Daily Motivator for April 14th – Real richness

Real richness

You are rich beyond all measure. Yet the only wealth you experience is the wealth you accept and acknowledge and make purposeful use of.

If you feel you are impoverished it is not because you are impoverished. It is because you refuse to see and to participate in your great fortune.

The way the world defines wealth is trivial and inconsequential compared to the immense richness of your life. Wake up to this priceless moment and to the true and boundless value in which you are immersed.

There is no limit to the number of possibilities. There is no end to the beauty.

As big as the biggest problems may seem, they are nothing when compared to the positive possibilities. Those possibilities connect you to every good thing you could ever imagine.

Focus your awareness on what is good, on what is right, and on the great fortune that is your existence. Live the real richness that is now.

— Ralph Marston

The Daily Motivator

Daily OM for August 30: Pattern of Pain

Pattern of Pain
Withholding

Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and this causes pain to the people subjected to it.
The most common form of withholding is what we commonly call “the silent treatment,” but withholding encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It also includes an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

No one deserves to be subjected to withholding. Feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling. The first thing to remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space. Take some time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.

If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking. Give praise to someone you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become. What was learned over a course of a life cannot be changed overnight—remember, one day at a time.

Better Business: Fortune-teller’s Spell

Saint Agabus, the patron saint of fortune-tellers, was a compatriot of Saint Paul who correctly predicted Paul’s capture and imprisonment as well as his own death. Although this spell may be cast anytime, it is most effective on February 13th, the saint’s feast day, the anniversary of his death.

Light a purple of white candle. Place something that represents your mode of divination beside it (dice, cards, runes, etc.) and ask for Agabus’s blessings on your endeavors and for increased business.