on and where to let go. Financial issues are likely to be emphasized as we seek ways to appreciate what we have (Taurus) while honoring our hunger for change (Scorpio).

Your Love Horoscopes for the Week of November 7th

Moods shift with the changing breeze and hearts grow restless this weekend. The Moon in jumpy Gemini invites curiosity and loves to flirt, but settling into a deep place and staying there will not be easy. Still, conversations flow with an overload of information and a willingness to talk to almost anyone.

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Aries Horoscope (Mar 21 – Apr 19)

The Moon’s presence in verbal Gemini and your chatty 3rd house encourages you to say whatever comes to mind without thinking first. Luckily, your flirtatious charm can open the way to meeting interesting people this weekend. Yet following up on commitments may be a challenge in this easily distracted sign. Playful companions and a variety of activities are more likely to fulfill your needs than locking yourself into a major project or having to deal with complex feelings.

More for Aries: Monthly Love Astrology Forecast | About Aries

Taurus Horoscope (Apr 20 – May 20)

Your sense of self-worth can fluctuate wildly this weekend, which can run you through a gamut of emotions. However, this isn’t the time to settle matters, but is one when it’s best to adapt, adjust and not take yourself or anyone else too seriously. The Moon in the butterfly sign of Gemini is wonderful for keeping things light. Exploring different kinds of people and experiences where no commitment is required should work best.

More for Taurus: Monthly Love Astrology Forecast | About Taurus

Gemini Horoscope (May 21 – Jun 20)

The Moon is hanging out in your flexible sign this weekend, sending your body, mind and heart off in a million different directions this weekend. But even if you’re scattered in your thinking, you should be able to attract attention quite easily. Just keep stress to a minimum by adopting a playful attitude instead of taking things too seriously. Teasing and flirting might not reveal deep feelings, but they can be a delightful source of low risk recreation.

More for Gemini: Monthly Love Astrology Forecast | About Gemini

Cancer Horoscope (June 21 – Jul 22)

You could feel like you’re an observer rather than a participant in the social realms this weekend. The emotionally detached Gemini Moon is occupying your 12th House of Privacy, which is not ideal for grabbing anyone’s attention or hanging out in crowds. However, it’s an excellent time for resting and relaxing without the pressure of entertaining others. Spending time alone or with one relatively quiet and undemanding person could be just what the doctor ordered.

More for Cancer: Monthly Love Astrology Forecast | About Cancer

Leo Horoscope (Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Friends and colleagues stimulate your social life this weekend or make you crazy with their inconsistency. Sudden changes of plans and unexpected shifts of mood make it hard for you to know where you stand. But if you’re able to let go of expectations and roll with the tides, you can have plenty of fun. Meeting someone when you’re part of a group could turn out to be a pleasant surprise.

More for Leo: Monthly Love Astrology Forecast | About Leo

Virgo Horoscope (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Be careful about taking on too many responsibilities because you could end up with so many obligations that you don’t have any time left for fun. That would be a shame with the Moon in flirtatious Gemini this weekend, which makes it easier to meet someone new or refresh an ongoing partnership. It’s best, though, to take things lightly because moods shift quickly and commitments can fail due to lack of focus and follow-through. Give yourself permission to let your hair down and have a good time without worrying about tomorrow.

Libra Horoscope (Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You need to stretch your mind and your legs this weekend by getting away from your usual routine. Exploring new places and ideas is nourishing with the Moon in curious Gemini and your 9th House of Travel and Higher Education. Smart people are especially attractive now and your ability to keep up your end of an interesting conversation makes you more desirable, too. Just keep things on the light side instead of tackling anything too heavy.

Scorpio Horoscope (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

You may find it hard to get a fix on others this weekend, even if it’s your partner who you know so well. The jittery Gemini Moon shakes up your 8th House of Intimacy with fluctuating feelings and inconsistent individuals. The point is not to make you crazy but to remind you to relax and take a lighter approach to your interactions. This is a fine time to flirt or have an innocent fling but it’s not ideal for addressing more complicated emotional issues.

Sagittarius Horoscope (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Your personal life is on the move this weekend with the Moon traveling through mobile Gemini and your 7th House of Partners. Don’t expect reliability from even the most stable people since the winds of change will affect everyone. Opening up new topics of discussion in a current relationship or when meeting someone new is bound to be stimulating. Getting agreement on anything important, though, can be difficult, so it’s best not to push on the delicate points.

Capricorn Horoscope (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Don’t let the little things get you down this weekend. The Moon is in flighty Gemini and your 6th House of Details, which can have you scurrying around to put everything in place. It’s better to let go of minor matters, relax and let the less responsible side of your personality take charge. Plans change quickly and moods are inconsistent in spite of your desire for order. Compromising is less stressful than driving yourself crazy trying to control everything.

Aquarius Horoscope (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You could be in for a great time this weekend with the Moon’s presence in flirtatious Gemini and your 5th House of Romance. This is a perfect time for being playful, but not as useful for dealing with serious personal issues. Let your inner child out to play and you’re almost guaranteed to have a good time. Having fun can be surprisingly sexy as a joyful attitude makes you more desirable to others.

Pisces Horoscope (Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Are you ready for fun at your place this weekend? The friendly Gemini Moon is visiting your domestic 4th house, which is great for entertaining at home. Just don’t make it a formal affair since the sign of the Twins makes us happier in casual environments. Talking through your feelings in private can alleviate some pressure, but don’t expect an immediate solution to any long-term relationship issues now. Laughter is the best medicine for a weary heart.

Your Weekend Lovescope for Nov. 4th – 6th

Weekend Love: Lunar Love

by Jeff Jawer

Time, Love and Tenderness

November 4 – 6

The Moon swishes into sensitive Pisces on Friday morning to create a tender mood for the next two days. This lunar transit lowers emotional barriers as feelings overcome intellect, producing a favorable environment for closeness. However, the intimacy we often experience in poetic Pisces is sentimental and universal, as if we’re in love with love instead of the particular qualities of our companions. Escaping within fantasies to dream about faraway places where the harsh realities of daily life are shrouded in the fog of blind love can be both delicious and deceiving. Yet we’re more likely to appreciate a lie that favors romance than a truth that wakes us from cozy dreams of soul connection.

Avoid serious work unless it has a spiritual, artistic or humanitarian purpose, because helping others and creating beauty are especially endearing with the Moon’s presence in compassionate Pisces. Whiling away the hours engaging in relaxing activities like walking in the woods, drinking wine and listening to music creates a low-stress environment that’s needed to support relationships.

The mood is quite different on Sunday as skins must grow tougher with the Moon’s entry into fiery and independent Aries. The urge for freedom intensifies, burning away the cocoon of closeness and reminding us to act boldly by trying new experiences and meeting new people.

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