Conflict can be interesting and enticing, but is not particularly useful. Rather than giving in to the drama of conflict, choose to be genuinely helpful and cheerful, and make yourself much more effective.
Sure, you can get attention by being negative. But you can get much more done by taking a positive approach.
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, offer some workable options for setting things right. When you feel like giving criticism, find a way to give it in the form of encouragement.
You don’t have to be nice just to be nice. Be nice, helpful, positive, upbeat and encouraging because that’s how you, and everyone else, will make the most progress.
You’ll never be able to get back the time and energy you waste on conflict. Yet when you invest your time and energy in being a positive influence, the rewards for doing so will expand exponentially as time goes on.
Your most effective, productive, profitable, compassionate and intelligent choice is to be positive in your interactions with others. It’s a choice that lifts the lives of everyone involved.
— Ralph Marston