Aromas to Heal a Broken Heart
by Francoise Rapp
Too often people write off break-ups as just another page to turn in the book of life. There is some truth in that, but break-ups should be taken a bit more seriously. After all, this is the end of a relationship. And this loss can be as painful as losing a loved one in death. To heal it takes time, self-care, and conscious processing of your emotions. It is vital that you allow this healing process to occur, and take advantage of the situation to treat yourself with gentleness and nurturing.
Here are some other things to keep in mind during this transformative time:
· Avoid any big decisions.
· Go into the pain and the feelings. There is no way out but to get through it…and you will!
· Take long aromatherapy baths with appropriate holistic blends. See recipes below.
· Cry when you need to. Don’t let others tell you to just get over it.
· Be VERY selfish.
· Surround yourself with positive and happy people.
· Dare to ask for a lot of hugs.
· Get a dog or cat, or cuddle with the ones you have.
· Write really awful, bitchy, letters to your ex. Write everything you would love to say. Burn them in the sink. Run the water to make it go away.
· Love yourself. Look in the mirror as often as you can and say wonderful things about yourself aloud.
· Write your way through the feelings.
· Connect with other people who understand and can relate: friends, counselors, message boards on websites, etc.
· Have a healthy lifestyle: eat well, exercise (at least get some fresh air on the beach, at the park, etc.).
· Nourish your soul with beauty: watch movies, read poetry, go to museums.
· Stay alone and appreciate the tranquility of your aloneness.
There’s no rule for how long the pain of a heartbreak will last. It may take weeks, months or even years. But using the following special aromatherapy blend and ritual will soothe your heart, nurture your wounded soul, and envelop you in comfort. I recommend following this bath ritual every night until you feel the pain has faded.
· 4 drops Rose Essential Oil
Run some warm water for your bath and add 10 drops of your aromatic blend. Light some candles and turn off the lights. Close your eyes and place your hands on your heart. Visualize yourself filled and surrounded by a pink color. Take a few deep breaths. Feel the color soothing your being. Say aloud, “I am love myself.” Take a few deep breaths again. Soak for at least 15 minutes.
After you get out of the bath, pour a few drops of the aromatherapy blend into the palms of your hands and anoint your heart chakra (the seat of love: healing, grieving, acceptance), and the third eye (integrating, detachment, connection with your Higher Self).