Your Daily Horoscopes for Monday, Dec. 16th

The distractions are endless today, making it difficult to hold our concentration on any one task as the inquisitive Gemini Moon increases our curiosity and draws our attention to something new. It may be quite challenging to follow through on everything we start now, since we can imagine many possible outcomes in every direction we look. But it’s nearly impossible to gauge how much to say as messenger Mercury aligns with over-the-top Jupiter.

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

You may be feeling extremely enthusiastic today as effervescent Jupiter pumps up your optimism. Even if you are facing tough circumstances, you can still find something positive to focus on. But don’t paint such a worry-free picture that you overlook an important truth right before your eyes. Instead, map out a realistic strategy for the upcoming months ahead and concentrate on accomplishing your goals. Sheer determination and hard work could be all you need to make your dreams come true.

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

New perspectives continue to expand your understanding of the big world outside your door. You are going on a journey within your mind, so take every opportunity you can to learn more about yourself as you travel. Explore your interests in religion, philosophy, or metaphysics, even if you are normally concerned with more mundane things. Put your current inspiration to work by doing your best to discover the secrets of the universe.

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

Your moods may be a bit uncontrollable today, prompting you to react without thinking. Usually, you’re the one who cleverly motivates others, but the tables are turned for the next few weeks as your associates push you into action. You won’t be able to get away without cooperating, so use this time to act in a forward-thinking manner instead of waiting until it’s too late. It’s okay to take a risk, but allowing others to lead may be more productive for now.

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

Your big ideas might not solve any work-related issues, but they do help you think more globally. You could try to bury your feelings so you can kick yourself into action today, but you could move so fast that you overdo it. Don’t let your impulsive excitement lead you into any agreements that limit your range of action or you may feel stuck until the end of the year. Relying on your natural cautious instincts now works in your favor.

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

You receive an encouraging boost of energy today from witty Mercury as it stirs up colorful ideas in your 5th House of Creativity; however, it’s your decision on how best to use your current inspiration. You may be highly productive or choose to have a whole lot of fun instead. The good news is that you can get the best of both worlds, applying your playful spirit in a spontaneous way whether you are at work or at home. Whatever you do, don’t waste this magical moment.

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Your primary concern over the following weeks may involve finding the right mixture of enthusiasm and restraint as you vacillate between moving forward with your career aspirations and retreating into the safety of your nest. Your best strategy might be to avoid making a final decision for a while. Let the internal conflict inspire you to imagine new possibilities even while circumstances continue to slow you down.

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You may feel another surge of mental energy as you search for long-term solutions to current problems. But don’t squander a wonderful opportunity by staying within your head. Now that you are buzzing, do something about it and initiate a bold move. Don’t get hung up wondering if you are making the right decision or not; any movement now is better than waiting for the perfect moment. Strike while the iron is hot.

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Your financial security might seem so important to you now that you’re tempted to set aside matters of the heart so you can focus on managing your business. Of course you realize your silence will not last forever, so you’re probably just delaying the inevitable. Although your self-esteem may be shaky today, you could boost your confidence by pushing past your fears and guiding your actions from a place of love.

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

The party vibes kick up another notch as jovial Jupiter spreads his good cheer all over the place. You may feel charged up with an energetic buzz, allowing you to enjoy just about anything that attracts your attention. Unfortunately, your short-term enthusiasm can temporarily overwhelm your long-term strategic goals. Beware of saying yes too quickly, even if you are more than ready for whatever happens next. A little bit of caution improves your chances of success.

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Preventing your feelings from bottling up within you is critical today because your intentions will probably slip out even if you don’t express what’s on your mind. Taking full responsibility for your needs is much more admirable than playing the role of a victim. Your ambitions may be honorable, but circumstances can quickly get muddled unless you are prepared to walk your emotional talk. Thankfully, your sense of integrity will see you through.

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

You might be very surprised with all the changes occurring in your life. Your social calendar continues to get even busier as friendly Mercury is activated in your 11th House of Friends. Enjoy the energetic shift outward as you think about filling up your calendar with exciting activities. Just remember that it’s okay to turn down an invitation if you don’t feel up to it, for there will be plenty more opportunities for fun throughout the holiday season.

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Although you may be a fairly private person, you now have a chance to show the world how well you can play with others. Perhaps you feel more ambitious today, yet you’re not certain how best to apply your efforts. Don’t worry about finalizing a new plan, for your greatest strength today is your ability to make it up as you go along. Have faith in the process of collaboration and be ready to create positive change.

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Daily Motivator for November 13th – Beautiful reality

Beautiful reality

Act not out of judgment, but out of love. Live not from a position of fear,  but from a perspective of joy.

Let go of the need to prove how good you are. Live in such a way that real  goodness, joy and generosity flow naturally from all you do.

