Allowing Our Children to Be
by Madisyn Taylor
One of the hardest things to do as a parent is to allow our children to be who they want to be.
Parenting asks us to rise to some of the most difficult challenges this world has to offer, and one of its greatest paradoxes arises around the issue of attachment. On the one hand, successful parenting requires that we love our children, and most of us love in a very attached way. On the other hand, it also requires that we let go of our children at the appropriate times, which means we must practice some level of nonattachment. Many parents find this difficult because we love our children fiercely, more than we will ever love anyone, and this can cause us to overstep our bounds with them as their independence grows. Yet truly loving them requires that we set them free.
Attachment to outcome is perhaps the greatest obstacle on the parenting path, and the one that teaches us the most about the importance of practicing nonattachment. We commonly perceive our children to be extensions of ourselves, imagining that we know what’s best for them, but our children are people in their own right with their own paths to follow in this world. They may be called to move in directions we fear, don’t respect, or don’t understand, yet we must let them go. This letting go happens gradually throughout our lives with our children until we finally honor them as fully grown adults who no longer require our guidance. At this point, it is important that we treat them as peers who may or may not seek our input into their lives. This allows them, and us, to fully realize the greatest gift parents can offer their offspring —independence.
Letting go in any area of life requires a deep trust in the universe, in the overall meaning and purpose of existence. Remembering that there is more to us and our children than meets the eye can help us practice nonattachment, even when we feel overwhelmed by concern and the desire to interfere. We are all souls making our way in the world and making our way, ultimately, back to the same source. This can be our mantra as we let our children go in peace and confidence.
Wealth is All in
One’s Point of View
One day…a wealthy family man took his son on a trip to the country so he could have his son see how poor country people were….. They stayed one day and one night in the farm house of a very humble farm.
At the end of the trip and back home, the father asked the son: What did you think of the trip?
The son replied: Very nice Dad
Father: Did you notice how poor they were?
Father: What did you learn?
Son: I learned that we have one dog in the house…and they have four. I learned that we have a fountain in the garden and they have a stream that has no end. I learned that we have imported lamps in the garden; they have the stars. I learned that our garden goes to the edge of our property, they have the entire horizon as their back yard.
At the end of the son’s reply the father was speechless. His son added: “Thank you dad for showing me how poor we really are.”
Isn’t it true that all depends on the crystal you use to see life?
~ Author Unknown ~
Why Are Pharmacies Lying to Teenagers?
The war on women’s health has found itself another battleground — the neighborhood pharmacy.
According to a study in the journal Pediatrics, teen girls routinely receive inaccurate information about the legality of Plan B – the so-called “morning after pill,” which is available for anyone 17 and older to purchase over the counter. But that’s not what the researchers posing as 17-year-old girls were told.
Alarmingly, in nearly 1 out of 5 cases, the researcher-cum-teenager was told by a pharmacy worker that they could not purchase Plan B at all. When asked what the age requirement was, pharmacy workers got the answer wrong 43 percent of the time.
Lead author Dr. Tracey Wilkinson told MSNBC that this is particularly troubling because, “…I think if you told an adolescent once that she couldn’t get the medication, she probably wouldn’t call another pharmacy. It would be the end of her attempts.”
Half of the nearly 640,000 unplanned pregnancies among 15-to-19-year-olds in the U.S. could be prevented by emergency contraception.
Interestingly, when researchers posed as doctors that were calling about a 17-year-old purchasing Plan B, only 3 percent were inaccurately told they could not legally buy the drug. As the study points out, it’s fair to mention that doctors are more likely to speak with the pharmacists themselves, and patients were more likely to speak with technicians. But this can’t completely explain why there is such a huge difference between the answers the teens received and the answer the doctors received — some pharmacy workers’ moral objection to teenagers having unsafe sex is almost certainly at work here, too.
In an age when abstinence-only education rules health classes, where politicians blatantly lie about women’s health statistics on the Senate floor, it’s particularly troubling that teenaged girls are being told wrong information by pharmacy workers — professionals they’re supposed to trust.