Quiz of the Day – What Does Your Birth Order Say About You?

What Does Your Birth Order Say About You?

by Mel, selected from DivineCaroline

Does birth order shape our personalities? Scientists the world over have  spent countless words and oceans of ink debating the issue of nature versus  nurture. But how your child develops might have as much to do with the order in  which they were born, as it does with their genes or environment.

Alfred Adler, a contemporary of Freud and Jung, first put forth the idea,  claiming that when a child is born deeply impacts their personality. According  to Adler:

Eldest children are socially dominant, highly intellectual,  and extremely conscientious. Unfortunately, they’re also less open to new ideas,  and prone to perfectionism and people pleasing—the result of losing both  parents’ undivided attention at an early age, and working throughout their lives  to get it back. Middle children, sandwiched between older  and younger siblings, often develop a competitive nature, making them natural  entrepreneurs later in life. They tend to be the most diplomatic and flexible  members of the family and often, eager for parental praise, develop musical or  academic gifts.

Youngest children, according to birth order theory, tend to  be dependent and selfish—as they’re used to others providing for them. But  despite the negatives, they’re also quite often the life of the party—fun,  confident, and comfortable entertaining others.

And only children? Like last borns, they are regularly  spoiled, according to Adler, and have a hard time when they don’t get their own  way. School can be a particularly difficult transition, as they’re used to being  the center of the familial universe. But all that parental focus pays off. Only  children are often mature for their age. They wow people with their vocabularies  and their comfort in adult circles. Plus, all that self-entertaining fosters  creativity.

Adler’s theories have been debated for generations. Whether they’re  scientifically sound or not much more than hogwash, muse about them as you raise  your children. And regardless of when they were born, help each of your kids  recognize what makes them unique and resist the urge to compare them to their  siblings. That’s sure to make every member of your family thrive.


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