Instead of seeking to gain more advantage, discover new ways to give more  value. Instead of worrying about what might be, live the immense treasure of  what already is.

Don’t waste your time looking for happiness in this thing or that. Let  happiness always find you right where you are, doing whatever you are doing.

See life not as a contest where some must lose in order for others to win.  See it as an opportunity to lift yourself higher by lifting many, many others  through your unique gifts.

Let go of the illusion that you must struggle. And let in the beautiful  reality of how very good life can be.

— Ralph Marston

The Daily Motivator

Overview of Your Chinese Horoscopes for Oct. 31st

CHINESE ASTROLOGY: YEAR OF THE SNAKE

October 31st

Powerful influences are very favorable to your career, but you must remember to be diplomatic and accommodating. Many projects to which you give much importance will be hatched out, as if by magic. Beware of excessive perfectionism — it will only lead to disappointment. This is a good sentimental climate: You will strengthen your existing ties, or perhaps you will begin new and charming relationships.

Daily OM for October 15th – Surrender Box

Surrender Box

A Place for Worries and Fears

by Madisyn Taylor

 

A surrender box is a tool to let go of our burdens so the universe can take care of them for us.

There are times when our minds become too full. Our to-do lists, worries, plans, and dreams may be so crowded together in our heads that we don’t have room to think. We may believe that we are somehow taking care of our desires and concerns by keeping them at the forefront of our minds. In maintaining our mental hold on every detail, however, we may actually delay the realization of our dreams and the resolution of our worries because we won’t let them go. At times such as these, we may want to use a surrender box.

A surrender box allows us to let go of our worries and desires so the universe can take care of them for us. We write down what we want or need to happen and then place the note into a box. By writing and placing our thoughts in the box, we are taking action and letting the universe know we need help and are willing to surrender our feelings. We give ourselves permission to not concern ourselves with that problem any longer and trust that the universe is taking care of it. You may even want to decorate your box and place it in a special place. Your surrender box is a sacred container for your worries. Not only do you free up space in your mind by letting go of our worries and desires and dropping them into your surrender box, but you are giving your burden over to a higher power. Once we drop our worries and desires into the surrender box, we free our minds so we can be fully present in each moment.

Surrendering our worries and concerns and placing them in the hands of the universe doesn’t mean that we’ve given up or have been defeated. Instead, we are releasing the realization of our desires and the resolution of our worries and no longer concerning ourselves with their outcomes. It’s always fun to go back and pull the slips of paper out of the box once your requests have been granted. And it’s amazing how quickly problems go away and dreams come true when we finally let go and allow a higher power to help us.

Daily OM

Make Your Own Worry Dolls

Here is how to make your own extra strength worry dolls using your poppet. Make some tiny little poppets as above – 7 would be good! – and find 7 different coloured pieces of string or thin ribbon (tip – you can pull a string from a piece of fabric). Assign one topic to each colour – let’s say:

Purple: Magic/Spiritual/Religious worries

Blue: Work/Study worries

Green: Money problems

Pink: Love problems

Red: Physical/health/self esteem body problems

Orange: Emotional Problems

Yellow: Thought/Intellect/memory worries.

Tie one of these around each moppet’s neck, line them all up and one at a time, give them your worries to worry about. They will not only worry for you, but also in real voodoo doll fashion set to work and go and resolve these worries for you. There’s one thing though. If you start worrying about a worry you have given over to a worry doll, you are taking the worry BACK to YOURSELF and the spell is broken.  Should this happen accidentally, go back to the doll and give it the problem afresh. When the problem is resolved, you can take the ribbon off the voodoo doll and it returns to a neutral waiting state until you want to use it again for something.

Daily Horoscopes for Sunday, December 23rd

Life may feel a bit tame after the past few high-energy days, and we quickly relax into the more emotionally stable terrain. The Moon’s visit to laid-back Taurus enables us to find pleasure from simple activities like reading a book, walking in nature or just hanging out with friends and family. But it still might be tricky to fully enjoy the present moment if we’re worrying about what happened yesterday or finalizing plans for the holidays.

Aries Horoscope

(Mar 21 – Apr 19)

Even if you’re longing for a less complicated life, you may have unfinished business to complete before you can separate yourself from the complexity you have created. Although your path appears clearer today, it could take quite a bit of determination in order to reach your destination. Be careful not to become overly complacent with the status quo because it’s not time to let up yet. Putting in extra effort now helps to ensure that you’ll have more time to rest later on.

Taurus Horoscope

(Apr 20 – May 20)

Now that the Moon has returned to your sensual sign, it’s time to soak in the emotional nurturing that is being offered to you. However, it may be a challenge to stop your mind from spinning today. You could be thinking about so many things that your thoughts zip by just beyond your reach. You might even make yourself frustrated if you try to put your fantastic ideas to work. Thankfully, it’s not about productivity now; sit back and enjoy the process without worrying about the results.

