Finding a Teacher, Mentor or Guide
When your comfort level with the concepts of the Pagan path have grown to the point where you are certain that this is the lifestyle you wish to follow, you will undoubtedly wish to share that fellowship and comradely with others of like mind and spirit. To avoid being drawn into a group where the intent is less than honorable, there are a couple of things that may assist you in avoiding contact with the nuts out there.
The first and most important thing is to listen to your Spirit Twin, Guide, Little Voice, Gut Feeling or whatever you choose to call it. Most of us have found that this inner voice is rarely wrong and you “WILL” know when something simply does not feel right. If you get that uneasy feeling about someone or a group, back or run away as quickly as possible.
When you initially make contact with someone, especially here on the internet, you have a great advantage in that you can limit your contact to relatively anonymous contact through e-mail. While this is not always fool proof, and there are some great deceivers out there. This does offer you some protection. Exchange mail withholding all personal information until you are absolutely certain there are no safety risks. If someone keeps pressuring you for personal information, break off all contact with them immediately. If they persist in bothering you after you politely tell them you no longer wish contact with them, contact your ISP and lodge a formal complaint giving this persons e-mail address and their host name. There are federal laws regarding electronic stalking and harassment, something of this nature would qualify for assistance from various federal agencies in getting that person to leave you alone.
Finally, Issac Bonewits developed a small questionnaire in 1979 (Advanced Bonewits Cult Danger Evaluation Frame) that you can use which will help your inner voice when determining if an individual or group poses above average risk.
The Advanced Bonewits Cult Danger Evaluation Frame
Factors: Low 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 High
1. INTERNAL CONTROL: Amount of internal political power exercised by leader(s) over members._____
2. WISDOM CLAIMED; by leader(s) amount of infallibility declared or implied about decisions or doctrinal/scriptural interpretations._____
3. WISDOM CREDITED to leader(s) by members; amount of trust in decisions or doctrinal/scriptural interpretations made by leader(s)._____
4. DOGMA: Rigidity of reality concepts taught; amount of doctrinal inflexibility or “fundamentalism.”_____
5. RECRUITING: Emphasis put on attracting new members; amount of proselytizing._____
6. FRONT GROUPS: Number of subsidiary groups using different names from that of main group._____
7. WEALTH: Amount of money and/or property desired or obtained by group; emphasis on members’ donations; economic lifestyle of leader(s) compared to ordinary members._____
8. POLITICAL POWER: Amount of external political influence desired or obtained; emphasis on directing members’ secular votes._____
9. SEXUAL MANIPULATION: of members by leader(s); amount of control exercised over sexuality of members; advancement dependent upon sexual favors or specific lifestyle._____
10. CENSORSHIP: Amount of control over members’ access to outside opinions on group, its doctrines or leader(s)._____
11. DROPOUT CONTROL: Intensity of efforts directed at preventing or returning dropouts._____
12. VIOLENCE: Amount of approval when used by or for the group, its doctrines or leader(s)._____
13. PARANOIA: Amount of fear concerning real or imagined enemies; perceived power of opponents; prevalence of conspiracy theories._____
14. GRIMNESS: Amount of disapproval concerning jokes about the group, its doctrines or its leader(s)._____
15. SURRENDER OF WILL: Amount of emphasis on members not having to be responsible for personal decisions; degree of individual dis empowerment created by the group, its doctrines or its leader(s)._____
16. HYPOCRISY: Amount of approval for other actions (not included above) which the group officially considers immoral or unethical, when done by or for the group, its doctrines or leader(s); willingness to violate group’s declared principles for political, psychological, economic, or other gain._____
Low 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 High
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