Gemini Horoscope

(May 21 – Jun 20)

You can’t remain quiet and let something important slip by today without adding your two cents. In fact, you’re driven to speak your mind now because you’re very clear about your own convictions. But remember that you don’t have to comment on every little thing; instead, pick and choose the most critical issues before stirring up controversy with your point of view.

Cancer Horoscope

(Jun 21 – Jul 22)

The tension of unresolved conflicts is temporarily soothed by your flexible attitude today. You can release whatever was bothering you in return for a relaxing day of spiritual refreshment and social enjoyment. However, you may not be ready to completely let go of your unexpressed feelings. Nevertheless, set them aside for a while without judging yourself too harshly. You’re not avoiding an issue; you’re just waiting for the right moment to handle it.

Leo Horoscope

(Jul 23 – Aug 22)

Today can be a day of contemplation that counterbalances your domestic responsibilities. You might wish that you could escape into a dream, but complications arise if you pay too much attention to your inner world before finishing your chores. But don’t overcompensate by playing the role of a superhero. Just do what you can while still leaving some time to explore your imagination.

Virgo Horoscope

(Aug 23 – Sep 22)

You might have planned a fun event today, only to realize that it’s not going to play out as you wish. Fortunately, you can still enjoy yourself, even if a bit of confusion creeps into your life. There’s no need to become overly concerned by details that won’t be important in the long run anyhow. Instead, shrug off the minor problems and refocus on the basics.

Libra Horoscope

(Sep 23 – Oct 22)

You could get all wrapped up in your thoughts now, although your stoicism may prevent you from talking about your worries with others. You wish that you felt more in the holiday spirit, but serious issues are weighing you down and they won’t go away until you deal with them. Even with concentrated attention today, resolution probably won’t come quickly. In the meantime, find a creative outlet for your irritation instead of spreading it to others.

Scorpio Horoscope

(Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Although you are aware of life’s simplicity today, you’re even more conscious of its complications. The earthy Taurus Moon lures you away from work and toward the pleasure of play. Yet, as a transformational Scorpio, you’re always attracted to a good mystery. Be careful if it appears that someone else can ameliorate your need for complexity, for this is just an illusion. Like it or not, your fate is completely in your own hands.

Sagittarius Horoscope

(Nov 22 – Dec 21)

Returning to the basics isn’t what usually motivates you, but simplification just may be the most critical issue in your life today. You can have positive impact on your immediate environment, but you have to shift out of the fast lane and on to a road less traveled by busy people like you. You’re at an important intersection, and taking the high-speed freeway isn’t in your best interest. A scenic detour might have much more to offer you now.

Capricorn Horoscope

(Dec 22 – Jan 19)

You are rethinking some of your most basic strategies as you try to reinvent yourself these days. Although this transformation process isn’t finished yet, it would be an intelligent exercise to review and re-evaluate your list of accomplishments. Tie up as many loose ends as possible over the next couple of days so you’re ready for the new year.

Aquarius Horoscope

(Jan 20 – Feb 18)

Inner conflict may be the source of additional stress as you reconsider a rational decision you recently made. Your feelings might not be following your good intentions as you assumed they naturally would. Your dilemma probably isn’t apparent to others, but one special person could come through for you now. Be open to receiving good news, or at least an uplifting perspective, from a friend or family member — for it can be just enough encouragement to nudge you along in the right direction.

Pisces Horoscope

(Feb 19 – Mar 20)

Your current ambiguity may get in the way of making concrete plans. You would like to do what’s best, but your intentions might go awry especially if your expectations are inflated. It’s difficult for you to say no to anything that sounds like fun, even if it isn’t very practical. Rely on a second opinion before making any commitments that you will later regret.

6 Tips for Less Stress & More Joy This Season

6 Tips for Less Stress & More Joy This Season

The clock is ticking toward the holidays, and  two very different feelings  are flashing on your emotional news feed:  impending joy and impending doom.

OK, maybe doom is overstating it; dread may be closer to the mark.  But let’s  face it, many of us are finding ourselves up at 3:00 in the  morning checking  our to-do lists and reviewing incessantly the parade of  possible catastrophes:  “Will my brined turkey be a disaster?” “Will  everyone be happy with their  gifts?” “How much weight (and debt) am I  going to gain?” “What if my family  doesn’t get along?” “What if I’m not  ready?” “What if I totally fail?!” Wait,  are we preparing for the  holidays — or final exams?

It doesn’t have to be this way.

It’s time to change our relationship with the holidays. We don’t have  to  break up with them, but just know that as with all things anxiety,  the holidays  aren’t the problem; it’s the story in our head about the  holidays that needs to  change.

So, don’t gather up the mistletoe or menorahs, waiting for that  starting gun  to say: “On your mark, get set, stress!” Instead, put down  the supplies, take  off your running shoes, and change your expectations.

The holidays are not a control-freak boss or a mother-in-law poised  with a  perfection-sensor critiquing your every move — more likely,  you’re doing that  number on yourself. The holidays are an opportunity —  your opportunity — to  acknowledge and celebrate in the ways that you  would like.

So, this year, give a gift to yourself. Be daring. Choose how you  want to  celebrate this season. Yes, you do have many choices in the  matter. Whether  that’s a tailgating party, a marathon family reading of The Hobbit,  or  the more traditional hot cider in front of the fire, don’t let the  anxious  chatter — “You should, you must, you’ve failed!” — ruin it for  you. Find your  own meaning, there are no right or wrong answers. If  it’s real to you, it’s  real.

Here are six ways to help you have more joy and less stress this holiday  season:

Get Specific and Fact-Check Your Worry

If the mantra in your head is: “I have to make this the most perfect  holiday  ever,” it’s time to release yourself from the impossible. The  constant worry  that this thought generates is sure to distract you — if  not derail you — from  enjoying what is. Take a minute and on one side  of a piece of a paper write  down what your worries are about the  holidays. Your worst picture of what could  go wrong. Then, on the other  side of the page, write down your answers to a  different question: What  do you think will actually happen? Or, put another  way: The next  morning, how do you think things will have actually turned out?  Pick up  the paper and read it from time to time, then notice what happens in   your body when you read your answers to those second questions. It’s  like  someone unplugged you from the stress machine and you’ve tapped  into the truth.  Make sure there’s room for reality in your head and at  your holiday table.

Don’t Script, Live

If you back up and look at the most cherished moments from holiday  times in  the past — the raucous game of charades or football, the quiet  moment when  everyone was happily entertaining themselves in the living  room while the snow  was falling out the window. What happened before those moments? It  wasn’t that anyone said, “Hey, let’s make memories  here — let’s all sit in the  living room and occupy ourselves  contentedly, okay?” Things just evolved. So as  much as it is great to  have plans and ideas, flexibility, spontaneity and being  open to what  might happen provide the greatest possibilities.

Let the Mistakes Be… New Traditions?

Forgot the cranberry sauce? Maybe a guest has a great idea for how to   innovate an alternative. Miscounted the spaces at the table? A  Christmas picnic  or a lighthearted impromptu game of musical chairs  before sitting for dinner  might be the memory that sticks for people —  and may give birth to a new  tradition.

One holiday bonding experience happened one year when we were hosting   Christmas dinner for friends and discovered that our kitchen had a  mouse. We  called our friends and asked if we could bring food to their  house and cook  there. The last-minute change, the pulling together in a  pinch, solidified our  friendship. Mistakes and glitches are often the  shortest distance between two  people if you have the right spirit about  it.

Pace Yourself and Schedule in Down-Time

Having a week off for the holidays can feel like winning the lottery:  You’re  flush with time and yet, like winning the lottery, when you  start divvying up  the pot of who is going to get what– or, in holiday  break terms, who you’re  going to see when — you may end up feeling  broke, with nothing left for you.  Rather than end winter vacation  feeling like you need a vacation, do what  marathoners do. Pace yourself.  Schedule in some coasting time. Would you like  to sit and read the  paper (or similar) once during the holidays? Put it in your  calendar.  Block out the time and enjoy. Repeat when possible.

Finding Joy: Savoring the Moment

I like to think about the one thing that I want to notice during the   holidays. Yes, I know I’m scripting it ahead, but bear with me — my  ability to  live in a clutch-free or cling-free manner of zen  present-centeredness is still  under construction. For me, it’s noticing  that moment at the holiday table when  everyone is contentedly eating and  conversation is flowing and my only wish is  exactly what I am  experiencing right then. Sometimes that picture doesn’t  happen, and  something else happens that hits that spot. Be on the look out for  that  one moment where you stop worrying about what’s next and you’re   thoroughly savoring what is.

Turn the Focus Outward: Help Others

Anxiety and worry turn the focus inward — the critic in your head  has a  strong bias toward “that’s not good enough.” Unplug that  microphone, get out of  the spotlight and focus on others: Volunteer time  if you’ve got it, contribute  if you don’t. It doesn’t have to be a pot  of gold, donating clothing or canned  goods can make a great difference  to a family in need.

So this year, forego the worry and give yourself more breathing room. In  so  doing, you will give joy, gratitude, and contentedness a wider berth  to find  their way into your life for the holidays and beyond.

Copyright Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., author of Freeing Yourself from Anxiety (DaCapo, 2012).